A Funny Couple

@YrNemo (20261)
August 3, 2018 7:34am CST
For three years now, I have often observed that couple (in their late 70s or early 80s) and wondered what they often grumbled about. She was always the one who led, he followed. Politeness didn't allow me to follow them around to find out, so I kept wishing for a chance to satisfy my curiosity. I suddenly got my wish. I found myself waiting for the same bus as them almost every morning for the last week or so. He, big & tall, gentle (almost 6'), slightly bald & walked with a limp, must have been a handsome blond giant in his youth. She, short hair, a brunette, was only about 5', average size (that is, not fat, not slim, just a solid & round lump. She seemed to be constantly lamenting about something in her husky voice. Her vocal chord seemed to have been damaged perhaps from too much of smoking in the past. This is a sample of their morning conversations from what I found out so far, She (grumbling in her gruff voice): Where are you going this afternoon? Are you going to say goodbye to me, is that why you are here? Oh the bus is late again. Do you think he is going to do it? Oh, I am sure of it, the bus is late. It should be here by now, Oh dear... He (in his gentle voice): It will come, don't fret. Yes, I am going to wait until you get onto the train. I will just see the boys this afternoon. The couple made me think of an agitated child with her loving father, or like hot fire next to a gentle flowing river. On the bus, they often sat side by side to each other. The lady would often keep standing up, sitting down, squinting into the distance, anxious that she would miss the stop. The funny thing is, (from what I guess), the couple must have taken this same route hundreds or thousands of times before, and it was only 3 stops away from where they waited and caught the bus every morning with me (it is a straight road, perhaps half a mile away). While the lady did that, the gentleman would gently smile, 'it is OK, we are not there yet!' I tried to imagine them when they first met each other many years ago and couldn't stop smiling. They must have been the same, she petite & agitated, he giant yet soothing and protective... They must have been a very cute couple. As it is, they are still a very loving couple, grumbling contentedly but loving regardless. Do you often see loving couples like that in your neighborhood?
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@AmbiePam (85742)
• United States
3 Aug 18
She sounds like she has dementia. That behavior is exactly what my mother did when she was diagnosed. He must be such a sweetheart.
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@AmbiePam (85742)
• United States
7 Aug 18
@YrNemo Probably not, but you never know. Perhaps he had someone with her and he wanted to get away for a bit. My dad would take any chance he had to get away to save his own sanity. If he got two hours he would pull into the parking lot in McDonald's and take a nap. On occasion he would have a friend drop by, and it would give him time for a 15 minute walk.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
7 Aug 18
@YrNemo I think that @AmbiePam is right on the money. It does sound as if she is suffering from dementia. They do sound cute and he is a sweetheart for being so kind to her.
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Aug 18
I saw him sometimes, sitting alone outside the train station - perhaps waiting for the bus to get home. The odd thing is, it was very early in the morning. At that age, he couldn't have worked night shift could he???
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• Philippines
4 Aug 18
I hope they are okay with each other and people don't annoy them.
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@YrNemo (20261)
4 Aug 18
I have a feeling they live in their own world somehow.
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@GardenGerty (157721)
• United States
3 Aug 18
It almost sounds like she has the onset of dementia. I only see people taking a walk up the hill in front of my house. Sometimes women with strollers, other times people with ear buds in. I am at the top of a hill that represents good cardio training to some.
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@YrNemo (20261)
3 Aug 18
That made me think of walking home (climbing up several hills) after my weekly grocery shopping a couple of years ago (I didn't have a car at the time). It was about 100 degrees F and I huffed and I puffed badly.
@allknowing (130231)
• India
3 Aug 18
I wonder if they are aware that they are being watched (lol)
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Aug 18
They seem to live in their own world, quite fascinating (or she wouldn't have grumbled non-stop, and he wouldn't have continued to indulge her, just my guess).
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
8 Aug 18
So sweet, it is good they are still there for each other. No, we don't have many couples like that in my neighbourhood.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
8 Aug 18
@YrNemo , yes, we're not an easily described nation. It has been and is a tough year. How have you been?
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@YrNemo (20261)
8 Aug 18
@bluesa shockingly busy to the degree that I am so surprised. But beggars can't be choosers (yet!).
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@YrNemo (20261)
8 Aug 18
The more South Africans I met here, the more I realize they are so different to each other... (How have you been by the way?)
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
4 Aug 18
our neighbors are 4 couples but they do not talk affectionately.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
8 Aug 18
@YrNemo they just talk " a-matter-of-fact" only.
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@YrNemo (20261)
8 Aug 18
@ridingbet (like all other couples who have been with each other for too long???)
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Aug 18
violently then (or indifferently ).
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@vandana7 (99013)
• India
11 Aug 18
Many have major differences as they age. They adjust when young because of monetary considerations, and here monetary considerations are huge. But as they reach late sixties, they get out of their shells, and start asserting their "I", and it is not very nice thing to notice. Usually, it is men who given in to what their wives want or say or do. One of the family friend is very strict. He seems to constantly belittle his wife. But when his wife was operated upon, he stayed with her continuously, even cooked for her...all the while remaining himself...snubbing her and all that. lol. I guess she has got accustomed to him.
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@YrNemo (20261)
11 Aug 18
Better the devil you know I guess .
