Nothing to worry about?
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
October 15, 2019 1:12am CST
Yesterday while waiting for my call at the center. We noticed that another new member was added to our Session. I think she’s young based on her face and her access is still in her neck. She was accompanied by I think her Mother and sister who are very supported of her by giving her water sometimes and wipes her face.
I heard from the crowd, one of the watcher asking them is she is new and where she come from. The Mother was the one who answered. After a short conversation I heard the watcher said, Nothing to worry about, you’ll be okay.
Thinking about it, why not to worry?
Of course she can only say that coz she’s the healthy one and we are the sick one. She doesn’t feel what we feel. So how come telling the young girl that.
Of course we worry how long are we going to surpass this turmoil. That every day we wake up we need to be thankful and all they can say is ‘Nothing to worry about?’
Do you tell this to someone who are sick or have something going on?
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14 responses
@Janet357 (75656)
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15 Oct 19
To be honest, sometimes it is hard to comment. Some sick people, do not want to hear this- nothing to worry about. But when your say, i feel sorry for you, they don’t like it either. They don’t like People to pity them.
So, personally, I don’t know what to say. But I just read some text from the bible, that God has promised to mankind this :there will be no sickness anymore.Isaiah 33:24.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
15 Oct 19
I think she is just trying to calm her down with her worries. I think they already know the consequences they will face in the coming days too but worrying right now is not going to help them either. So trying to comfort their love ones is the next best thing they can do to their patient to at least endure what is coming to them.
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@arunima25 (85785)
• Bangalore, India
15 Oct 19
I can understand well and as a counselor can very well relate to it.
Sometimes people have good intentions but are not sure what to say.
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@arunima25 (85785)
• Bangalore, India
17 Oct 19
@JustBhem Yes. I felt the same way when I was sick and people said such things. But then I started looking at it in a more mature way.
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@Michellekidwell (29259)
• Sonora, California
15 Oct 19
I try to encourage them, and to relate to the, having a Disability myself, and accompanying Health issues, I understand the pain and frustration!
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@Starkinds (32703)
• India
15 Oct 19
Be positive and live a cheerful life as possible
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
15 Oct 19
No I do not say that. That is not good thing to say.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
15 Oct 19
@JustBhem Yes it is a lot to worry about instead with a sick person.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
15 Oct 19
Is this "watcher" a person who is employed by the clinic?
Sometimes people placate others, making them feel better for the moment.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
15 Oct 19
@JustBhem Oh I see. I think that the watcher should have known better then. They shouldn't give false hope.
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
15 Oct 19
Sorry. That is the only word I can think of.
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@Poppylicious (11133)
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15 Oct 19
I imagine she said it with the best of intentions. Some people just don't stop to think that their positive words of encouragement are actually not. Other people see you surviving and think you're okay, because you are okay, you're just not lots of okay. I know that doesn't make sense, but I suppose people perceive that if you're alive and getting treatment, then you're okay. They aren't though, looking at the bigger picture.
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@WriterRuth (268)
• Waialua, Hawaii
15 Oct 19
Worrying can make things worse in terms of emotional stress and what that does to a physical body, but this did not sound like a compassionate thing to say - it sounds insensitive.
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