Strong women - Shame and Scandal!

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@Kandae11 (38762)
April 27, 2018 6:01pm CST
It has been happening for decades - celebrities , powerful men making headlines around the world when their uncontrolled sexual behavior is exposed. Every time another scandal hits the news , I think of the wives of these men - how do they hold up? I truly admire their mental strength Would you be able to do it? - to hold your head high and smile for the press when every sordid detail of his exploits is all over the news - day after day. Marriage for better or worse - would I be able to stand by him throughout all the shame and scandal? I don't know - would you?
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@DianneN (79947)
• United States
28 Apr
No way would I stay.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
Even though he may be famous?
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@DianneN (79947)
• United States
28 Apr
@Kandae11 Of course! Fame makes no difference to me. Once a cheater always a cheater. My husband is pretty well known here, and I'd cripple him before I threw him out.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
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@much2say (39824)
• United States
28 Apr
I am glad my life isn't scrutinized under a microscope by the public eye like that - it would drive me batty. Along with the good, you also have to hear the bad - and although it's quite possible that not all of it is true, you may still hear it and then some. I don't know that I could just smile, be supportive and act like everything is ok - because it's not.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
I find it difficult to hide my feelings.
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@much2say (39824)
• United States
28 Apr
@Kandae11 Hiding it would be denial . . . it's too stressful!
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@ridingbet (56020)
• Philippines
28 Apr
i am never that kind of a woman. i can give up a relationship that easy if trust and honesty are broken.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
It would be hard to give up position and wealth too.
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@ridingbet (56020)
• Philippines
30 Apr
@Kandae11 hahaha! right on that. super agree to the maximum level.
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@andriaperry (53609)
• United States
28 Apr
Nope, I would be out of there. I`m not a cheat and I won`t deal with one.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
Even if he is a very important person ?.
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@LadyDuck (164154)
• Switzerland
28 Apr
Marriage for better or worse, but we also swear to be faithful. I would divorce immediately.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
Some would feel that standing by the disgraced person would prove that wife to be a good wife.
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@LadyDuck (164154)
• Switzerland
28 Apr
@Kandae11 It is not my opinion, I think that standing by those men is like trying to show they did nothing wrong.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
@LadyDuck That is quite true. I tend to agree with that view.
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• Eugene, Oregon
27 Apr
I really wonder just how many of those marriages will be able to recover.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
If it happens to an ordinary person like myself - only I, the person he is cheating with and a few other acquaintances might know, but I would hate having all my private business aired worldwide for everyone to dissect. The price of fame, I suppose.
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• Eugene, Oregon
28 Apr
@Kandae11 I recall an awful old country song, "Stand by Your Man."
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
@JamesHxstatic Yes indeed - it was a very popular song.
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@caopaopao (11293)
• China
28 Apr
Yes these women are really strong. I always think it is not a good idea to be the partner of celebrity.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
I feel the same as you do.
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@caopaopao (11293)
• China
28 Apr
@Kandae11 Have a nice weekend.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
@caopaopao You too.
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@epiffanie (10412)
• Australia
28 Apr
I was thinking of the wives of these men too .. There is no way I would stand by the man ..
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
Imagine too , the children - and in some cases - grandchildren of these disgraced men - how embarrassing for the innocent.
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@epiffanie (10412)
• Australia
1 May
@Kandae11 oh yes.. I feel sorry for the entire family..
@YrNemo (13412)
28 Apr
No comment! (isn't that the standard reply when one wanted to hide from the press?)
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
Or is it best to say something rather than have the public speculate wildly? But really - if the facts are there - just what can one really say.
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@YrNemo (13412)
29 Apr
@Kandae11 I myself, will copy DianneN's way.
@rakski (18762)
• Philippines
28 Apr
It is a good thing I marry an ordinary man Would not want to know how could I cope up
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
With ordinary people even the wife may be unaware that her husband is cheating.
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@rakski (18762)
• Philippines
28 Apr
@Kandae11 That is true. But the scandal in very prominent person is three times more than ordinary people. Much pressure is upon them all around. For like us, we need to check and balance. I think the wife will somehow know if his husband is cheating on her
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@Starmaiden (6686)
• Canada
28 Apr
Everyone is different. I would leave, no questions asked. It would be painful if the love was strong for this person, but I would not stick around long enough to subject myself to more of it.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
Famous persons are most likely to stay in the marriage and pretend everything is okay.
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• Canada
28 Apr
@Kandae11 Of course. Saving face over saving grace. They are digging their own grave.
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@jaboUK (54517)
• United Kingdom
28 Apr
Not me, I'd boot him out no matter how rich and famous he is.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
He might ask for forgiveness then its back to his old tricks.
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@allknowing (66751)
• India
28 Apr
There will be nothing left to be held on to.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
Nothing indeed.
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@Madshadi (8932)
• Brussels, Belgium
28 Apr
I don't know how these people live with themselves after that
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
Especially when one is a public figure, one's behavior is always up for public scrutiny.
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@JohnRoberts (60316)
• Los Angeles, California
28 Apr
The question is were the wives totally ignorant of their husbands' activities and as long as discretion was observed, went along for the position and lifestyle. Dolores Hope was married to Bob Hope for like 70 years and knew he was a serial philanderer and put up with it in exchange for social position.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
That is indeed food for thought - money and social position would make some turn a blind eye, until the cheater is exposed. And even then - some will 'stand by' that husband.
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@marguicha (97535)
• Chile
28 Apr
By no means. I don´t accept different rules for men and for women
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
There shouldn't be different rules - but society is the judge. If the wife is the one behaving scandalously, she would be treated much worse than if it is the other way around.
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@marguicha (97535)
• Chile
28 Apr
@Kandae11 True. That´s why I think that both spouses have to behave well.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
@marguicha Indeed they should- It is an awful shame for everyone involved - including children.
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• Eldoret, Kenya
28 Apr
difficult question but i feel for them. It must be agonizing.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
I am sure it is.
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@nela13 (7498)
• Portugal
28 Apr
I know myself and I wouldn't stay.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
When trust is broken - everything else is.
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@nela13 (7498)
• Portugal
28 Apr
@Kandae11 It is impossible to keep a relationship if we don't trust the other.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
@nela13 You are perfectly right.
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@just4him (120582)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Apr
They guy would be history. Past history.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
Public disgrace is not a nice thing.
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@just4him (120582)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Apr
@Kandae11 It never is.
@aninditasen (1736)
• Raurkela, India
28 Apr
I am not a celebrity, but I have a husband who would not go into such scandals.
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@Kandae11 (38762)
28 Apr
It is wonderful to have someone you can trust.
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• Raurkela, India
29 Apr
@Kandae11 Yes, that's it. Relationships keep firm when there is trust.