Even if I say I don't care, still it affects me.
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
September 16, 2018 10:40am CST
I'm chatting with the boyfriend a while ago. I told him that I'm a bit sad about a friend who takes our conversation personally. Because I did not tell her about the agenda of the meeting and that I was only following what I was told. She was mad at me and don't want to talk to me anymore.
Even some of the members of our group don't want to talk to me either and I know they all influence her because we are not that active anymore. Some old members are gone because of her bossy and predominant kind of personality. And we know how good she is when it comes to making stories for other members to believe in.
The boyfriend said he will leave the group because he doesn't understand it anymore. The boyfriend is one of the pioneering members of the group.
I was proud to be a member but looks like it's time to make a decision.
Is it hard for you to make a final decision?
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
You should get rid of her. Seems like a person who has a problem for every solution.
I can easily make decision - final or otherwise.
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
@JustBhem you'll learn it soon enough.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
I guess it is time to move out of the group that doesn't appreciate you anymore. No need of explaining if they are all made up siding with your ex friend. Your BF understands you better keep him as I see he really supports and understands you well than the others.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Sep 18
The boyfriend decided to leave the group since they made me sad.
It is hard when that someone who works as a Registered Social Worker who does not understand people well, I wonder why she passed. She is bossy and predominant to all members. She does not listen to explanations and always thinks about herself.
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@freelancermariagrace (27237)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
Hi, Bhem. If I were you, I would just leave the group. They are causing you too much stress already. Plus, true friends should always support each other ( not bring you down).
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@marguicha (215992)
• Chile
16 Sep 18
When a group no longer represents you, it is time to move on. This also goes with family.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Sep 18
I think it is for the best that both of you leave the group. It isn't a healthy group to be anymore. Who needs groupmates like that, who gets influenced by a story made up by someone they consider as their friend, anyway?
They are stressors,so they should be avoided.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
17 Sep 18
Not so.I know myself very well, once I feel that I need to be out, I'll do that right away without second thoughts.
