We Broke Up

@flapiz (22425)
United Kingdom
February 19, 2022 1:24pm CST
I don't know what my boyfriend is undergoing but if he's not willing to let me in to help him then I can do nothing. Yesterday I made a painful decision to break up with him as his indecision seems like an answer already. I also feel like although he says he loves me his actions does not show it. I'm still hopeful he'd wake up and change his mind but I'm just really praying a lot that if he's for me I hope he wakes up and step up, if he's not, then may I have the courage to let him go.
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@JudyEv (326602)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Feb 22
If he is meant for you, he'll get back in touch. Otherwise I guess you won't hear from him again. But better that than perhaps marrying the wrong person.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
Well that is true. I'm still hopeful he'd wake up and realise that we had a good relationship but I'm not going to hang around until he does.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
@JudyEv Oh yes you did. Why did you to break up then? If I can pry.
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@JudyEv (326602)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Feb 22
@flapiz I think I've told you that Vince and I broke for a year or two.
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@reti_9 (386)
• Philippines
19 Feb 22
I think he is still confused. I will support your decision cousin. Do whatever makes you happy. Love you.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
He is very much so. But I hate how he's treating me in his time of crisis. I'd rather he run to me than push me away.
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@reti_9 (386)
• Philippines
20 Feb 22
@flapiz I agree on that. I'll be here of you need me.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
@reti_9 thanks.
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@Shavkat (137237)
• Philippines
20 Feb 22
You finally did it. Take your time to heal.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
Yeah with much difficulty. I pray he realises what we had was good.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
21 Feb 22
@Shavkat I pray he can.
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@Shavkat (137237)
• Philippines
21 Feb 22
@flapiz I am sure he can handle this.
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@LadyDuck (460239)
• Switzerland
20 Feb 22
I missed this post yesterday. I am sorry you broke up, but honestly your boyfriend seems too undecided and immature. It's up to him now to prove that he really loves you.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
Yeah letting him go for the both of us. Today he actually texted me. Which is quite a change after we parted ways last week. "I hope you're okay Floraine, I'm not communicating because I don't know what's best for you. I'm here if you need me for anything. I do think of you x" I don't know if I should reply.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
21 Feb 22
@LadyDuck I didn't reply but I think a thank you is gracious. You are wise.
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@LadyDuck (460239)
• Switzerland
21 Feb 22
@flapiz - Taking the distance for a while is the best you can do. You can reply to his message with a simple "Thank You".
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@askme123 (6150)
19 Feb 22
Be strong.Ultimately the decision is yours.You must know what you can tolerate for the rest of your life.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
Yeah I think I broke up with him to save my self respect. Although I still hope he wakes up before it's too late.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
@askme123 Well he said I was right I deserve someone better than him and that I was a special person.
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@askme123 (6150)
20 Feb 22
@flapiz What was his reaction?
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@moffittjc (118778)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 Feb 22
Sometimes people don't realize the good thing they had until they've lost it. I hope he realizes sooner than later that he had a great thing with you. Like you said, hopefully he wakes up and sees what he's doing and then realizes he should be with you. If not, it's his loss. I know it's not easy going through a breakup, but I hope you are able to weather this storm and emerge a stronger and more beautiful person than you already are.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
Thank you. I do feel like I'm becoming less beautiful by the day. The sadness is making me stoic. He texted me today asking if I was okay and how I was doing and apologising for not communicating as he does not know what's best for me. I don't know if I should answer it or ignore it to be honest.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
21 Feb 22
@moffittjc I'm trying. I still have been able to smile but there are times when I'm alone where I feel like I'm in a bad and dark place.
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@moffittjc (118778)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Feb 22
@flapiz You are not becoming less beautiful! You’re just going through a rough time. Keep thinking positive thoughts!
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@kareng (55579)
• United States
20 Feb 22
If it is meant to be, he will be back in your life. If not, don't linger on it. Just move on with your life. Above all, don't devalue yourself for someone else. Hugs!
