How Do You Live In The Day?

@bluesa (15023)
Johannesburg, South Africa
August 24, 2018 5:08am CST
How do you switch off your thoughts? How do you pull your mind back from rushing into the future? We are supposed to live life a day at a time. I think that is how we are meant to keep our sanity. Lately my mind keeps rushing into the future and not in a positive way, not happy daydreams but full fledged panic. I am trying to get myself back in to just living in the day and only the day I am in. How do you get yourself to just live in the day? Kudos to those who know how to live in the day. Photo is mine.
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@LadyDuck (458179)
• Switzerland
24 Aug 18
I envy those who can live the day without caring about the future. I cannot.
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@LadyDuck (458179)
• Switzerland
25 Aug 18
@TheHorse I am never fully in the present, even when I am enjoying the moment.
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@TheHorse (205772)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Aug 18
In general, I think about the future a lot. But when I'm involved in one of my "Zen" activities (like sanding wood for my vintage loudspeakers), I can be almost fully in the present.
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@TheHorse (205772)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Aug 18
@LadyDuck If you can find it, check out my response to @DianneN's comment. Even when I'm in "Zen" mode I'm never FULLY in the moment.
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@DianneN (246838)
• United States
25 Aug 18
It is so difficult to live one day at a time and not worry about the future. I don't know how anyone can do it.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
Yes, I am struggling terribly to live one day at a time @DianneN . But I know that I have to fight like heck to live in each day, otherwise everything is too overwhelming, Dianne.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
@TheHorse I suppose we are all torn in two most times. I think that is why we really do have to try to concentrate on living the day we are in.
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@TheHorse (205772)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Aug 18
You seem to enjoy your family time, though. Do you pause and enjoy the beauty (and accomplishments) of your kids and Grandkids? It seems so.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
25 Aug 18
That's a beautiful picture! I think it's normal to have some anxieties about the future as we live in a crazy world at a crazy time. What helps me is my relationship with God and knowing from reading the Bible that one day all will be well and there will be no more anxieties as He will take care of all our needs and more.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
26 Aug 18
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
I also need to focus on a day at a time and believe everything is going to be okay.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
24 Aug 18
I can't see a photo. :-(
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
24 Aug 18
Hello @MALUSE . I don't know why it didn't take the first time. I have edited the photo in. I hope you can see it now.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
24 Aug 18
@bluesa Yes, I can see it now. A nice atmosphere.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
@MALUSE thank you, I like the different shades in it.
@TheHorse (205772)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Aug 18
Like @Maluse, I like the picture. Another of my calming activities is to hike later in the afternoon at Inspiration point in Tilden Park, near Berkeley. We often have sunsets with colors like that.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
@TheHorse, thank you. Hiking can be calming, I do take a walk every day if possible. I just saw the gorgeous sunset in your latest discussion.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
28 Aug 18
@TheHorse I do keep my earphones off. I also like to hear bird song or the wind sighing through the trees.
@TheHorse (205772)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Aug 18
@bluesa Ah, thanks. I "softened" that one with some filter or another. I call it "Sunset Painting," even though it's a photo. Do you keep your headphones off so you can take in the sounds of squirrels, birds, the wind, etc.? Nature calms me.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
I have found that it helps to set small, positive goals. Needn't be anything big. Try new recipes Try new things Do X number of crafts Do X much exercise - these help me each month. And keeping thoughts positive for the future. Allow self to day dream, even if you don't think it's realistic. Look for books on power of positive thinking..... I hope these things help you :-)
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
Thank you, Faye. I will try all. And should my mind shoot to the future (which it stubbornly wants to) I will try keep it positive.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
28 Aug 18
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
27 Aug 18
@bluesa I believe in you
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
24 Aug 18
Sometimes I just go into my room by myself and force myself to have a good cry. It seems to relieve a lots of stress and I feel surprisingly relaxed once I am finished. Sometimes my husbands Parkinsons gets too much for me and today I had to fill out all the forms for my mother in the nursing home. The weight of caring for everyone gets to be too much for me. But after a good cry, I am happy and peaceful again.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
29 Aug 18
@bluesa NO one has a perfect life, we all have our crosses to bear but it is how we bear them that counts. I do take care of myself, I know that I need to stay healthy and in good spirits.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
29 Aug 18
@BelleStarr you're right and I am happy you do take care.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
@BelleStarr , I am so sorry that your husband has Parkinsons . I understand about caring for everyone just try to remember to take care of yourself too. A person can so easily forget to take care of themselves. It is in a way good that crying helps you.
