Did you have a good childhood?

@Nevena83 (65280)
Serbia
January 5, 2020 3:27pm CST
Good evening friends I had a terrible day today, but unfortunately this is nothing new. I invited my son to have lunch together, and my mom joined us. My father started chanting and insulting me and saying disgusting things that I listen to every day. My son said this is the reason he always eats alone and I no longer call him when we're all at the table. I feel terrible. I did not provide my child with a good childhood. After a couple of hours I went to his room and told him I was sorry and understood why he did not want to have lunch with us. I am full of anger, hatred of my father, and can not stand it anymore.
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@snowy22315 (171911)
• United States
5 Jan 20
YOu have to get out Nevena. Yes I had a good childhood. I once apologized to my son for his childhood which probably wasn't the best. He said it was more good than bad though. I had nothing to apologize for.
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@snowy22315 (171911)
• United States
5 Jan 20
@Nevena83 He knows that you cared enough to say something though. That counts for alot. Most people wouldn't.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Jan 20
I know, but I don't know where, I don't know how. It's nice to hear that people had a nice childhood. I don’t think my son will have anything nice to say about his childhood.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
6 Jan 20
@snowy22315 I wish he had a different childhood that he didn't have to watch the violence and listen to the ugly words.
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@LadyDuck (461776)
• Switzerland
6 Jan 20
I am really sorry to hear this. Eat with your son and not with your parents, your mother does not move a finger to defend you, they do not deserve your attention. I was lucky, I had a good childhood.
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@LadyDuck (461776)
• Switzerland
7 Jan 20
@Nevena83 May be it is because she fears your father.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
7 Jan 20
She's acting awful. She's always on his side, I can't understand why.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
7 Jan 20
@LadyDuck No, she's not afraid of him. She has been taught from a young age that only men are respected and women are humiliated.
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• United States
6 Jan 20
when ya let'cher heart 'n soul fill with hate, 't wins. he wins. i'm saddened that'cher son's grown seein'/hearin' this behavior. makes me worry 'bout his future'n how he treats women. but, that 'tis his choice to make, one cannot make 't fer him. yer best bet'd be to get far 'way from there. give yerself time to heal 'n move'n with yer life. i've nary a clue what changed with yer dad, 'tis none 'f my business. but i know that folks change 'n 'tis ugly.
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• United States
8 Jan 20
@Nevena83 breaks my heart to read 'f such, hon. i dunno why some folks're prone to self-destruct :( to take't out'n others e'en more horrifyin' :(
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
8 Jan 20
@crazyhorseladycx Honestly, I never expected anything from him, I just want this hell to stop.
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• United States
8 Jan 20
@Nevena83 sounds's though there 'tis 'nly one way to make that happen'n that'd require ya to move out. he's not gonna stop.
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@nela13 (55816)
• Portugal
8 Jan 20
I am so sorry, maybe you can just have dinner and lunch only with your son. I don't understand your father's behavior.
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@nela13 (55816)
• Portugal
9 Jan 20
@Nevena83 Why is your father so mean to you?
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
9 Jan 20
@nela13 I don't know, I'll never have an answer to that. We used to be very close, I loved him more than anything and then love turned into hate.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
8 Jan 20
This is impossible because the room we eat is the main room in the house, the lounge and my parents are always there.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
5 Jan 20
So sorry you have to tolerate this behavior. Take lots of deep breaths and keep going. This too shall pass,
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Jan 20
Thank you, but it's so hard to control my negative emotions. I can't stand it, sometimes I think I'll explode.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
5 Jan 20
@Nevena83 I do understand. Take it a minute at a time. Deep breath in, deep breath out.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Jan 20
@CarolDM I'm very tired, very much. I'm tired of hearing insults every day ...
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• India
6 Jan 20
Sorry to know dear but why ur father keep insulting u
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• India
6 Jan 20
@Nevena83 this is so bad
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@marlina (154165)
• Canada
5 Jan 20
So sorry that you did not have a good childhood, mine was pretty good,
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Jan 20
I had a beautiful childhood, as long as I had the love of my father, but when that was gone, my life became hell.
@amadeo (111942)
• United States
5 Jan 20
why do you bother to invite him there.I would not Father or no father.Sounds like an abusive old man.
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@MALUSE (69388)
• Germany
5 Jan 20
Yes, I did. I really can't complain. I was a child in the meagre post-war years. We lived in the GDR (German Democratic Republic) where life was poor for everybody. This didn't bother me as a child because it was all I knew and I couldn't compare it with other living conditions.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Jan 20
I lived in a poor family and I was never bothered by poverty because I had the love of my father. When that changed, my life went to hell.
@DianneN (247205)
• United States
5 Jan 20
I’m so sorry this goes on in your house. I feel bad for your son and for you, too. It’s a shame you have to tolerate this verbal abuse.
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@DianneN (247205)
• United States
5 Jan 20
@Nevena83 I do understand. I’m so sorry. Just try to remain cool, calm, and collected.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
5 Jan 20
Trust me I can't stand it anymore. I feel like I'm about to explode. I am full of negative emotions that choke me.
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@JudyEv (328039)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Jan 20
I am so sorry. This is an awful situation for you.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
6 Jan 20
Thank you for your support. I'm tired of him.
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@st4nko (171)
• Serbia
13 Feb 20
Yeah, until the war started, you know it.
@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
13 Feb 20
Yes, the war we did not deserve. But I think God gives them back for that.
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