Accept the way I am.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58675)
Delhi, India
July 2, 2021 5:03am CST
I was reading a quote - which says
"Grant me the serenity to accept the
things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference"
by Reinhold Niebuhr
Everyone of us is different and we behave differently. Some people do not behave the way we want them to be. Ideally speaking, we should accept them the way they are but sometimes we do not.
Do you accept others, the way they are or do you try to change them as per your wishes?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
It is difficult for you to accept some incorrigible souls the way they are because they act as per their own whims and fancies. There are different types of people and how hard we try we cannot change them. We would slightly mold them, if they are willing to listen to us but not much.
It is good to hear that you don't try to change others and more or less accept the way they behave.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
4 Jul 21
@LadyDuck Yes, you are very right that many marriages fail because husband or the wife thinks that s/he could change his/her partner, which is not possible.
However, it takes time before this realization comes in married life that each partner will have to accept other, the way s/he is.
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@LadyDuck (458867)
• Switzerland
3 Jul 21
@dpk262006 We cannot change others. This is why many marriages fail, it is when a woman (or a man) think that it is possible to change their companion. We are what we are and we do not change through our life.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
2 Jul 21
When i am not willing to behave as they like..then why should they ..simple...so accept the way they are..
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
You are right that you just cannot behave the way others want you to, therefore, you just cannot expect the same thing with them. We just cannot change others, we have no option but to accpet them.
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@much2say (53944)
• Los Angeles, California
2 Jul 21
Well, we cannot control others. We can give our opinions about someone, but to change is their own choice. Other than that, I can accept the way they are to a point . . . but I do not have to like or agree with it. Instead of changing of them, I would choose to change how I deal with them.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
Yes, you are very right that we could give suggestions to someone - how he could change himself/herself. We just cannot force him to act on our suggestions.
Yes, it is our choice whether we want to agree with someone's opinion or not.
You are right that instead of changing others, we should try to change ourselves. 
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Jul 21
@much2say Yes, you are very right that no one takes our honest suggestions in right earnest and if they are required to change themselves and they don't, they will have to face the consequences. And if they don't want to change themselves and they don't change, they will have to accept us, the way we are.
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@much2say (53944)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Jul 21
@dpk262006 I have found that even if one is told suggestions, they never listen 
, Most people won't change. So these days I don't even bother. But they will have to deal with their own consequences. If I accept them, then they will have to accept me, even if I choose to not be around them anymore.
, Most people won't change. So these days I don't even bother. But they will have to deal with their own consequences. If I accept them, then they will have to accept me, even if I choose to not be around them anymore.1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
Yes, it is not less than a serenity prayer. You are right that if someone is going wayward and is erratic, he needs to be counseled and advised and if he could act upon our advice, he should try to change himself. However, some of the people do not change and they cannot be changed, and if we have to deal with them, we will have to but accept them, the way they are.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Jul 21
@Jlyn10 Alas! It could be possible.
In my view everyone should be taught how to make adjustments in life and how one should be flexible in life, so that when need arises he could change himself.
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@Jlyn10 (11966)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 21
@dpk262006 But it would be good if everyone can be changed from worst to better. Then the world would be a better place to live in.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
You mean to say that you avoid those, whom you dislike and this way you feel better.
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@thelme55 (76481)
• Germany
3 Jul 21
@dpk262006 That’s right. Those negative people who makes me sick, I avoid them.
Those negative people who makes me sick, I avoid them.
@CuriousGab (3251)
• India
2 Jul 21
@dpk262006
No two people think same.Everyone is unique and this uniqueness makes them special.
If the person is behaving inappropriately it is our duty to show them the right path but we don't have any right to change their morals or what they think is good according to them.
For example a person is vegan we have no right to force or change him into a non-vegan.
But if the person is doing something wrong it is our duty to try to change him and show him the right path.
So I think it depends on the situation.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
You are right that everyone is different and we need to accept this fact. If we try to change someone, it won't help much. If someone is wayward and erratic, we could advise him to be correct but we just cannot change him.
You have given a good example of food choice.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Jul 21
@CuriousGab Yes, you are very right if we could imagine ourselves in their place, we could be more practical. As we ourselves don't want to change, therefore, it will be wrong to assume that others will change.
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@CuriousGab (3251)
• India
3 Jul 21
@dpk262006
We should imagine ourselves in their position before trying to change others.
What if they do the same.Would we accept whatever other person tell us to change in ourselves.
Everyone have certain morals they follow which they think are right and we cannot easily bend it.
So we should not blame them when they don't accept what we say.they will need some time.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
10 Jul 21
It is good to hear that you do not expect others people to change for you. Yes, you are very right that when you cannot change yourself, how could you expect from others, therefore, you accept them, the way they are.
@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
2 Jul 21
We are each different in our own way. Sometimes I don't like how someone else acts, but I ignore their actions as long as those actions don't hurt anyone else.
I can only do my best. I'm just human.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
Yes, you are very right that we are different in our own way and we have to accept this fact. Many a times we do not like how others behave, we wish in our mind - "Alas! this person could change his behavior" however, practically it does not happen. Ignoring such souls, who trouble us, would be the best option.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
Glad you liked the quote and I hope that you also implement this quote in your real life?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
It is good to hear that you do not try to change others and you mind your own business.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
It is nice and wise on your part that you accept the others, the way they are and you do not try to change them.
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@Butterfingers (66585)
• India
2 Jul 21
It's so difficult but Ideally we should accept them and try to avoid/ ignore their negative attributes
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
Yes, you are right that even if we wish, we just cannot change anyone and best option would be to accept them, the way they are.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
You won't even think of changing others in your mind?
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
3 Jul 21
Great quote by sir Reinhold Neibuhr.
I greatly believe that one should never change themselves for the sake of the so called society or for people but should surely change themselves according to the situation they are in
I personally never expect from anybody to change as per my own will.
Hope to hear from you soon:)
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Jul 21
Welcome to myLot. 
You meant to say that one should not change himself if he is being forced by others but if the situation demands he should adjust himself. Yes, you are right that no one could force me to change you or me, as we have our own characteristics.
It is good on your part that you do not expect others to change, as per your wishes.
You meant to say that one should not change himself if he is being forced by others but if the situation demands he should adjust himself. Yes, you are right that no one could force me to change you or me, as we have our own characteristics.
It is good on your part that you do not expect others to change, as per your wishes. 1 person likes this
@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
3 Jul 21
@dpk262006 glad to hear that sir thank you for your words:)
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
3 Jul 21
I just don't really care or mind what others of what they are as long as they respect me or other people too.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
4 Jul 21
It is wiser on your part that you do not bother how others behave, as long as they show respect to you and treat you nicely.
that you do not bother how others behave, as long as they show respect to you and treat you nicely.1 person likes this
