Bestfriend stealing my man

Philippines
December 4, 2020 4:31am CST
I couldn't explain what I felt that day. I mean how could she do this? I've been a supportive friend ever since we were kids and this is what I get in return? She even ruins my image saying that I'm such a sl**. Should I forgive her???
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@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
4 Dec 20
Have you ever thought of blaming your boyfriend, too? It takes two to tango as the saying goes.
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@Aquitaine24 (11653)
• San Jose, California
4 Dec 20
That is a good point.
@MALUSE (69409)
• Germany
4 Dec 20
@Aquitaine24 It is, isn't it?
• Philippines
4 Dec 20
I've thought about it too and I understand that some boys don't know how to be contented. However, this is my "EX" best friend we're talking about here. Someone who I thought would be my forever best friend. I mean it hurts, you know?
@Shavkat (137238)
• Philippines
4 Dec 20
I think it is not worth to trust her again.
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@Shavkat (137238)
• Philippines
5 Dec 20
@BlueLuna8 I think you need to stay away from her. This is not a simple issue to deal with. By the way, welcome to myLot.
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• Philippines
4 Dec 20
I know.. Ever since that day, I'm having trust issues :((
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• Philippines
5 Dec 20
@Shavkat I know :(( thank you!!
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@Hannihar (129609)
• Israel
4 Dec 20
@BlueLuna8 Wow, that is not a friend. She sounds horrible. I am sorry. I would not forgive her. Do you want to forgive her?
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• Philippines
4 Dec 20
I don't know what to do anymore. It bothers me a lot... I don't want to forgive her but my heart is so heavy.
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@Hannihar (129609)
• Israel
6 Dec 20
@BlueLuna8 Listen to yourself and what you feel is the best thing to do. If you want to forgive her do and if you do not then do not.
@Janet357 (75656)
4 Dec 20
am sorry for this. Then she does not treat you as her bestfriend. otherwise' she would not.do it.
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• Philippines
4 Dec 20
She was the closest friend I had, I can't believe she did this.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
4 Dec 20
Do not accept her anymore in your life is the right thing to do in my opinion. But of course you know the whole story and can decide properly.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
5 Dec 20
@BlueLuna8 You can get through this
• Philippines
4 Dec 20
I've thought about this huhu thank you!!
@kay990 (373)
• Zambia
4 Dec 20
That hurts alot. You can only forgive her when you heal From the pain.
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@kay990 (373)
• Zambia
4 Dec 20
@BlueLuna8 it still hurts because she was not just an ordinary friend but best friend.A best friend takes a part of you because of the things you do together or go through some situations together.the healing may take time because she was your best friend.but i pray you heal from it .
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• Philippines
4 Dec 20
it's been 4 or 5 years I think? And I can still the pain. I can't help but wonder when this pain will end
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
4 Dec 20
For now, you have all the right to be angry and hate her. Losing trust with your best friend and stealing your boyfriend is just too much to bear right now. But I would not hold that grudge for so long and try to move on with life. I think that is what is best for you right now. If the flesh is wounded it is okay to cry over it while medicines are being applied to it. But when the pain is gone and the wound dried up there is no more reason to cry over it anymore and just move on with your life. You will be much happier letting those go than hold that grudge over them for the betrayal you received from them.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
5 Dec 20
@BlueLuna8 Glad you appreciated my advice. So for now you may allow yourself to be angry and maybe mourn for the love and trust you lost. But life goes on and time will be pass and heal you. It is best to love and forgive yourself for now. Loving yourself first before trying to love others at this time would be the best gift to yourself.
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• Philippines
4 Dec 20
Awwee thank youuuuu! I'll keep that in mind :) I honestly don't know what to do if it wasn't for this website :((
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@kaylachan (58447)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Dec 20
I don't know the whole story but based on the title. I think it's up to you. She may not have been a good friend in the first place. However, the bigger person doesn't hold a grudge. If you can forgive and move on, that'll be better for everyone involved. Losing your man hurts, sure, but you don't need people like that in your life.
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• Philippines
4 Dec 20
Aweeee thank you so much! I feel a little better after hearing those. I really need a reality slap haha!
@RebeccasFarm (86911)
• United States
7 Dec 20
Wow..that is so mean. I am not sure if you should or not they say we should but you will not be able to trust her.
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• United States
9 Dec 20
@BlueLuna8 Yes I do not blame you.It is not worth it to trust someone like that.
• Philippines
7 Dec 20
I'm having trouble trusting people rn, to be honest :(
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• Austin, Texas
4 Dec 20
Forgive her. Forgive your boyfriend. Count yourself blessed they showed their true colors to you. Move on. Life has its pain and disappointment. But there's a lot more to life. Believe me!
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• Philippines
5 Dec 20
Yes thank youu!!
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@porwest (78759)
• United States
4 Dec 20
You need to think of this is another way. Perhaps this "friend" did you more good than bad. I mean, I would not associate with her after something like this mind you. But she told you everything you need to know about your "man."If he was worth keeping, your friend would have been told to go fly a kite. If your man is so easily taken away—she did you a favor.
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• Philippines
4 Dec 20
On the contrary yes, since everything happens for a reason...Thank you for your thoughts!
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@sophie09 (34246)
• Indonesia
4 Dec 20
did she insult you in front of your face?
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@sophie09 (34246)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 20
@BlueLuna8 thats crazy. How can she do that
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• Philippines
7 Dec 20
@sophie09 maybe she's that "thick-face" HAHAHA!
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• Philippines
5 Dec 20
i guess...
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@ExplorewtMe (6333)
• Nairobi, Kenya
7 Dec 20
I think you should talk to her face to face and straight to sort this matter If you think she is your best friend. That's what I thought to close this matter.
@iKONICNoona (4004)
• Philippines
7 Dec 20
Welcome to myLot ! Hope you enjoy your stay here at the site Thank you for the discussion as well .