Stupid People Drive Me Nuts. Why Can't Stupid People Realize That They Are Stupid?
By Honey143
@sw8sincere (5204)
Philippines
June 4, 2018 11:44pm CST
So I had this friend of mine who text me or message me only when she is having a problem.
You know sometimes it kinda annoys me thinking she only remembers me during those down times of her life. Well, this girl is a childhood friend of mine so I surely know how she is as a person and also certainly knows every little details about her. Well, she literally has this slow pick up attitude. I mean she doesn't easily absorbed all the things you tell her and would respond so oddly telling other topics instead of answering that certain topic you've just shared. Very funny isn't it? Still I let that pass even I am already annoyed and irritated because of how slow she was. 
She keeps messaging about losing her job, about having no money to spend for the day and etc. I've been such a good friend that all I did was to listen to her and even lend her a help in terms to money as long as I could.
Until one day, she message me telling me that she has already applied for a job to which I do not really know what kind of job it is since I never bother to ask. She's been asking me about what to add up on her skills with the question on her application sheet that goes "What computer skills do you have?" so she asked me like, "Hey lady, can you tell me more about what else to add on my skills aside from knowing MsWord and MsExcel?" Jeez! 
So I was completely shocked and also irritated upon reading the whole message coming from her. So I bluntly responded her like this " You know for sure I can't help you with that. How am I going to help you when the question itself asks more about you and your skills? Do you really get the point? They were asking about your skills and not mine. Let's say I will answer your question and let you add skills like photo editing or programming, do you think you can do that? Come on girl. At least be wise enough to ask me questions."
She then started to get really mad and call me being sarcastic. How can I be sarcastic when I am only telling her the truth? Like hello?? are you okay?
"If You Don't Want A Sarcastic Answer Then Don't Ask Me a Stupid Question!"
- - I know I should've said this to her face. Good thing I was still able to hold my temper. 
She keeps messaging about losing her job, about having no money to spend for the day and etc. I've been such a good friend that all I did was to listen to her and even lend her a help in terms to money as long as I could.
Until one day, she message me telling me that she has already applied for a job to which I do not really know what kind of job it is since I never bother to ask. She's been asking me about what to add up on her skills with the question on her application sheet that goes "What computer skills do you have?" so she asked me like, "Hey lady, can you tell me more about what else to add on my skills aside from knowing MsWord and MsExcel?" Jeez! So I was completely shocked and also irritated upon reading the whole message coming from her. So I bluntly responded her like this " You know for sure I can't help you with that. How am I going to help you when the question itself asks more about you and your skills? Do you really get the point? They were asking about your skills and not mine. Let's say I will answer your question and let you add skills like photo editing or programming, do you think you can do that? Come on girl. At least be wise enough to ask me questions."
She then started to get really mad and call me being sarcastic. How can I be sarcastic when I am only telling her the truth? Like hello?? are you okay?
"If You Don't Want A Sarcastic Answer Then Don't Ask Me a Stupid Question!"
- - I know I should've said this to her face. Good thing I was still able to hold my temper. 27 people like this
34 responses
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
5 Jun 18
Hi Honey. They are too stupid to realize that, that even sarcasm does not work on them. Hit them with the truth and they will not talk to you and hit you with their stupidity.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
Hi Louise. She actually end up our friendship just because of that and blocked me on facebook right after the exchange conversations. Look how stupid she is to do that just because of that petty little thing. 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
5 Jun 18
@sw8sincere You were just being honest and friends say the truth. If that is what she wants, then let her be. In time, she will realize. 
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 So true.. as it says "better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie" 
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
i would not like to address or call somebody stupid, for that matter. i do not also want to be called as such.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
that's why i never really say that to her face my friend. But at least am waiting for her to realize that her questions were stupid but she pretended as if I was the one who's wrong here.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
@sw8sincere that is sometimes the perception of those who are dependent on others. she wanted to appear so knowledgeable about those skills and you answering her what she does is up to her, is an indication that she needs you seriously.your words may be encouragement for her, but she should stick to her own principles.
that is so childish of her to block you on Facebook.
if she unblocks and needs you back as her friend, will you accept her again?
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
@ridingbet I agree with you my friend. She thinks highly of herself that is why she doesn't want to be told what is right or wrong. I am quite affected because of what she did. We've been friends for long and she just suddenly decide to cut our friendship and even block me on facebook just because of that. She was pathetic. Poor her i don't think there is still one person out there who will be able to stick and understand her attitude.
As for accepting her friend request in facebook or in person, I don't think I will accept it. She decided to unfriend me so there's no reason for me to accept her friend request. She deserves a lesson.
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
There are friends who expect you to do things for them and being the good friends that we are, we spoil them a bit. But sometimes they just have to do things on their own and not always be dependent. You just have taught your friend a lesson and she took it hard. I hope you both will be able to patch things up.
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
@sw8sincere It's her loss then if she won't reconcile with you. :)
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
i don't think she will still reconcile with me. She has the pride and she won't swallow it for sure thinking that she was the right one on this situation and it was me who is wrong.
