Parenting

By Dawn
Dubai, United Arab Emirates
September 11, 2018 10:10am CST
My 5 year old begun his schooling this year. However, I am at a total loss to get him to write. We got him different crayons, whiteboard, colour pencils etc but nothing seems to catch his fancy. Suggestions please?
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@vsai2008 (11796)
• India
11 Sep 18
I have no idea about the issue you are facing so I looked up online. I think this might be useful.
At age three, you can start teaching your kid how to properly hold a pencil. And don't worry, there are lots of fun ways to teach this fine motor skill.
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@vsai2008 (11796)
• India
12 Sep 18
@sonorous I am glad I could be of little help. Just be patient with your child, he might surprise you some day .
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
12 Sep 18
@vsai2008 your kind words are much appreciated
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
11 Sep 18
Much appreciated! That was indeed a good read n gave me a couple of ideas worth trying out
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
11 Sep 18
You seem to be overambitious. If there were real problems with your child, the teachers would certainly contact you. Leave him alone! He's only five! He'll find his 'speed'.
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
11 Sep 18
Appreciate your response He is attending speech therapy classes and I know he is progressing because these days he is coming up with random excuses for not writing. Just want to ensure this is a fun activity for him n not a tedious or mundane task. Hence seeking alternate ideas
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
11 Sep 18
@sonorous Leave him alone. Let the teachers do their jobs. I was a teacher for 40 years at secondary grammar schools (age 10 to 18). I've often said jokingly to my colleagues that I'd prefer to teach orphans. Parents who interfere and know everything better should be banned from schools. Of course, it's positive if parents care for the well being of their children but, unfortunately, many exaggerate. Why does your son go to speech therapy classes? What is the problem? Is there a problem at all?
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
11 Sep 18
@MALUSE his sentence formation and vocabulary development is that of a three year old. My second child (4 year old) is borderline autistic. At his age, in school he is atleast expected to identify his name tag (which he is still unable to btw) In about two months they will start with writing three letter words n my son doesn't even have a proper pencil grip
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@irishidid (8688)
• United States
12 Sep 18
When did he turn 5? He may just not be ready. When his birthday is does matter.
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@irishidid (8688)
• United States
12 Sep 18
@sonorous He may not have matured enough yet. Give him the tools and be patient with him. If after a reasonable time he hasn't grasped the concept, then talk to a developmental specialist. Some kids blossom sooner than others.
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
12 Sep 18
He turned 5 this march
• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
12 Sep 18
@irishidid you see this is where the ambiguity lies, how much time is reasonable time?? He just about begun school this month, perhaps another month or so??
• Dallas, Texas
11 Sep 18
@MALUSE said it best in my opinion. Since I read other comments and your response to them, you child has special needs that should be addressed with the school instructors who will be doing their best to teach your child. If there is any tendency for a child to be hyper active or have attention deficit disorder or even have a short attention span, these are special issues that might need to be considered. Having patience with your child is best and it is needed to let the child develop the proper skills in his good time. Slow learners can eventually become good learners.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
11 Sep 18
It's good to see that someone agrees with me. Maybe it will be even a good idea to keep him at home for another year and let him start school the following year. In Germany, children start school only at the age of 6. What would be lost if he started later? Nothing IMHO.
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@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
11 Sep 18
Bring him to kinder school, along with other kids just like him maybe he could be interested seeing his classmates doing that thing.
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@deba12 (2951)
• India
11 Sep 18
When he will see that the kids around him are writing, he will start writing too.
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@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Sep 18
Writing and stuff isn’t suppose to be fun. It’s just learning how. It’s it really going to catch his fancy. Some kids jsut love to and others just don’t.
@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Sep 18
@sonorous I was the kid that did what she was told regardless if Inliekd it or not. I also had a learning disability so my homework had broken down in small amounts
• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
18 Sep 18
@ShyBear88 glad it worked out for you
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
13 Sep 18
haha! i suppose you were one of those who "just didnt" xD
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@DWDavis (25812)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
13 Sep 18
Please don't push him or he will come to resent writing and that will make things more difficult for him as he progresses through school. Do you have some workbooks where he can trace the numbers and letters? Mix this with tracing drawings of things he likes, and give him the opportunity to draw picture stories for you. Slowly, and with lots of support and affirmation, encourage him to start writing the letters his pictures start with and then move on to short words. If you make writing fun, instead of a chore, he will take to it faster. Also, this is key, never make him feel like a failure because he is not writing. That will discourage him from trying.
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
13 Sep 18
Yes we do have workbooks n tracing pads but then again he refused to do anything with them. Drawing with picture stories is something we havent tried --- now thts worth a shot. thank you for your suggestion! much appreciated
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@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
Kids do things at their own pace. When he’ll start writing on the wall, etc. you’ll have another headache. Hehe
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
13 Sep 18
oh hes already been there n done tht.These days he seeks my approval for every little thing -- smth as much as even washing his hand!
@shubhu3 (36464)
• New Delhi, India
12 Sep 18
Make him engage in interactions with other kids doing the same. He'll be able to imitate and thus learn writing.
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@aninditasen (15742)
• Raurkela, India
11 Sep 18
Get a teacher for him as I too couldn't make my children start writing. Some other teacher did that for me.
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@anya12adwi (6037)
• India
12 Sep 18
I think you should consult a child counsellor or psychologist.. Moreover, your kid might take some time..
• India
14 Sep 18
@sonorous Is it working??
• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
14 Sep 18
@anya12adwi to a certain extent yes, his vocabulary is building, the words in his sentences are about 5-6 at a time But when it comes to writing he gets unwilling to do so
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
12 Sep 18
He is attending speech therapy classes since April this year
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@BabeSays (8576)
• Mauritius
11 Sep 18
Every kids is special in there own way. Let him be on his own he will learn with time.
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@theend (2778)
• Gifu, Japan
12 Sep 18
You will see his change, fast.
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
12 Sep 18
Hope pray n wish you are right on this