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@moffittjc (118442)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Aug 18
I'm always thinking about the future, contemplating what I can do in the present to ensure that I have a better future, or that my family has a better future. But I don't let it consume me, I just focus on what I can control, and don't think about (or try not to think about) those things I cannot control. Sometimes, it's pure faith and optimism that helps me get through particularly troublesome times.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
29 Aug 18
@moffittjc a lot is consuming me lately, so I am trying to find a way to quiet my mind, it is tough going. I think I have to try the "pure faith and optimism" route too.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
3 Sep 18
@moffittjc thank you, Jeff. I am trying to take things one day at a time.
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@moffittjc (118442)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Aug 18
@bluesa I wish there was a way that I could help you. The best I can do is just offer words of encouragement. Hang in there and just try to take things one at a time. Deep breathing and meditation can help too.
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@TheHorse (205772)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Aug 18
I have certain "Zen" activities that I do. Most recently, I was up in Montana working on my fence and other things at our family cabin. I went slow and steady and got a lot done. (See my fairly recent posts.) It cleared my mind because I was focused on the task at hand. Here in California, I do some woodworking (mostly on vintage loudspeakers) and that allows me to be in the moment. I can also just practice my guitar.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
You're so lucky you have a family cabin, I have seen some beautiful cabins on tv. You do have a lot you do that can help you focus on the moment @TheHorse.
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@TheHorse (205772)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Aug 18
@bluesa Yes, this thing is old and humble, not like the a-frames with lofts that wealthy Californians buy at Tahoe. But it's home to me, as it's been in our family since before I was born.
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@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
24 Aug 18
The future is what I live for. I survive my day to day life looking forward to tomorrow.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
@sol_cee and I am trying my best to live in just the day I am in. Isn't life strange, how it messes with us in different ways.
@Shiva49 (26202)
• Singapore
26 Aug 18
I concentrate on the present moment although my mind may jump from the past to the future. I think that is natural. We have to live with anxiety but we can use it positively than be burdened with it - siva
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
@Shiva49 , I suppose it is natural that ones mind jumps from the past to the future. How can we use anxiety positively? Anxiety leaves me feeling smothered.
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@Shiva49 (26202)
• Singapore
27 Aug 18
@bluesa I don't allow anxiety to take over my agenda but help keep me on my toes. I do my best and then accept whatever be the result - siva
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@YrNemo (20261)
24 Aug 18
My future has nothing interesting for me to look forward to but at least my world is safe (I think, touch wood), not like people in Hawaii right now...
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
@YrNemo , to me at the moment I am not certain what my future holds, I have quite a few regrets with decisions made and I am very worried, it causes me great panic. Yes, as if the volcano wasn't bad enough, now "Lane." Once again a reminder to live each day to the fullest.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Sep 18
@YrNemo my Mom says she won't leave, that her days of travelling are over, and because she is on an oxygen machine permanently I can understand why she feels that way. My Dad is trying to ignore the whole situation because he is not sure what we will be able to do about it. It is all very unsettling.
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@YrNemo (20261)
5 Sep 18
@bluesa What do your parents think about South Africa's politic situation right now?