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@LeaPea2417 (36451)
• Toccoa, Georgia
5 Jun 18
You told her the truth, if she can't handle that, it is her problem.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
That's exactly what should be done. Thanks my friend.
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@YrNemo (20261)
•
10 Jun 18
@sw8sincere I was chosen by an acquaintance to be in that role: she called me non-stop for some chats, confidential consults, advice, etc despite my excuses of being busy. It was a hard time.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
10 Jun 18
What do you mean who did that to you? Were you referring to the one who seems to be slow? 
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
5 Jun 18
There could be a reason she is slow to understand things. I know I have a hard time grasping things that others are trying to tell me at times. I think maybe your friend was looking for you to tell her things she is good at that she isn't aware of. I would be nervous myself filling out an application so I would have to ask my boyfriend for advice.
@shaggin (71666)
• United States
11 Jun 18
@sw8sincere yeah she doesn’t sound like she makes very smart choices at all. Being blocked can be so irritating too!
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
11 Jun 18
I agree with your opinion my friend. . but this girl is a prick. This does not happen sometimes this happens all the time when she has a problem. She runs to me only when she wants something to get help with and she can't even decide for herself. I keep giving her good advises yet it turns out that her deeds were contradictions to what I advise her. She would go on a drinking session with friends and would text me the following day that she still has a fever for 5 days consecutive asking me what she should do about it. Well, if she has this what we called "brain" she would at least know that getting drunk is not a solution to cure herself or she should at least know when is the best time for her to see a physician. Also, it really turns me off when she block me right after the exchange conversations.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
5 Jun 18
We can all have someone similar in our lives too.
She has not thought about her question that she made you.
She must have realized what the answer would be that its only herself that can do that and not you.
There will be a time when she has to stand on her own two feet in the question of getting a job.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
11 Jun 18
@sw8sincere
She probably will and probably can stand on her own two feet but is a bit afraid to do so and its only normal sometimes.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
11 Jun 18
I agree with you my friend. I hope she will be able to learn how to be independent and stand for herself.
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@Jlyn10 (11966)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 18
@sw8sincere Yeah, it does that to everyone but you can beat that with self-control. You don't have to let it spoil your mood or even the rest of your day. 
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
26 Jul 18
Thanks my friend. Yes, I know I have to calm myself but I don't know why obvious stupidity really irritates me.
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@teresatrotter (4073)
• Jacksonville, Florida
6 Jun 18
For the same reason that deceived people don't know they're deceived. If they knew, then they would not be deceived anymore. So... If people knew the questions they asked were stupid, then they would never ask them. I guess to them, the questions they ask, are important.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
7 Jun 18
I agree with your point of view my friend.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
10 Jun 18
She sounds either perhaps well meaning but immature, or like a user. I have known people like that too. It's annoying for sure!
I have known people like that. If they are well meaning but simply not thinking, a simple blunt reply gets them to think more before proceeding.
Others that are that way I have weeded out from among my friends.
@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
16 Jun 18
@sw8sincere I agree. Time and energy are limited, too limited to spend on those that don't appreciate you or aren't truly friends
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
11 Jun 18
It is always good to weed out friends who doesn't appreciate your help or doesn't value you as a friend. Indeed, I realized she just use me in times of her needs. So I guess, I made the right decision to be blunt with my answers. There is nothing wrong with it anyway I am just being honest with my words. It is her problem since she felt guilty with it that's why she blocked me out of her life just because of that petty thing. . small minded people are really hard to understand.
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@saritflor (3914)
• Hungary
11 Jun 18
They say never have a conversation with a stupid because he will being you the same level as him, lol.
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@ihasaquestion (8274)
•
18 Jul 18
Looks like you guys weren't even friends to begin with. I understand your frustration, but we will always be surrounded by "stupid" people all our lives. Just take the high road, friend. Don't let 1 stupid person make you hurl stupid abuses. It's really not worth it.
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
18 Jul 18
i know my friend.. she doesn't even worth it to be called a friend from what she has done to me. Thanks for the comment.
@ihasaquestion (8274)
•
18 Jul 18
@sw8sincere Maybe she thinks you are too fussy too. Who knows. You're better off without a fiend like that.
@snowy22315 (170025)
• United States
29 Jun 18
I have a good friend like that. I mean let's face it we all have areas in our life where we are "stupid" but it is no fun to have to constantly explain things to somebody.
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
30 Jun 18
Yes. Constantly witnessing their stupidity can sometimes be annoying already.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Jun 18
I can feel you because I would certainly tell her the same things you have told her. Why would she ask a question that only her can answer because it's her who knows her skills.
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
Certainly my friend. This kind of stupidity irritates me.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
that's a good act my friend. thank you for your opinion. =)
@jstory07 (134477)
• Roseburg, Oregon
23 Jun 18
Stupid people are to stupid to know that they are stupid.
@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
13 Jul 18
It seems some don't want help. They just want to keep the drama going.
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
14 Jul 18
i so agree with you my friend. i have realized that the more you help them the more they get obstinate.
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@Metsrock69 (3492)
• United States
28 Jun 18
it is always good to be honest especially with a life long friend
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
29 Jun 18
i agree with you my friend.. honesty is important within friendship.
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