That One Certain 'Friend'...
By Marie Coyle
@MarieCoyle (28810)
April 25, 2021 8:12pm CST
Maybe it's just me, maybe not. But I have this one friend, a lady I knew in college way back when, who has become very, very materialistic.
And brags about all of her possessions.
If I go to her home, she has to take me all around and tell me where she got everything, the bargains she found, no one has better stuff than she does, and so on and so forth. She never shuts up about money, what she spent it on, and where she spent it, and it's so offensive, she has lost most of her friends.
She's about to lose me, too. Luckily I don't live super close to her, but when I do see her, it's the same old same old thing. Sometimes, I feel like someone should tell her why she has lost friends, as she does wonder why. But, I hate to hurt her feelings.. She is a nice person, honest and friendly. She just won't shut up about money and belongings. I have been slowly backing off as I can't help myself.
I don't want to be a bad friend. But I have had about all of this that I can stand.
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@snowy22315 (170204)
• United States
26 Apr 21
There are people like that who just blabber on endlessly about what they have and how special they are. I honestly think they don"t know or care how obnoxious most people find that behavior
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@snowy22315 (170204)
• United States
26 Apr 21
@MarieCoyle I think that is the way they think. It smacks of deep insecurity to me
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@MarieCoyle (28810)
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26 Apr 21
@snowy22315 Yes, it does to me, too. Like she thinks people will like her more if she brags on her money and her stuff. It's actually sad.
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@MarieCoyle (28810)
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26 Apr 21
In her case it seems very sad that she seems to think her total self worth is in her money and her possessions.
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@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
26 Apr 21
There are friends who are like that and it is so sad that at some points, friendship is affected.
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@MarieCoyle (28810)
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26 Apr 21
No matter how I say it, I fear it will hurt her feelings terribly and I don't want to do that. I guess I am just being a chicken, and hoping someone else will tell her what I don't want to say. My bad.
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@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
26 Apr 21
@MarieCoyle I hope there is a perfect timing for that. Real friends need to talk things out and somehow understand each other to better the friendship.
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@MarieCoyle (28810)
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26 Apr 21
I am going to talk it over with a mutual friend we have, as she is having some issues with this person, too. Maybe we can talk to her together. Nicely, of course. I know, I am a chicken.
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