Will I still forgive him? Just a piece of advice please
@Abejar24 (75)
Tacloban City, Philippines
December 4, 2021 11:43am CST
Hello everyone! Until now I can't sleep from thinking over and over again.
Will I accept him gain as my husband or we will just end our relationship after I found him cheating on me? I can't really decide I need all your advices.
I didn't experience it before, that's why I'm super confused about how will I handle this problem.
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@snowy22315 (170947)
• United States
4 Dec 21
I think only you can make that decision really. Is he begging your forgiveness, or is he acting like he doesn't care? Has he done this before? Is he willing to go to counseling? I don't think there is one answer for everybody.
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@snowy22315 (170947)
• United States
4 Dec 21
@Abejar24 Personally, I would see if he is willing to go to counseling. That should give you an indication of how serious he is
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@Abejar24 (75)
• Tacloban City, Philippines
4 Dec 21
@snowy22315 it would be helpful tho
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@Belexhanns (3431)
• Kampala, Uganda
4 Dec 21
You have to decide well,sometimes you need to forget something and go on with life; I don't think divorce is the right answer for any marriage. When you don't think twice before doing something, you will regret forever in your life
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@Abejar24 (75)
• Tacloban City, Philippines
4 Dec 21
I don't want to rush my decision, coz I'm afraid I might regret whatever decision I take. I didn't expect that I might experience this things and I'm very envy to those women who feld secured to their man. Wish I know all of this, before it happen, to be prepared but, how funny misfortune hit me.
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@Abejar24 (75)
• Tacloban City, Philippines
4 Dec 21
@Belexhanns Well thanks to you. Your advice is somewhat helpful to me.
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@Abejar24 (75)
• Tacloban City, Philippines
4 Dec 21
That's what I'm doubting, can I forgive and can I trust him I gain? Because I believe ones that one's the trust is broken it's to hard to build up trust again. Pain is killing me so bad
@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
6 Dec 21
Something probably is wrong with you. A good husband won't cheat a wife if she's a pain on his neck. Ponder over kick for I know something you've missed to satisfy your hubby.
@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
11 Dec 21
@Abejar24 Yes, both of you aren't perfect. Cheating is avoided if communication is constant.
@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
13 Dec 21
@tallawah This is too different. We couldn't compare to others for they've different reasons or causes. That's why nobody is perfect. This is is a case-by-case situation.
@Mayabee21 (326)
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5 Dec 21
I believe that could happen again but if you both want the relationship you could make it work.
@Abejar24 (75)
• Tacloban City, Philippines
6 Dec 21
I already forgive him, but the difference is that I'm no longer be him. That's the decision I made
@Nickenock (15)
• Kampala, Uganda
4 Dec 21
That is a simple thing which can not end your relationship with your husband, you just need to sit down and settle about it
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@Abejar24 (75)
• Tacloban City, Philippines
4 Dec 21
I think I and my husband can settle this at the right time. If I see to it that his really doing his best to be a better husband and cope up with his mistakes maybe we can still save our relation. I won't beg for someone's attention if he don't want to change and that's reality. Hayst I'm sad
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@Hannihar (129636)
• Israel
14 Dec 21
@Abejar24
If he has never done it before then maybe you can see in your heart to forgive him. If he is known for cheating then I would not forgive him. I would say only you know who or what he is to decide that so I am not sure if I gave you good advice or not. You have to listen to your heart and decide because if you push him away it may be hard to bring him back again. That is a very hard thing to advise on because it is your relationship and not others and you probably do not trust him now. He will have to earn your trust again if you decide to stay with him.
@merrybelle2021 (1389)
• Philippines
5 Dec 21
How many years have you been married? How many years have you been boyfriend/girlfriend before getting married? Is this the first time he cheated? Do you have children? Is he still at home with you?
