When Men Listen
By Angie
@andriaperry (116860)
Anniston, Alabama
February 17, 2019 12:21pm CST
Being a caregiver is not easy and when its a man you are tending its even harder because, well, let`s face it they are hard headed and do not want to listen.
I often think that everything I say is going in one ear and out the other although I am not saying any of it in a demanding tone, just a matter of fact tone of knowing something does and will help.
I know about breathing problems since I have asthma ( I do not take any medication) and I have been with more than one person hyperventilating from panic attacks, I am learning more about COPD and breathing problems caused by lung cancer so I do know, sometimes, how to handle certain problems although all the medications are not helping.
When I hear " I can`t breathe" but I see the person breathing, and I have checked the stats, I am teaching the person what I taught myself when I was without an emergency inhaler. To relax and the air will come.
So.....
Last night I was told " I could not breathe last night so I laid back, closed my eyes and I let my body relax and I felt my lungs open and air came so easy."
It feels good to know that he was listening to the best advice I can give anyone who has breathing problems.
Do you have a story of "when someone listened for their own good?"
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19 responses
@GardenGerty (157735)
• United States
17 Feb 19
I have some advice that needs to be taken right now, but isn't. I think they have to think it is their own idea. Men or women.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
18 Feb 19
Write a note to "Self from Bob" and write down what needs to be done, set it where he can see it 
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
17 Feb 19
Yes! That is how I get the feed back, HIS idea.
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Yes
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
17 Feb 19
Me too because it was in the middle of the night and I was sound asleep.
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
17 Feb 19
Probably nearly into the hundreds of stories
I was a healthcare assistant in a hospital for 3 years then a home care assistant for terminal patients for 2 years then a senior care officer in a residential place for people with brain injuries...then a few other jobs after
In my experience most people don't listen but you get the occasional few that do and that's good.
PS...I found the ladies harder to get through to as they didn't want to listen to a man...
I was a healthcare assistant in a hospital for 3 years then a home care assistant for terminal patients for 2 years then a senior care officer in a residential place for people with brain injuries...then a few other jobs after
In my experience most people don't listen but you get the occasional few that do and that's good.
PS...I found the ladies harder to get through to as they didn't want to listen to a man...2 people like this
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
17 Feb 19
Maybe they had a nagging man at home?
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Feb 19
He listens he just wont let you know he does.
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@snowy22315 (170798)
• United States
18 Feb 19
Good, now you know everything you say, doesn't fall on deaf ears.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Feb 19
Yes, I was glad to hear him say this.
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@wolfgirl569 (96024)
• Marion, Ohio
17 Feb 19
Glad he is learning. The nurse taught mom to breathe in through her nose and out through her mouth. It is supposed to help you push more air out.
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@wolfgirl569 (96024)
• Marion, Ohio
18 Feb 19
@andriaperry Even when she had that. There is teas that Walmart carries here that the radiation department recommended to her also. One brand name is yogi and there is another brand name too. They make different herbal mixtures to help with different things. One mixture is supposed to help you breathe easier. You could check them out if he will try them.
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@Morleyhunt (21746)
• Canada
17 Feb 19
My MIL was on morphine for pain. She didn't want me to waken her for her pain Meds......but the doctor had specifically said that the timing was important.....and missin that med, or taking it late would have been counter productive. Then, when the pain had subsided (healing will do that) she decided she could just stop taking the Meds.....
Long story short, she recovered and the doctor gave he an enormous compliment on how well we had looked after her.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Feb 19
Yes especially when it was needed and I was not there.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
18 Feb 19
That's why if you work like that you must have a long patience to your patient.I am medical also and I experience to work in a ward and feel you of your experiences.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Feb 19
You have many to care for, I have just one.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
19 Feb 19
@andriaperry Okay one is easy to handle but it is hard if they don't listen yeah I agree.Many are hard also because too much crowd that you have to attend.
@1creekgirl (40636)
• United States
17 Feb 19
That was really good for both of you to know he actually heard what you said!
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
17 Feb 19
Yes it is, but I been telling him this for almost 3 years!
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
17 Feb 19
Yes it was. I am glad he is finally doing.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
17 Feb 19
Glad he was listening when you didn't even thing he was. Glad that it worked for him.
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@Nana49 (3402)
• United States
17 Feb 19
I.use to be a caregiver it was a very rewarding job for me .. I always had women .. my daughter works in a nursing home and tells me stories of how difficult
Some patients can be ..but she is good at her job and
Very helpful to those she tends to ..
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Feb 19
My sister worked at a nursing home for years, she was good to the old people too.
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