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
16 Aug 18
*grinning at you* No, I have never seen a couple who sound/act like that, Darcy... I am sure you've been entertained well while you were waiting/riding on the same bus with them. I think it would be interesting to know if they are husband and wife or father and daughter... (They do sound a bit like my daughter and I on occasion. ) For years people who didn't know Pretty was my daughter kept asking us when we were getting married or when we were planning on having kids. Pretty always thought that was the funniest things she'd ever heard and I was always so embarrassed! She'd laugh and I'd quietly explain that we are father and daughter. (Most of them would tell us that I didn't look old enough to have a daughter her age and she didn't look young enough to be my daughter. Thankfully, people don't make that mistake anymore!)
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@YrNemo (20261)
16 Aug 18
I have seen mother and son - or - father and daughter with each other, and it is very confusing, one can't really tell really. Once, I saw a beautiful set of potentially father & daughter, but they turned out to be a loving couple (he was in his late 40s, she just passed 20s).. THIS couple, they are both in their 80s I think.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
16 Aug 18
@YrNemo Yeah, now I doubt anyone would mistake my daughter and I as a couple although it could still happen. Others might think I had robbed a cradle or she had robbed the nursing home. (I've met a couple I mistook for father and daughter only to realize later that she was a gold-digger waiting for him to slip on a banana peel and slide on into his grave! I've always thought that was a bit stomach turning, myself!)
@wolfgirl569 (95959)
• Marion, Ohio
3 Aug 18
I dont see any out here like you describe. They sound cute.
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@wolfgirl569 (95959)
• Marion, Ohio
3 Aug 18
@YrNemo My parents did bicker constantly. But that was how their relationship was. They loved each other very much
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@YrNemo (20261)
3 Aug 18
At first I thought she was bickering and he her victim. Now I know better.
@YrNemo (20261)
3 Aug 18
@wolfgirl569 I read about cases like that. Good bonding between couples comes in many different expressions I guess.
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@DianneN (247219)
• United States
5 Aug 18
Awww, that's sweet they are still together. Perhaps she has a touch of old-timers, but a loving and understanding husband. I don't see many people in our neighborhood like that, except for the old couple on one side of us and a youngish married gay and cool couple on the other side.
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@DianneN (247219)
• United States
7 Aug 18
@YrNemo My husband and I always walk hand in hand, not because we love each other so much, but to keep me from tripping.
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Aug 18
In my neighborhood, I sometimes saw some Asian coules in their late 60s walking hand in hand on the street. So sweet. (I sort of know their little grandchildren.)
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Aug 18
@DianneN That is another way of looking at things.
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@Shiva49 (26233)
• Singapore
4 Aug 18
I see some who seem to get along very well. He should have been used to her harmless grumbling - siva
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@Shiva49 (26233)
• Singapore
7 Aug 18
@YrNemo It is really tough when one becomes unreasonable suddenly without reason, an about-turn from who they were earlier. It requires patience from the other to stay together. If it goes beyond a point, some just snap sadly - siva
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• India
3 Aug 18
It's so lovely to know about this loving couple.
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• India
7 Aug 18
@YrNemo this imagination is so lovely. If it happens in my real life then it would be more than heaven.. There are very few people with such an eternal bonding..
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@YrNemo (20261)
8 Aug 18
@anamika161088 Made me think of a novel by a well known author (I forgot her name suddenly, but I got that book with me somewhere), about a couple walking with each other daily (or was it at weekend) all the time. She was contented, but he got sicked of it and planned to do something different, like went killing someone just to break the monotone of life. He ended up not doing that, but instead, living a double life, with a single mother (I only read the plot but felt a bit sad, as in, men think different to women re: happiness & contentment).
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Aug 18
Isn't it nice to have that sort of bonding after years of being with each other? I could imagine them walking with each other forever to eternity in the same way at the same time, chatting, grumbling, consoling one another etc.)
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
7 Aug 18
Aw they sound charming. I must say that I feel bad for him though....
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Aug 18
He seemed resigned to it.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
3 Aug 18
She probably has an anxiety problem. No I haven't seen any loving couples in my neighborhood. Even the tourist couples who pass in front of our house are walking one behind the other. That is the safest way anyway - it is a busy main street.
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@YrNemo (20261)
3 Aug 18
Someone told us that in certain countries, it is the custom to have one partner walks first, the other follows (just in case there was some landmine around) .
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@Kandae11 (53698)
3 Aug 18
@YrNemo Yes, it is the custom in some countries. I found it very amusing when a lawyer friend of mine was dating someone from one such countriy. She told him flat out that she would not be walking behind him. She told him that such a practice was not safe in her country - because she could be kidnapped or robbed and he wouldn't be aware.
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@YrNemo (20261)
3 Aug 18
@Kandae11 That is a good point! Then again, if one marries to a guy who is much taller and also heartless, one will surely end up walking behind him at a fair distance from unable to catch up!).
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@shaggin (71673)
• United States
6 Aug 18
They seem like a good pair to help ease each other's nerves.
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Aug 18
Whatever they have there, the foundation must have been strong .
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@jobelbojel (34730)
• Philippines
8 Aug 18
It puts smile on my face. I see old couples in the neighborhood walk together in the morning.
@marlina (154165)
• Canada
8 Aug 18
Only once in a while.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
8 Aug 18
What a charming word-picture you paint. It's interesting to people watch and speculate about their lives.
@Poppylicious (11133)
3 Aug 18
Oh, bless them. To me this sounds like dementia. But now I want to know where they go when they alight from the bus, and what they do there! You must follow them ... *cheeky grin*
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@YrNemo (20261)
7 Aug 18
I am tempted to follow them, believe me... Perhaps one day, when I don't have to rush to work??? (I have a suspicion, the lady has to go to a doctor.)