Do children who live with one parent, are worse than other children?
@Nevena83 (65280)
Serbia
December 5, 2018 5:11am CST
Good day friends.
I sit today with my uncle and start talking that one child was beaten by an elderly friend. It always upset me, because in my country there is more and more violence among children, but the story goes on as an older child is from divorced parents, lives with a grandmother, and how he will try to put him in a correctional home. I was horrified, because it is always emphasized that the children of divorced parents are losing. I take care of the child myself and I do not think my child is worse than the children who live with both parents.
I'm sure my child was a bad guy to talk about because it's because there's no father.
What do you think about it? Are children without parents or just one parent, really always worse than other children?
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@marguicha (215960)
• Chile
5 Dec 18
I donĀ“t think that is has anything to do. I think that the remaining paren or the person who brings the child upt has more to do with how they grow up. And then there are different personality traits too.
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@marguicha (215960)
• Chile
5 Dec 18
@Nevena83 It depends on many things. All people are unique.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Dec 18
@marguicha You're right. I hope my child will become a good man.
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@DWDavis (25812)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
5 Dec 18
Research shows that children raised in a one parent home are more likely to do poorly in school and become behavior problems. The situation gets worse if the child is being raised by a single relative other than a parent. There are anecdotal cases of children in such an environment doing well, but they are the exception rather than the rule.
Also, children who are treated violently by their caregiver, regardless of whether it is a parent, relative, or foster, are more likely to be violent themselves, exhibit bullying behavior, or become self-mutilators.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 18
When I was 10 to 11 years old my parents got divorced. My father moved away and at first I met with him so weekends. He got made redundant and he moved up North. I never saw him again. I wrote to him regularly to stay in contact with him. Children with just one parent grow up the same as a child with two parents I think. People are shaped by their experiences. I am a single parent of 2 children.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Dec 18
Well done. I always had the worry that my child was better educated, because I always felt that everyone would say: "No wonder, lives only with the mother."
@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Dec 18
@Davictech It's not in the place to comment like that. You do not know this woman and you do not know her life. Nobody can judge anyone.
@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Dec 18
@marguicha Unfortunately, people condemn others and do not see themselves and their lives.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
5 Dec 18
It takes two to cause the birth of a child and therefore it is only logical that a child has a need of both parents. However, sometimes a child loses a parent or both, then, no doubt that things will be harder for such a child.
In spite of a less favorable situation some children overcome such challenges and do very well for themselves.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
6 Dec 18
@Nevena83 For surec it affects the child and the family because there's an important part missing. The child might not get as much attention. The child has only one teacher and friend instead of two, etc.
Remember the expression: two are better than one or two heads are better than one.
However, it doesn't mean that one parent can't raise a child well. So, do you best with yous son!
I had two daughters and they were 11 and 9 when my first marriage ended. I had custody and was left alone for a couple of years because my wife left us. However, after a few years she came back into the life of the children and took care of them. I lived not too far away and was still in their lives but not living with them. I can say that I am proud of both of my daughters in spite of the situation they had to deal with.
I still say two parents re better than one but very few have the ideal situation and so I wish you success with your son, no matter what happens!
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
6 Dec 18
@1hopefulman You're probably right. It only makes me feel that people have prejudices about these children.
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@just4him (307408)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 Dec 18
I don't believe it's the number of parents, one or two, that make a difference, but how they're raised. If a child lives with love and respect, they will give the same. If they don't, then they won't know anything else and it will be a bad life for them.
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@KOLAMsegaran1 (4137)
• Bekasi, Indonesia
5 Dec 18
I think, a lot of this comes from material that
makes many people who want children who
don't have parents to be very bad, if we see them from their clothes.
But we all don't know what's in their hearts. And I
also often meet street children who want to
help people with physical disabilities. I often know that in my country.
And it turns out if we see what will happen,
of course we will all be surprised, after seeing
children who do not have parents and have no place to live
Because at that time I met someone who helped ride a wheelchair his
And I am proud to see these children
Because their hearts are very kind and wise
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Dec 18
@KOLAMsegaran1 I hope people will change their minds.
