Nothing negative Nevena!!!

@Nevena83 (65280)
Serbia
April 20, 2020 10:09am CST
Good day friends The peace did not last long, I had a conflict with my father again. He is like that every day, every day he utters ugly words, curses, insults, but he is always looking for a way to provoke my reaction, today he has succeeded. Of course, Mom was on his side again. I will not burden you with my problems and I want to apologize to people who come to my post and read often only the negative things. Today was a cloudy and colder day, I think we will get some rain soon. How are you today?
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@Moon24 (22396)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
Yesterday was rain and because of it we have colder day.
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@Moon24 (22396)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
@Nevena83 Here was a little rain and wind.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
@Moon24 It's cloudy here, but colder than yesterday, but I heard it would be colder tomorrow.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
We had no rain yesterday.
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• United States
20 Apr 20
I know how you feel. My mom is the same way. :( I try to stay focused on the positive things in life. Unless they decide to change, it's hard living with them.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
I'm sorry you have a similar life. It's hard for me to focus on something positive because this takes too long. My father will never change.
@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
21 Apr 20
@Pepsgirl472 That sounds so optimistic, but I no longer know how to deal with bad things. When I was younger, I could take it easier, but I don't think my psyche can handle it anymore. I'm too sensitive and I don't know how to fix it.
• United States
21 Apr 20
@Nevena83 it does take a miracle for them to change. But, you can concentrate on yourself. Take every negative word he spits out and turn it into a positive. When I was told that I was stupid, I worked hard to learn things. I'm not the smartest person on earth, but I'm NOT stupid either ;) when I was told that I wouldn't be somebody, I became the friend everyone wanted. Now, I AM somebody. I have 2 beautiful children that are smart and productive in life. I've adopted others into my family that chose ME! I have grandkids that I look forward to seeing what is in store for them :) that can never be taken away from me ever. All it takes is one step at a time. Work on one trait at a time and know you're not alone
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• Midland, Michigan
22 Apr 20
How old is your father and had he always been this way? Your mom might side with him because otherwise he might take it out on her when they are alone. It's possible that is you saw her separately that she wouldn't side with him at all. I ask his age and also whether his behavior is newer or an old habit because for some older people when they get senior afflictions such as dementia or Alzheimer's their words become more caustic and hurtful. Take care and don't let his words lay heavy on your heart.
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• Midland, Michigan
22 Apr 20
@Nevena83 drinking will do that too. If he can't be nice or at least civil I don't think it would be wrong to limit his visits. Your mental health is more important.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
22 Apr 20
My father is 66 years old, he was always strict, but we were very close, I loved him very much. When I got divorced he started drinking and his consciousness started to change and he started acting like he was my husband and not my father. And more and more he started with insults, ugly words, he was also physically abusive ... And that lasts for 15 years. Honestly, his words kill me, I can't stand his presence anymore, his voice causes anger in me.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
22 Apr 20
@MarshaMusselman I live with them, that's the biggest problem.
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@JudyEv (326592)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Apr 20
I'm sorry you have to cope with these ongoing disruptions. Are you sure there is no way out?
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@JudyEv (326592)
• Rockingham, Australia
22 Apr 20
@Nevena83 Hopefully when one door shuts, another will open.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
21 Apr 20
As long as my son is in this house, I can't leave because I wouldn't have enough money to pay for the apartment, but when he leaves, I'll go out on the street.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
22 Apr 20
@JudyEv I have often listened to it, but it seems to me that all doors are closed.
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@Hannihar (129636)
• Israel
20 Apr 20
@Nevena83 I can very much relate to what you are saying. I hope one day you will get away from that and meet very nice people that will make your life better.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
Thank you. I think even if that happens, I'm no longer the same. I'm very tired, exhausted ...
