Who should pay
By C
@ShyBear88 (59299)
Sterling, Virginia
November 12, 2018 12:25pm CST
When it comes to a first date whom do you think should pay?
Is it the person who asked the other person out? The one who grabs the check first, you each pay your half of the meal or what?
I haven’t dated anyone other then my husband. We didn’t really date to being with since we had been friends for a good few years and he didn’t ask me out and I didn’t ask him out. Over all I think it has been my husband who pays for our date nights in general even though we see our money are our money some times we get cash from family for one of us and we treat the other to something. I like to think my husband is a proper gentle men and he would pay for a dated meal even if he wasn’t the one that asked the other out. Who knows really. I don’t think these dates there is a proper way to do this other then maybe before going out decided ahead of time might be best if one or both of you are going to pay.
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@lovebuglena (43092)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Nov 18
Interesting. I just answered a poll question on Swagbucks that asked exactly that. I think it should be the person who initiated the date. In my instances it was always the guy, so he paid the bill.
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@ShyBear88 (59299)
• Sterling, Virginia
12 Nov 18
Very true by now and days things coast a lot more so there is always the change the asked would need the other to pay there half.
@lovebuglena (43092)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Nov 18
@ShyBear88 Whether it's a date or even just friends going out, I don't agree with splitting the bill in half. Here is why. Someone may order very expensive items on the menu or get a lot of drinks. This will make the bill that much higher. Why should everyone else have to pay for that? Everyone should pay for what they order. The problem is if everyone pays with a credit card it will be hard to split up the total amounts everyone ordered. But if people pay with cash that should not be an issue at all. Another thing that can be done is one person charges everything and the rest give that person cash for what they ordered.
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@ShyBear88 (59299)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Nov 18
@lovebuglena when I mean split I don’t mean straight down the middle. I mean ask for two different check at the being of the meal when you order drinks so that way you are only paying for what you really got and not paying a portion of someone else meal that you don’t want to pay for. We break our checks up all of time we we do family group Putin’s we warn the waitress or waiter we are have how many checks and which people are on whitch ones. Saves a whole lot of headaches later.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
12 Nov 18
If I went on a date, no matter who asked, I would want to pay. I have always been like that. 
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
12 Nov 18
I don't think it matters. I never expected anybody to pay my share.
@ShyBear88 (59299)
• Sterling, Virginia
12 Nov 18
I’m sure to some people it might matter if they are not prepared to pair there half and they are broke that would suck
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
12 Nov 18
@ShyBear88 yes that would suck and be a very uncomfortable situation.
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@ShyBear88 (59299)
• Sterling, Virginia
12 Nov 18
@Happy2BeMe indeed. If someone ask me out I would assume the person asking would pay but I might double check before hand Incase for some reason I need to pay
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@ShyBear88 (59299)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Nov 18
But what if the asked doesnt plan on paying the other person not everyone that asks someone out will have that?
@ShyBear88 (59299)
• Sterling, Virginia
20 Nov 18
@Daelii an invite to dinner isn’t an invite to pay. If someone as you to eat out with them that doesn’t mean the meal is for free for you. Haven’t you heard nothing isnfor free. A date or any other putting isn’t an open invitation to spend someone else money. A date isnto get to know someone and determine if they are worth further getting to know.
If the invites stated when you ask someone or that you are paying such as “hey, would you like to go out to dinner with me my treat.” Then yes that meal should be covered by the person that stat that but if it isn’t stated how is it rude to imply that person who asked you is going to pay for you. Assuming isn’t a good thing either so clarification is always good.
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@Daelii (5619)
• United States
20 Nov 18
@ShyBear88 what do you mean?
A person shouldn't invite someone to something and not provide what was offered.
If I invite someone to say an ice cream party at my house... I expect to pay because I initiated the idea.
It would just be rude to invite people over and not have what was like ffered
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@septabchips (1142)
• Nigeria
13 Nov 18
This is very interesting. Its a good thing that you have pleasant things to say about your husband. I think most men like to foot the bills anyway. What do you think?
@ShyBear88 (59299)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Nov 18
I think it really depends on the two people. Me and my husband got paid different weeks so we each took turns till engaged and married. Over all I think a big group of men like to pay for their date. Some people I can see asking for 2 checks or a female paying for the date instead of the men. I guess over all a plan before the date on how payment might for the meal might need to be discussed