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@KOLAMsegaran1 (4137)
• Bekasi, Indonesia
5 Dec 18
@Nevena83 yes that's the fact of the story that I got
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
5 Dec 18
If the other parent no longer loves the other parent then for me the child would be equally better off without the other one.
A child could also be supported by the single parents family and friends.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
6 Dec 18
@Nevena83
Nowadays this should not be.
I have in the family at least three or four of the girls nieces or cousins that have never got married at all and have raised their children with much love.
So called experts are not really experts at all sometimes so I do not take to heart what they have to say.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Dec 18
You're right. I do not care when experts say that they always do something wrong with those kids. I believe that my child is much better and more educated than many children with both parents. But whatever my child would do, I believe it would be condemned only because he lives with only one parent.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
6 Dec 18
@lovinangelsinstead21 Yes, I'm sorry that people have prejudices about those children.
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@moffittjc (118606)
• Gainesville, Florida
6 Dec 18
I think every situation is different, because it depends on how much time and how much love the one parent provides to their child. But statistics show that children from a single-parent household door more poorly in school and have a higher chance of engaging in negative behaviors.
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@moffittjc (118606)
• Gainesville, Florida
8 Dec 18
@Nevena83 He will become a great man, with your motherly guidance and love.
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
6 Dec 18
Oh that's difficult. Some people do say that - but I think it really comes down to the role of exsisting parent in their life. Because I know people who grew up with both parents who arent too nice, either.
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@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
8 Dec 18
@Nevena83 So true, then if they wish to condem they will find any reason
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
9 Dec 18
@FayeHazel You're right, people are cruel. I hope my child will have no consequences, because it grew up with only one parent.
@resukill22 (25052)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
5 Dec 18
It depends on how he or she growing a child alone.
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@resukill22 (25052)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
6 Dec 18
@Nevena83 I think it because they luck of attention, and they are victim of bullied that is why
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
6 Dec 18
@resukill22 It just makes me feel that people have prejudices about these children.
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@Shivram59 (32057)
• India
13 Dec 18
@Nevena83 Not necessarily.I'm unmarried,but my elder sister is a widow.She has a daughter - my niece.Even after living with one parent, the girl is wise and responsible.She takes care of her mother and all her elders.On the other hand,I know children here who live with their parents,but are bullies and irresponsible.
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@Shivram59 (32057)
• India
14 Dec 18
@Nevena83 May God fulfill your wish.All my best wishes.
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@Davictech (195)
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5 Dec 18
60% of it is determined by how strong the person they stay with is. if the child stays with the mother and the mother is not that strong in will power and discipline such child will suffer, same thing goes for the father.
However any child that stays with one parent: either the father or the mother can not still be a total person, there will be somethings that are lacking in such child's live. Because there is a role a man is to take in a child's life and there is a role a mother is also to take. When one responsibility is not there then the child stands to suffer and lack some things.
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@Davictech (195)
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5 Dec 18
@Nevena83 keep talking to him and always remember him in your prayers
He might change one day.
@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
5 Dec 18
I think that single parents are often better off with their kids without the bad partner. Single moms and Dads can do a good job with their children, its just often harder without a partner to help. I just read other comments and wisdom is one that if she/he said to me I would remove the comment..Under the comments there is a delete button, don't be afraid to use it.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
6 Dec 18
I do not agree with you. I think it is about the parents and how they raise the children. I know many families with only one parent that have very successful children. My daughter is raising her two boys on here own as the dad left years ago. One of my grandson is in the United States Navy and went to 3 years of college and always won awards for being a goalie in the college hockey team plus lots of awards in high school for track and field. The other one just got some scholarships to enter a culinary college in June. Both boys are a pleasure and hard workers and love us and talk to us as much as they can. They will call us without us even asking them to.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
7 Dec 18
I agree with you, I did not even say if the child is better or worse, I just asked, because I know how many people make the difference between these children. I raise my son myself, and I hope that I have educated him well, but I always feared condemnation.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
6 Dec 18
i don't think so. i consider myself a single parent and i am able to bring up my son to be a fine young man.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
7 Dec 18
I don't think so.Though the situation may be different. Depends on the environment.
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@Shellyjane (462)
• United Kingdom
6 Dec 18
No - I think a child with one loving parent or guardian will always be better off than a child with two bad parents. As long as a child is loved they will be happy x
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