Is it hard to just be sick for the rest of your life without changing your physical appearance?

I am not sick, but I admit I am getting older. I can't help all of the physical changes that are happening no matter how much I take care of myself, but I am a firm believer of beauty and attitude from the inside out. It makes a huge difference to remain positive and bring out the goodness within all you can.

We change during the years, even if we are healthy. What suggested your boyfriend that you regret?

When you choose to be angry and to carry hate you also are changing your appearance. Do not let her control you this way. The hate is hurting you, not her. I hope you can do things to make yourself feel better.

Oh, just forget about your Mother for s second here, you're the one who's in dialysis which is more vital in my opinion. Sometimes I hate looking at the mirror myself, knowing that I'm also growing old. But seeing some of my class mates and friends have bellies too? i don't feel much guilty but not seriously trying to loose weight.

like you, i look sick too. but i have to have the positivism and smile to everyone though at times i feel so tired after i do something mildly strenuous. i have lost 6 kilograms of weight and my pants are loose but i don;t give it much thought.

I know I have no right to give advice because I haven't experienced what you are going through but if I may, I would like to suggest that you look for the positive side of things. It might be hard at times but that could be a way to brighten your day, and maybe could contribute to the positive change in your appearance, if that's what bothers you. Learn to ignore things, including people that ruin your day. Try to ignore but don't hate them. Hating them would do you no good. Focus on people who make you feel loved. And as they say, choose your battles wisely. Don't let negativity drain you.

I cannot imagine how awful if would be to go through what you are. Carrying around that hate will just make your last days awful though I would try to just do anything you can to live in peace.

From your discussions I see you have issues with your kidneys but that disease is not infectious as you are blaming your mother for it.

Sorry to hear this Bhem, but hate destroys you more than any other physical ailment. It makes you sick in mind and body. Please do not hate anyone, for your own sake.

Better be ready for the cold season Bhem. Stay prepared for the colds and cough.

We change through the years. We don't need to be sick to change. Hating your mother is not the answer.

It's never too late to begin a newlife.if you look around your self then the people who are most beautiful might not be the most happiest .the beauty lies the way how you are able to manage your life.the great life also have never been defined by beauty. just look at Mahatma Gandhi,Nelson Mandela..... Don't regret life,it's no one's fault but if you don't take steps to get what you want it might be your fault

I've seen a post about Selena Gomez on FB yesterday and it would have been nice if you could have seen the video. I'm sure it would have given you hope and inspire you. I just can't find it anymore now.

I am sick too, Bhem. But I am still trying to be positive even if I feel like losing hope sometimes. Life really is unfair.

I too have days where I hate the pain and suffering that I am stuck with until I die. I become depressed thinking about looking forward to each day filled with excruciating pain and suffering that is caused by an on the job injury that should have been taken care of immediately by a boss who could have cared less about his employees. I hated him for his lack of caring and not getting me to medical help immediately after the accident happened, then I discovered that hating him helped nothing. In fact it made the pain and suffering worse. It took awhile but I finally forgave the idiots that I worked for and their lack of caring when I was injured on the job. It has lessened the pain some, not entirely but even having it lessened a little bit helps. I realized that hating causes the suffering to be much worse. Whether the problems we have to live with are caused by the people we have worked with or by our parents (I also have a lot of reasons to hate my parents because of their actions when I was growing up and their lack of caring for me when I was small. They would go to their club meetings at night and leave me in the care of my abusive brother who would beat me and sexually abuse me. They never knew about what went on when they were gone "socializing" with their friends. From the time I was four years old until I was 16 I barely saw them during the week and seldom saw them during the nights on the weekends.). Growing hate in one's heart just doesn't help with our ailments and pain, if anything it does make it worse. But it is our choice whether to carry that hatred with us for the rest of our lives or to let it sit by the side of the road we travel. I don't much care for the Father and brother that I lived with for the 13 years of my life, and my Mom and I became friends when I moved in with her when I was injured on the job. But I set those feelings on the side of the road in a box marked do not open, dangerous. And by doing that I am a much happier person and am able to handle my pain and disability a bit better because of not carrying that hatred with me but having it set to one side. The people aren't forgiven, but I don't keep the fires of hate burning. Hugs and love

Please don't hate your mother. I think you will be unhappy if you hate someone. I also feel I hate my father and this is bad.