Let It Go
By Darcy Nemo
@YrNemo (20261)
July 8, 2018 12:01am CST
I have a "difficult to understand" niece who is at college age. Since she was a little girl, whenever she made new friends, she would stick by these so called new friends of hers through thick and thin, extremely loyal to them, to the extent of being stupid at times.
After a year or so, she would drop them and move on. Just like that!
My sister (her mother) told me last year about her latest friend, a quiet and gentle boy. The niece seemed to be a bit protective towards him, who just recovered from some sort of cancer.
Met that niece a few days ago in a family gathering, she calmly told me, 'He didn't seem to be a loyal friend to me so far, more of a fair-weather type, so I am going to distance myself from him!'
She cheerfully told me that that boy's former crush (who is in her friend group and who used to be her bestest friend of the year two years ago 
) has been looking around for a new bodyguard, so perhaps those two would eventually gravitate towards each other with her blessings.
Are you that passionate about making friends and letting them go? I am the placid type (re: keeping good friends 
). My friends know where I am, and they know I will always be there for them in time of needs. (Have to let you know, many uni friends of mine passed the courses from copying my notes and assignments 
. Decades have passed, but they still chuckle about this.)
) has been looking around for a new bodyguard, so perhaps those two would eventually gravitate towards each other with her blessings.
Are you that passionate about making friends and letting them go? I am the placid type (re: keeping good friends ). My friends know where I am, and they know I will always be there for them in time of needs. (Have to let you know, many uni friends of mine passed the courses from copying my notes and assignments . Decades have passed, but they still chuckle about this.)25 people like this
29 responses
@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
8 Jul 18
No..for me if I make friends they are forever
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
8 Jul 18
I have many acquaintances but no true, close friends and I am happy with that. I am a loner and cannot be in the company of others for extended periods of time. People know they can call me when/if they need to talk and I know that I will not be refused either. I have a friend who was my best friend since elementary school and I rarely ever see or talk to her. I may visit her once in a blue moon but she always knows I am there for her if she needs me. I'm one of those "Call me and I'll be there" kind of people, but don't expect it from me every day. 
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@marguicha (215492)
• Chile
8 Jul 18
I have wonderful friends. We are for each other when we have problems.
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@just4him (306386)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Jul 18
I have a couple very good friends. One has been my friend for over 40 years. We don't live close anymore, and that's sad. We were once neighbors and would do anything for each other. The other friend, I met when I joined Writer's Guild, and in the past couple years has become another best friend. We've helped each other too.
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@much2say (53958)
• Los Angeles, California
8 Jul 18
I guess these days I meet folks and have no expectations thereafter. If we become friends - good . . . and if we become good friends - great. There are a few who I have been friends with for years. I've had my share of having to let go of certain friendships in the past - but I don't have the time or energy to go through that kind of stress anymore.
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@much2say (53958)
• Los Angeles, California
9 Jul 18
@YrNemo I can totally understand that. FB is just another world . . . I can appreciate it for what it is, but I don't like playing that game anymore . . . I still go but don't participate as much as I used to. For real life, my "real" friends are the ones I get to see in person . . . yes, we have history, and we continue it as the good ones we don't ever want to let go!
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@YrNemo (20261)
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8 Jul 18
I have lots of friends here as a matter of fact If my real life friends knew that I come here more often than to FB and that I have been avoiding the game: who has more, who is more successful, who just spent heaps of money to travel here there... they would be very upset with me. (They are from my childhood time , One can't really run away from the past!)
If my real life friends knew that I come here more often than to FB and that I have been avoiding the game: who has more, who is more successful, who just spent heaps of money to travel here there... they would be very upset with me. (They are from my childhood time , One can't really run away from the past!)1 person likes this
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
9 Jul 18
I have had friends over the years who are no longer friends for a variety of reasons but it is not normal for me, most of my friends are for life.
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@Letranknight2015 (51532)
• Philippines
9 Jul 18
I haven't talk to my friends for a long time, maybe they didn't consider me as a friend.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
8 Jul 18
I guess its just one's personality. She is young and I guess still trying to find out who she is. I am sure she may change in time. That being said, I didn't have a lot of friends growing up but the one or two I had remained friends until l we lost contact, As an adult, I find it more difficult to stay friends with people once I discover traits I don't like even though we may have been friends for awhile.
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traits.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
8 Jul 18
hmmm, i like to have friends and keep them with me. i am a loyal friend and i expect my friends to be loyal to me too.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
9 Jul 18
@YrNemo right on that. Scorpios are noted to be faithful and trusting, and trustworthy people. i am like that.
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@Hannihar (129481)
• Israel
8 Jul 18
@YrNemo
I do not have a lot of friends in real life. I have friends here and on facebook but a few close friends that have family here so we do not see a lot of each other. We keep in touch if we cannot see each other on facebook or e-mail. I sat one day and looked at the people around me and thought the 3 people I like most are very very nice sweet people. One I do not see but sometimes talk to her. I have a friend that I do not see and she i think is still in the States visiting her children. I have some friends that are acquaintances too. One gives me books to read. One we see each other when I am around where she works and I have sold in the same place and another that works there too. I have gone through many stages in my life with friends here in Israel and i am at the stage where I believe I have the right friends now. I am sure people do keep friends for a certain time and then when they find fault in them they say goodbye and move on. I do not have friends from my past because I do not go back to the States and only if they came here would I see them. People are who they are you can say.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
8 Jul 18
I have some very good friends and we have stuck through the ages.
Just yesterday night while coming back from dinner from my brother's house, I rang up a friend in the same neighbourhood, it was late at night but she and hubby came out and we chatted for a few minutes before coming away.
No formality but wanted to see her,... so easy going friendship out there
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@GardenGerty (157563)
• United States
8 Jul 18
Usually I am fiercely loyal. I do not randomly collect new friends and I certainly do not let them go easily.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Jul 18
i have always been passionate about making friends. in fact i had my cousin insist i move in with him rent free years ago because he was shy type and was moving to a new state where he knew i would get him acquainted
with people. problem being is he is not such a great friend cause after i did for 3 months he no longer needed me and told me i should move out!? but the joke was on him soon our friends were still mine and not his.
soon our friends were still mine and not his.1 person likes this
@allknowing (130064)
• India
9 Jul 18
Your niece does seems to get bored pretty fast. Friends are for keeps. I will be very careful before adding them but once I have accepted them they will be there forever.
So you were good in studies. Nice to hear that.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
8 Jul 18
I have friends that are long time friends.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
8 Jul 18
I like to have friends.. I have many friends and I keep them ..
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