Hah! I managed to talk to a talker and do 50% of the talking!

It is usually the lady that does all the talking but not always, I met this one women in the National Guard and oh my was she so quiet. Quiet on the verge were could tell she just did not like me. As my favorite bartender once explained everyone likes you, no they do not. It was so damn awkward as I am a awkward person from the start, but when I feel the need to say strike a conversation, you being something. I barley said 5 sentences to her on 6 to 8 hour drive. Every time I opened my mouth just shut up and go type attitude. I get she was shy, but shy bordering on rude, because Trust me, you could get real jerk male talkers and maybe that is what it was, some ladies really like the bad boys and I have never been able to pull off the bad boy image, even though I have always been a outcast and swear like I am walking on hot rusty nails.

@CarolDM Indeed, but you can always tell if someone is like that or if they just do not like you and she had both those things going. I think overall people should shut their trap for a at least a minute and catch something where it benefits them. I had times where I was in a rage because someone made me mad, but since I am normally so quiet, I can still hear other conversations.My friends said shut up to each other, we get it was a jerk move, but cannot be changed now, as if I would not hear them over my ranting and raving. So I let it go and then everyone became happy again.

@crossbones27 It goes both ways, all depends on the person. I have always been on the quiet side. You learn more like that.

@TheHorse We can´t ecpect 50 50. But 97 verus 3 is too much

@marguicha I experience 97/3 way too often.

50/50 would be ideal. But I rarely encounter that.

@TheHorse Not always. There have been times when I have been accused of being a horrible listener(well mostly by my wife!!!)

@TheHorse That I do not listen or I am hard at hearing many things.

I take it you're a pretty good listener.

I like to "tell my story." But hey, that's what MyLot is for.

@just4him Heh. How are things in Wisconsin today?

@TheHorse Yes, it is.

Does he interrupt your interruptions?

@TheHorse No, he usually listens.

@LindaOHio Good for him! With some of my friends, I can't get through a sentence without being interrupted.

Is the talking and listening balanced? I am "trained" in listening, as I am a psychologist. But sometimes I get p*ssed off when I spend the whole time listening and never get to talk.

@TheHorse Yeah usually, anyone that talks more or takes up more of the conversation is usually an old person. At least in my life. Lol.

@thislittlepennyearns Heh. Older people like to tell their stories. But the "talkers" I know are of all ages.

@TheHorse Yes, that's part of the point I think. If only I talk, everyone (including myself) get bored. And talking about things usually makes the talker understand more.

@Torunn I agree entirely!

As a fellow teacher, I do like to get others to talk in class.

@TheHorse I also dislike listening for hours to someone who only loves to talk but does not listen. I have a cousin like that, she talks and talks and talks.

I think I dislike interruptions (which many talkers do) the most.

@TheHorse Did that call at 2am scare you? That seems like bad news at that of time of the morning, but glad they're doing okay. NC is such a long, wide state, so it might be several hours difference whether they're going to western NC or eastern NC.

@1creekgirl Heh. I slept through it. But he ended it up by snoring and made me laugh this morning.

I think they're shooting for three. I got a call from Horse Jr. at 2 AM last night. They made it to New Mexico. By now, I'd imaging they're in Northern Texas. I will give them a call soon.

Does that ever frustrate you? I admit that listening and never talking sometimes frustrates me.

@JudyEv I don't mind maybe a 70/30 balance, but I like to talk sometimes.

@TheHorse Sometimes it does but mostly I'm happy enough not to have to talk.

You're a "talker"?

@TheHorse Sometimes I am very curious so ask a lot of questions and other times I just do not care so do not say anything.

Heh heh. It was a "planned mission."

Welcome aboard! Read the guidelines, get involved in conversations, and have fun!

@SanNTH De nada.

@TheHorse Ok, thanks you

I agree. Hey, you should separate your words beneath your comment with commas. More effective that way.

Heh heh. I was determined to do it when I called him.

Yep. Same here.

I can't remember the last time I received an actual letter. I was amazed when e-mails came about.I could talk to my friends and family in Israel or New York or Montana in an instant. For free!