The D word was brought up
By UpbeatRae
@carebear29 (31962)
Wausau, Wisconsin
January 11, 2019 1:30pm CST
So my husband got into a long discussion on the phone with me yesterday and said he feels like our marriage is failing and if things don't work out and get better soon we will both consider "divorce." Wow, he is just now realizing what he is about to lose. I tried working on our marriage for a while now and quit because I gave up. I feel spark but no flame between us. He claims he is trying but it doesn't even show. Maybe moving on would be best and divorce would be doing me a favor but he doesn't want Dean growing up in a broken home like we both did. I doubt it will get better but I am putting no effort into trying and seeing if he does and go from there...
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@noni1959 (9917)
• United States
15 Jan 19
@carebear29 I'm sorry. Amen to Jennifer's prayer below.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Jan 19
Heavenly Father I thank you for Nikki and her husband Lord. I ask God that you bless their marriage, heal their hearts and help them to remember the love they first shared together. Thank you Jesus for answered prayers and your love.
In Jesus name I pray Amen!
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@1creekgirl (40650)
• United States
11 Jan 19
I'm sure sorry to hear this. I agree with several myLotters and hope that you'll consider a Christian counselor before making anything permanent.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
12 Jan 19
If things arent good, and havent been for awhile to where you've both just been there - then the marriage has already been over. So although hardly anyone ever wants to get a divorce, it may be the best thing for you two. Especially since staying in a marriage for a child is never a good idea.
Maybe try couples counselling, before deciding. But either way, goodluck.
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@carebear29 (31962)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
14 Jan 19
i regret marrying at 18 and im 34 now
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
14 Jan 19
@carebear29 I hear people say that kind of thing a lot. which is why im glad I never did that, with my ex - who ended up abusing both me and my daughter. or even my now bf of 8 years. as I don't want to ever regret something like marriage.
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@Happy2BeMe (99386)
• Canada
11 Jan 19
I hope you can work things out. It takes two people to make a marriage work.
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@popciclecold (35653)
• United States
14 Jan 19
It's sad, but most times we help from on high.
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@kobesbuddy (75137)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Jan 19
Divorce is never a best choice, for the three of you involved. A marriage covenant is suppose to be a permanent bond, between the two of you! Seek counselling at a nearby, Bible based church right away. Breaking up his family, would crush Dean and ruin his life! Surely, your husband nor you, neither one want this to happen to your son
None the less, divorce will scar him deeply, so please, seek out a marriage counselor, soon!
None the less, divorce will scar him deeply, so please, seek out a marriage counselor, soon!2 people like this
@carebear29 (31962)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
14 Jan 19
he wont do a marriage counciler
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@kobesbuddy (75137)
• East Tawas, Michigan
14 Jan 19
@carebear29 That's fine, then you go see a marriage counselor by yourself! Find out what YOU are doing wrong and get it corrected, by a professional. It doesn't cost anything at all.
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@hillhjill (23664)
• United States
11 Jan 19
I hope for the best and things work out for you.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
11 Jan 19
I'm sorry that you're going through such a painful and stressful time.
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@carebear29 (31962)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
11 Jan 19
i have very little hope with him...
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