Dude! No Warning? That's Cold!
@cmoneyspinner (9221)
Austin, Texas
February 22, 2019 1:51pm CST
My daughter is graduating high school this year (Class of 2019) and I can't imagine doing this to her.
I met a guy at one of my old jobs and he said for his graduation gift, his dad rented a U-Haul truck for him and told him to GET OUT! His dad said he wasn't taking care of him any more and that he had been waiting for his graduation day! Renting the U-Haul truck for him to gather up things and move out was the last dime he was ever going to spend on him. His father told him, in no uncertain terms, that he was OFFICIALLY ON HIS OWN!
The guy said he didn't even have a warning. He didn't really have anywhere to go either. He hadn't rented an apartment or anything. He had no idea he was going to be kicked out of the house!
I didn't have any comments for him. But I did sort of wonder why he didn't see that coming!
What about you?
If you're a parent, would you really kick you kid out without a warning?
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
9 Mar 19
Nah, not without warning and certainly not as soon as they walked down the graduation isle. That is really harsh.
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
26 Feb 19
Different states have different ages. But in Texas, you are considered an adult at age 17 and if you get kicked out, you are on your own. You can't call the law and demand that your parents let you back into the house. They don't have to! LOL.
I was watching one of those court TV shows and the kid (who was way older than 17 with a child of his own he needed to take care of) was asking the judge to order his parents to allow him to live at home with them. I didn't watch the show to the end so I don't know what the judge decided. But I thought that kid was nuts! Take your parents to court to demand that they let you live with them???????
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
26 Feb 19
@cmoneyspinner In Europe parents cannot "kick out" their children, if they do, they must pay them until they find a decent job to maintain themselves. My brother asked to his daughter (my niece) to live the house, she was 21. She went to see a Lawyer and he had to pay until she found a job.
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
5 Mar 19
@LadyDuck - I can't say that I agree with that either. I think when kids reach a certain age, they are adults and should take on adult responsibilities. With our job market the way it is in America? The kid might not get a job for a very long time. Uumm ... just curious ... if the kid decides to get married and still doesn't have a job and the spouse of the kid doesn't have a job, what do the parents "legally" have to do? I see no reason why parents should be legally obligated to take care of grown kids who are kids but are adults! But then ... I'm American!
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@Letranknight2015 (51523)
• Philippines
11 Mar 19
I'm happy my parents never did that to me, or any of my siblings. They chose to move on their own.
I hope your daughter would have good future if she decides to move on her own.
I remember one story about a dad was cruel with words and wants them out after they graduate. They never came back, nor visit him. He regretted not being good with his parenting, he was clearly misunderstood.
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@Letranknight2015 (51523)
• Philippines
13 Mar 19
@cmoneyspinner I think the Father doesn't realize how hard the economy is to the point were people have a hard time to look for a job.
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
13 Mar 19
@Letranknight2015 - In this particular case, the job situation had no bearing on the father's decision. But just as an update, the kid landed on his own two feet. He figured out some place to go, ultimately got married and had his own family. As for the relationship between him and his father? I didn't ask. I steered clear of that discussion.
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
12 Mar 19
Some parents are harder on their kids than they realize. Some children are more difficult to raise than they realize. I think both parents and kids need to recognize. It's really sad when the relationship becomes broken and nobody wants to mend it. It can probably be put back together but they just don't want to. To me that's something any person - child or parent - should regret.
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@DianneN (246844)
• United States
22 Feb 19
I would never ever even think of kicking my kids out of the house, although they are long gone. We paid for college, graduate school, and even let our younger son live in our home when he was saving up to buy a home of his own and rent free. Congratulations to your daughter!
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
26 Feb 19
Well, I can't say I wouldn't think of it. There have been times when I had to find somewhere for one of my kids to go. It's not the daughter that's graduating though. She's a sweetie! 
Thanks for the congrats. 
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@DianneN (246844)
• United States
26 Feb 19
@cmoneyspinner I guess I've been lucky with both my sons.
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
26 Feb 19
Yes, it does. But of course I didn't know the father so I didn't get his side of the story. With family matters, you never know.
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@Ronrybs (17849)
• London, England
26 Feb 19
@cmoneyspinner Very true, as we say you can choose your friends, but not your family!
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@things4gotten (477)
• United States
23 Feb 19
I hate that parents do this. My stepdad threatened to do this on the day I turned 18, only he wasn't going to even give me a Uhaul (not that I would know how to drive it even if he did). He just told me he would throwing all my stuff onto the front lawn. Thankfully my mother made sure that didn't happen. It is good that you want your kid to be independent and self reliant, but just throwing them out of the house is not a good way to go about it.
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
26 Feb 19
Some kids can really try you and test you and some parents need to put their foot down. But it would have been more civil if he had at least given the guy a little bit of time to get it together. Some kids are blessed when they have another parent to go to bat for them. Family situations can get really tense but you want to resolve your difficulties on a good note if you can.
@1creekgirl (40523)
• United States
22 Feb 19
That was a terrible thing to do to that kid! I think after a certain point, an adult child needs to move out and support himself, though. Congrats to your daughter.
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
26 Feb 19
Some kids can be difficult and parents lose their patience. Even so, I can't imagine not warning them, knowing they had not prepared a place to go. Thanks for the congrats. I'm excited for my daughter.
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@florelway (23134)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Mar 19
That is so cruel. I mean even if that is the culture there, at least he must wait for his son to settle and start making a living. How can some parent so inconsiderate?
@Naturalkinks (48)
• Blue Island, Illinois
22 Feb 19
Thats crazy, a parent shouldnt do that
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
26 Feb 19
Crazy. Insane. Shocking. A lot of words popped into my head.