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@dgobucks226 (34369)
31 Aug 18
I imagine each person finds their own unique way of dealing with thoughts which occupy one's mind. I am thinking of the future whether it be simple planning for the next day or dealing with something more complex in the future. But I also live in the moment at times. I would consider it odd to only live in the moment without future thoughts? I might even think it unhealthy? Now, whether those thoughts are positive or negative or a combination really depends on one's attitude doesn't it? Winston Churchill, said "attitude is a little thing which makes a big difference." I've also heard the expression, don't sweat the small stuff. Remember, some things are just out of our control. In answering your question about living in the day, for me usually when I'm focused on doing something enjoyable and keeping busy at it I am "in the moment" and other thoughts are switched off to use your phrase. During those moments I am reacting to my environment and not thinking, just living within my own little world... Hope this is helpful to you "C.'
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Sep 18
I don't know how to come to terms with the fact that some things are out of our control, I always need to have a solution and sometimes my solutions aren't the solution and so I need to find a way to let go and just hope for the best @dgobucks226 . I am battling to find a way to to live "in the moment" at the moment, D. Hopefully one day soon my mind will calm again.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
8 Sep 18
@dgobucks226 some things you can't move on from, some things you have to face, I don't know how I am going to face certain things. There is a lot of uncertainty in my day to day life now, plus troubling times in my country to add to it. I am trying to find solutions but some stuff truly is out of our control and as you say for peace of mind I will have to surrender my worries and hope that praying and hoping will bring a solution.
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@dgobucks226 (34369)
7 Sep 18
@bluesa Yes I understand Catherine. To not be able to control an outcome is extremely frustrating! Sometimes there is just nothing that we can do to change the outcome and we have to surrender to it For our own peace of mind perhaps it is just better to move on. Savor the good moments and reflect upon them when life becomes troubled...
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
24 Aug 18
Well this sounds so bad but I have some insurmountable obstacles right now in life seriously, so I am fully grounded in the day itself. I must be tough and keep working and facing the problems, so I think that helps somewhat.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
@Courage7, I am sorry about the obstacles and I wish you the best in overcoming them. It takes guts to face problems, I wish all the best with that too.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
26 Aug 18
@bluesa Thank you you too dear friend
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@Orson_Kart (6114)
• United Kingdom
31 Aug 18
Living in the moment is something that is being promoted a lot now as having great health benefits. It's fine I think, if you've got all the rest of your ducks in a row. However, if the future seems hopeless, why not try to grab a little happiness right here, right now. Doesn't always work though. I've had my eye on a ripening tomato I've been growing this year. I couldn't wait for it to be ready, so I went and plucked it off the bush and popped it in my mouth awaiting the sweetness to provide me with the expected pleasure. How disappointed was I to find it bitter and very unpleasant. Should have waited.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Sep 18
Yes, it isn't easy to not worry about the future especially when the future seems hopeless. But I suppose that is when a person has to try the most to just live in the day. Sorry about the tomato @Orson_Kart , I don't have patience either.
@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
27 Aug 18
I'm not a worrier and I generally do live in the day. I'm only able to do this because I saved enough money when I was younger, so finances are ok. I don't care to look into the future too much healthwise (especially regarding my husband), but I'll accept what comes. Sorry you're having a hard time.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
28 Aug 18
You were wise, Janet, I am happy you planned well. Health worries take their own toll though. Thank you, all we can do is hope for the best with everything @jaboUK .
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• United States
24 Aug 18
I don't have an answer for you except to just keep trying to concentrate on the here and now when you feel pulled into thinking of the future. We never know what the future brings and most of the time we worry for nothing.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
Thank you @Marilynda . I am trying with all my might to just live in the day. True we never know and we can just hope for the best.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
27 Aug 18
i too live day by day. having a heart ailment, i try to live in positivism.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
24 Aug 18
It's hard to stop thinking about future ..but by thinking practically we can live in present my dear friend. Very nice picture
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Aug 18
I guess we have to try to think practically for the sake of our sanity. Thank you @Icydoll .
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