Do you like being the cynosure of attention?

I like to be around people but not one to corner the attention to myself - siva

I feel a bit uneasy and, like you, not seek the attention - siva

@Shiva49 Exactly! But I don't want any honor or glory.

That fits me too; when the task falls into my lap I rise to the occasion - siva

@Shiva49 That's so very true.

Celebrities don't have it easy at all. And then "the fall from grace" is even tougher - from a celebrity to nobody, a has-been! siva

@Shiva49 I love what you said, especially in your last sentence!

Yes, one cannot remain in the background with such a background! I know you enjoy being the livewire in parties. My presence is felt but my absence is not! siva

@DianneN Thanks, I think that applies to my presence/absence in myLot too! siva

@Shiva49 I think in that situation it also depends who you are with and if they know you, and how they expect you to act. I myself know that I act much differently now that I am married than I did before. Before, I was never worried about what others thought of me, or if I made a fool of myself. I just did my own thing. Now, after I was married, I am more circumspect, because I realise it is not just me they think is a fool. They might think that about my wife too, being a fool to marry such a fool. And so I do not want my wife to feel like this, ashamed of others calling me a fool, so I play more by the normalised rules of society now. Beforehand, I realised that if we get up on a stage, we can jump into another self inside of us, and be someone else for a few minutes entirely. When I gave a speech at my brother's wedding, as the best man, my father mentioned to me, that he didn't know I had such a powerful tenor voice in me, that everyone could hear even without a microphone, and that I was such a natural born comedian too!! (And my father was always a very hard man to please. This was the first time that he had ever praised anything that I had ever done) I had stepped up into another side of myself, and the puns just rolled off of my tongue like butter. (This was long before I married) I still remember one Freudian slip I made about their coming honeymoon, something about it will be a hot night now that they are happily welded together. I had meant wedded, but welded just came out, and it got a real laugh....at the time.

@innertalks Yes Steve, circumstances change and we have to adapt too. Expectations are higher when we marry and when we have children. It is not easy to please wives in particular! Initially, my son thought I was the repository of wisdom but soon realized I was just run of the mill! Once I was tasked to talk about a topic I was not well versed in. I told them though I was a chartered accountant, I was working in an industry and not a practising one. I was not then well versed on the latest tax issues that did not concern me on a day-to-day basis. But they insisted I could do it - however, reality could not be wished away and I fumbled to answer some penetrating questions. That makes me recall a saying credited to either Abraham Lincoln or Mark Twain: "Better to Remain Silent and Be Thought a Fool than to Speak and Remove All Doubt". The Bard's words ring true for me: "All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances," It is wise for us to play our own part than lip sync another without soul connection - siva

Yes, we have individual talents. I like the analogy - others cannot know who we really are from our physical appearance. I read somewhere one cannot make an impression on President Trump if the person is short! If we look down on someone we are indirectly disparaging god's creation. I am not an actor and feel quite uncomfortable in front of a large audience. As I had mentioned about it earlier when I was visiting Movie World in Gold Coast, Australia I was selected from hundreds to play out a part to my horror. To add to my woes I couldn't comprehend in detail what I was supposed to say. And the promptings I got in an Aussie accent made it tougher! siva

Agreed, when we have special talents we should do justice to them. The attention we get then goes with the territory - siva

Good that it went very well and you can look back to it with satisfaction. Good preparation is the key to success - siva

That is a positive take; why baulk when we are presented with an opportunity? siva

That is more of basic decency and courtesy than seeking attention. I go out of the way in greeting people I know especially those I have not met for a while - siva