Fighting with my child

my daughter and I fight and she is 8... Children seeem to have a mind of there own at times

It is a difficult age. Its the time a child realizes that parents doesnot know everything. So, be patient with her. With time she'll realize the importance of a mother-daughter relationship. Always let her feel that you trust her completely and she's your best friend in this world with whom you can share anything. Actually do it as and when possible. Then she'll be ok. I wish you luck

May be you should not see it as fighting. the best advice thta i could give is that firstly it is quite natural to air your opinions as everyone likes to be heard. the other thing also is that a 10 year old has become an individual. Although it is very natural for parents to still picture their child as the one who they changed nappies for fed them milk, it is not the same little baby you are dealing with. Sometimes what happens is that parents still see their grown up child as a baby and without actually knowing they put pressure on the child. At 10 years old they not only need comfort but thye also need their own space and they also need to know that even though you're kind enough to give them space, you're also kind enough to be there when they need a shoulder to cry on. Showing an interst in your childs activities also creates a huge bond and a lack of bondong leads to misunderstandings, which then lead to fighting. If all this fails the best thing to do is talk quitelt under all circumstances and show your feelings kindly to your child ! Good luck !

My daughter is 7 and we fight alot about school work. Sometimes her clothes. she wants to wear her school clothes outside, and i want her to put on play clothes. from talking with all my friends with girls around these ages it is normal. It seems that they are growing up faster than we did as kids.

My mom and I never really fought. About anything. I was always afraid of her for some reason. I guess because I knew she had the authority to spank me and I didn't want that to happen. lol

fighting with her is normal and she may be going through a time because she may feel you cant see things her point of veiw. make sure she doesnt go over the top with phicical fighting and try to listen to her as much as possible.

The value of a person is more when that person is not near you. Stop doing so many things which you have been doing all these days. Let her to on her own except minimum things like cooking food etc. This will also give you an opportunity to teach her to be on her own. Watch it for a week or fortnight. Things will be better from your point of view.

ooh,,its great isnt it,,the slamming of doors,the whinging,the mutterings,the tears and anger for nothing,,mine is 11 and i honestly know her hormones are going mad,,i can nearly see them swishing round her,,they say it gets worse before it gets better,,my god,i hope not,,,she is so heavy handed with everything it is like she is boiling all the time,,,,iv not had 'I HATE YOU' yet but i am reliably told it will come,,i shall take a breath,,tut to myself and demand some respect,,(wonder if i will get it) see you on the other side hun lol

It's obvious that you don't put her over your knee enough. Remember, spare the rod spoil the child. Does your daughter even know that you are the parent and she is the child?

its normal...me and my father used to fight a lot ut at the end of the we are good friends again

I think she may just be acting out for attention, that is a feeling she is showing, listen to it

To a point it is normal. My mother and I are best friends, yet growing up I knew she was mom first. She laid down boundries and I was terrified to go over those boundries, yet knew if anything ever happend to me she would be the first one there to help me out of it or cheer me up. I have found it works a lot to be open and honest with your children, and being the first one there when they need you while letting them know you are not there door mat.

It's very normal. It's going to get even more intense the more she matures. Be honest with her, set your boundaries to how far she can take things with you and stick to them. Remember that she'll be your best friend when she grows up. Good luck to you.

Oh yes this is very very normal. For sons and daughters of this age it is. She is just trying to find her place in the world and exert a little independance. It is very hard to deal with that age ( had 2 go through it and one just getting into it right now). There are days I am the "evil mother". I laugh..well I can now since I have gotten the two oldest through it. I do allow her to voice her opinions. I let her know if she goes overboard. One of the things I often say is "when you calm down, think about what you want to say to me in a rational voice, I will listen. Until then I am tuning you out." And I do. Or another good one is when she wants to argue about not being able to go further than the neighbors, because her friends all do (yes I am a little over protective), I tell her if she can bring to me one good point to argue with me over this, then I am willing to listen...so far so good. I learned tons from my older two boys. Patience and knowing this won't last forever is what will get me through this one and my last.