Holding the Person You LOVE: Isn’t it a Very Selfish Move?
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@ZedSmart (19753)
Philippines
September 25, 2018 6:29am CST
OK, I will cite two examples
1. Dying family members or love ones.
You do all means to hold them even if the possibility of bringing them to normal life is very slim.
2. A broken relationship. The person want to go because your relationship is no longer working and it turned out that the love of the person who wants to go have faded away—absolutely?
The other half does not want to let his/her partner goes and want to save the relationship, even if holding the person means misery.
There might be chances on example number but in example no.1?
This is very common right?
I think that in example number one, holding the person is like prolonging the agony.
Why not give the person the peace he/she deserves?
In example number two, why try to save when relationship is no longer healthy.
It is said that if you truly love the person, let him/her go.
OK, I know this is going to be very easy to say but hard to do.
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@rsa101 (37954)
• Philippines
26 Sep 18
For case #1 I think that is one of the hardest thing to let go because it is life that you are talking about. I think letting go of someone you love knowing that you will no longer see him/her anymore is harder. I think that its a matter of showing to the person that she is loved and until life really has totally given up is the only time to accept things. I do not find this selfish, it is like saying to them that you love them and would never let go until he/she decides to give up.
For case #2 I think its a matter of accepting from both sides that the relationship is not working anymore. There is no life lost in here but just an amicable agreement between two parties to let go and live free.
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@rsa101 (37954)
• Philippines
26 Sep 18
@ZedSmart I have been there. That was when my mom was dying from cancer. She was still aware of the things around her but her body is already weak and is getting weaker by the day. Everyone around her were trying to make her comfortable and be happy despite the situation and no one ever would want to pull the plug. We waited for my sister from abroad who is working as nurse who finally was brave to say it's not going to be better in the coming days and that's the time everyone agreed to slowly let her go if she wishes it. Pulling a plug of a love one is just not easy to do.
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@rsa101 (37954)
• Philippines
26 Sep 18
@ZedSmart True my sister sent me home that night and my sister was the only one left in the room to be with my mother. Me and my father went home as he has a heart condition so he should not be witnessing oe experiencing strong emotional events like this. Early in the morning my sister called father and told she passed away. Even in the wee hours of the day we have to go back to the hospital to pay our last respect for her. It was an indescribable feeling, you are grieving but felt somehow relieve that she is in a place with no pain anymore but then you missed her physical presence terribly. I would not want to be in that same situation anymore.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Sep 18
If the feeling is not mutual anymore, I can't hold on to that person at all. I have too much pride in me to stay in a relationship where I'm the only one who wants to make it work.
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@freelancermariagrace (27219)
• Philippines
25 Sep 18
It's really hard to let go of someone, especially if that someone is so special to you. But we have to accept the reality that nothing lasts forever. We just have to pray to Our Lord Jesus Christ for strength (strength to let go and move on) and guidance.
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@ZedSmart (19753)
• Philippines
26 Sep 18
Sometimes, in the case of example no.1, people still hope for a miracle and even want doctors to be like God even if the doctors decided already with their patient. Yes, I believe that we should seek that guidance and strength to be able to accept the pain and move on.