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@kareng (55579)
• United States
21 Feb 22
@flapiz Right! Straighten that crown and go forward.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
Exactly. I feel like waiting around for him to be sure was an insult to my self worth. I will explore my options as he tries to find himself. Hopefully he won't be too late.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
1 Mar 22
So sorry to hear this sad story of yours. I just hope you can still patch things up but if the situation is not working for the both of you then I gieas breaking up would be the beat solution.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
1 Mar 22
@flapiz ok maybe your goal now would be moving on and rest your heart until the hurts fade away.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
2 Mar 22
@rsa101 Yeah I'm still praying he wakes up but a strong part of me is now ready if he doesn't.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
1 Mar 22
Initially I really wanted it to work because I'm a hopeless romantic but he's pressed me to my limit.
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@sol_cee (38222)
• Philippines
20 Feb 22
Omg
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
OMG indeed. I was not expecting it he just suddenly turned into a stranger.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
@sol_cee exactly. And now someone is hitting on me. I think I broke his heart I told him flat out I'm not interested.
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@sol_cee (38222)
• Philippines
20 Feb 22
@flapiz no matter what comforting words people say, a heartbreak is still painful
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@JESSY3236 (19058)
• United States
22 Feb 22
Sorry you broke up.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
22 Feb 22
It's okay unpredictable things happen in life.
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@RubyHawk (99421)
• Atlanta, Georgia
20 Feb 22
I hope your relationship works out but it’s your decision.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
I'm still hoping he's going to wake up before I end up finding someone else as to be honest it had been great up to the point he went strange.
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@RubyHawk (99421)
• Atlanta, Georgia
20 Feb 22
@flapiz I hope he comes around but some things can’t be mended.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
@RubyHawk Today he's texted me asking me how I was. And explaining he's not communicating cause he does not know what's best for me. I ignored the text.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
26 Feb 22
Good decision. You will realize that as time pass by. We need a reliable partner to hold us in our 30s 40s 50s and beyond.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 22
@yoalldudes Thank you.
@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 22
I'm in my 30s he's in his 40s and sadly I don't think he can hold me till I'm 50. He can't even now.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
26 Feb 22
@flapiz Being single opens opportunities to find a good man. Best of luck sweetheart. You deserve to be happy and secure. Dont settle for less.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Feb 22
I know this is difficult. As I told you before, when we love someone we sometimes have to let them go and see what happens. Hugs to you.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
Yes I think letting him go would make him less stressed and then maybe he can think better.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Feb 22
@flapiz I agree.
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20 Feb 22
Time will tell if he is the right one. If he is, you will be together.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
Well I don't think I have the patience for it but I'm trying and praying.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
@Queenoflife I may see that eventually. But right now I really don't want to let go.
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20 Feb 22
@flapiz I understand. Sometimes it's better to move on.
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@kaylachan (58844)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Feb 22
Perhaps it's for the best, perhaps you might've pushed him over the edge. However, if you're not happy, you shouldn't have to suffer. I don't know what's wrong with your ex, but sometimes when we struggle is when we need others the most.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
I don't know what's wrong with him. I think he's having a midlife crisis but he can't just push me away everytime he's got problems. I'd rather he tell me.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
21 Feb 22
You finally took a good decision. If he cares for you he will come to you again and accept his mistake.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
21 Feb 22
I know I'm not going to let him play with my head and emotions.
@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
It sounds to me that is the right decision. Good luck.
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 22
Thank you. I hope so too. I don't want him to feel I've abandoned him. The way he made me feel.
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@Mrlnvk (432)
• Italy
22 Feb 22
If both of you are belong to be together then in one way or another you will across the same path and be together again. If not then I wish you will meet your Mr. Right very soon, soon enough to help you for healing
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@flapiz (22425)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 22
Thank you Marlin. I'd like to think this way too. May God give me what I need.