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@Hannihar (129636)
• Israel
20 Apr 20
@Nevena83 Yes, I can understand how you feel. I understand very much and you are welcome and so so sorry I live far away to help you and also because of this virus I cannot help you. I wish I could take your pain away. I grew up in a situation like that and married into a situation like that and have had bullies treat me so bad here and they still are very nasty so yes, I can understand.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
@Hannihar Thank you. Yes, people who have gone through something similar can understand it. It's very difficult.
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• Agra, India
20 Apr 20
I'm really sad this happened with you. But the fact is that some people aren't meant to get along at all
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• Agra, India
20 Apr 20
@Nevena83 yes..but learn to ignore and live if possible
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• Agra, India
20 Apr 20
@Nevena83 yes...I can understand. Every time it isn't possible to ignore.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
@amitkokiladitya That's very difficult. Every day I try to ignore him, but I can't even describe how awful he says things.
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@AmbiePam (85859)
• United States
20 Apr 20
I am sorry to hear you deal with so much conflict. That certainly makes life hard. My day has been fine. I just ran a few errands.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
Yes, it takes over 15 years and it's really hard.
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@snowy22315 (170949)
• United States
20 Apr 20
I would live in a cardboard box under a bridge before I would endure that on a daily basis. You are really suffering domestic abuse. Are there any shelters you can go to? Do you have any friends that could help? I know you are concerned for your son, but even just taking a break for a while might help calm the situation a bit. Nothing is going to change while you are there.Sorry,.
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@snowy22315 (170949)
• United States
20 Apr 20
@Nevena83 You need a break isn't there anyone you can stay with for a couple of weeks, friend, relative..anyone?
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
@snowy22315 Yes, I need a vacation, but I have nowhere to go, in fact I have an aunt, but they live in a very small apartment and I would not be able to stay there. My brother bought an old house near my house, and his computers are there, I often go there for a couple of hours, and do some training there and I like to rest, but my dad can come there, just to control me.
@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
I absolutely agree with you, and I've been saying this to myself for years, but I always thought I didn't have the right to do it to my son, so I'm just waiting for my son to finish school and hopefully he will leave this house then, then I can to the street, it won't matter to me anymore.
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@jstory07 (134903)
• Roseburg, Oregon
21 Apr 20
Can you afford a place of your own?
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
21 Apr 20
No, because I wouldn't have enough money.
@moffittjc (118702)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 Apr 20
You should buy a tent, and set it up outside, and go there to sleep sometimes, just to get out of the house and away from your father.
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@moffittjc (118702)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Apr 20
@Nevena83 Can you really make it that much longer? You need to get away now to protect your sanity.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
21 Apr 20
Yes, but I could do it when my son leaves this house.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
25 Apr 20
@moffittjc You are right, but more important is my son's happiness.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
20 Apr 20
I don’t know how you put up with that. Honestly!
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
20 Apr 20
@Nevena83 Only you can change that.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
@DianneN I know and I know you are right.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
Honestly I have been wondering about that for years. Every time I think I can't stand it anymore, but it goes on day by day. I know that I am no longer the same because they have destroyed my energy, positivity, desires….
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@banksim (5205)
21 Apr 20
hope all thing will be fine
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@banksim (5205)
21 Apr 20
@Nevena83 ok my friend
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
21 Apr 20
Nothing will ever be right here, but thanks for the nice wishes.
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• Philippines
20 Apr 20
Sorry to hear about that, Nevena.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
Thank you.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
Wishing you better days.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
Thank you so much
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@marlina (154165)
• Canada
20 Apr 20
I so wish that could be a solution to fix this problem SOON SOON.
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
Thank you forever. Sometimes I think nothing will change.
@Janet357 (75656)
20 Apr 20
I think the best way to get rid of him is to look for a place where you and your son can live. just a cheap one i think. Is work hard to find there?
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
No, it's not hard to find, the problem is money.
• India
20 Apr 20
Sorry to know about it dear. It was cloudy here too and rained as well
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@Nevena83 (65280)
• Serbia
20 Apr 20
Thank you. We have a similar weather.
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