Dont Know What To Do.

I can understand it is so sad...it is not easy for a 70 year lod lady to take care of person who is having physical challenges and going dialysis 3 times a week! from tyhe discussion one thing is very clear he misses you terribly and he loves you and your companionship! Just making him understand in a cool way that there can't be a better place for him than where he is now, can make a difference! Please for Heaven's sake please do answer him and talk with him when he calls...try to understand he requires you...your talking will make him happy! I sincerely pray the almighty to bless the best of what he can for both of you dear @popciclecold!

Oh wow. That's quite a burden to bear. I don't know what to say, but I'll say a prayer for you two.

Can't the social worker and a physician make him understand?

Ah. Unfortunate that sounds about right. My dad, and my friend's dad are that way. They have both had major health issues and they have both insisted to go home as soon as possible so that family can look after them. It's a huge strain on family but they don't seem to know that or to care.

I'm so sorry. Sometimes its not a matter about being in the best place for health care but being with people who matter most. Thoughts and prayers healing comes to both you and your husband.

That is very difficult to have to watch a loved one go through. Maybe change your phone number and give it only to the staff so they can contact you of his condition. This way you can call him at your own leisure.

I went through that with my father. It is not easy to deal with it.

This is a hard situation for both of you. Being in a nursing home is surely not funny and I understand he would like to come back home, but you cannot take care of him.

I'm sorry you are in that situation, it must be difficult for you both. He must surely see that he is being unreasonable to expect you to look after him, he needs specialised care.

I'm so sorry that you are in this situation. I know that it must be a nightmare at times.

I am sorry to hear that he wants to go home but cannot because it is better for both of you that he atays at nursing home

I'm so sorry to hear that you have so much to deal with. I'm sure your husband misses being home but it sounds like he's getting the care he needs where he is. I know I wouldn't be able to care for someone with his disabilities

He must be feeling lonely in the nursing home. Maybe you should answer his call. I am sure he terribly misses you.

Oh, I am so sorry to hear of your difficult situation. My prayers that both of you to find some peace and strength through your husband's hardship.

My husband was 42 and had Lou Gehrig's disease. He asked to go to a nursing home, but almost immediately wanted to come back home. I could not do it. I spent most of every day with him there, but could not handle the equipment necessary to care for him at home. It is hard. That was twenty years ago. I do not want to do that again.

if you have grown kids, i would have them help decide. if you live alone, perhaps you could go in there with him. he may just miss you or be lonely. or one of the kids could come help if he comes home. get a wheel chair so he can use his arms to roll around etc.

That's so hard on you. Is your health good? I will be 68 this year but I am well at the moment.

It is indeed a tough situation to be in. My health is not that good either. I see most my age, I will be seventy in two years, worry about our future. Medical costs are shooting up and we have to pick and choose what treatment we can afford. My mother is ninety and she has needed constant care for five years now - siva

Oh dear. It is a very difficult situation there. Sad isn't it, that when we age, all sort of things happens to our body in a bad way.