Crisis in my marriage
@Aiana18 (698)
Belo Horizonte, Brazil
June 15, 2022 12:10pm CST
I am going through a crisis in my marriage. Almost 7 years of marriage and it looks like the boat is about to sink. We are a couple with many differences to resolve and now I am feeling that we are letting go of each other's hand. Many mistakes have been made and there has been no regret. Today there is a lot of hurt and even indifference left. Even though I see what I am seeing, I feel in having to put this on the account of failures I have had. It is really painful and I am trying to find the strength to overcome all this with dignity and maturity. I am processing it all in my mind and trying to believe that everything will be okay. I have to go back to my parents' house because I'm unemployed, I'm not financially established, and there's still all this anguish and emotional burden to deal with. I don't think about getting married again. These 7 years have been very disappointing.
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13 responses
@kaylachan (58502)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Jun 22
Weather you stay married or not, I urge you to consider some form of counseling or a mediator to help you work through some of the hard conversations that are to come.
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@LadyDuck (459742)
• Switzerland
16 Jun 22
I am sorry, but if you are not happy the better is to stop and close this page of your life. It is important to be neat when we get married. My husband did not want kids and I agreed. That would have surely be a serious problem should I have changed my mind.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
20 Jun 22
It appears from how you wrote your post here that you are at the end of your rope in your marriage. I believe that before making it final and official, you should assess whether there are still things that can be salvaged from it and end it amicably with one another. Everyone in this room is correct when they say that it takes two to tango. A successful marriage is not a one-way street, and if there are disagreements along the way, they can always be resolved amicably. Marriage, contrary to popular belief, is not a bed of roses. It has challenges along the way that you should be able to overcome.
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@beesure11 (223)
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16 Jun 22
When one door closes another door opens. It opens with new possibilities, opportunities, and a new mindset.
First, you must allow yourself to go through all your feelings.
Forget about dignity and maturity. There is plenty of time for that when you start over. Cry, scream cuss or fuss.
You must not take the blame for all that went wrong. Don't beat yourself up. This to shall pass.
You are about to discover another side of you. It's all about you now. You have so much to look forward to. You are going to be just fine.
Better than before. You'll see!!
@aninditasen (15780)
• Raurkela, India
17 Jun 22
That's really sad. Breaking a marriage just because you don't have a job? I really don't understand. You can get another job but why break the marriage? Differences are always there between a couple. Try to talk it over with your husband or has he asked you to leave.
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@aninditasen (15780)
• Raurkela, India
18 Jun 22
@Aiana18 How did you fall in love then? After 7 years you realize that you think differently. Why don't you both meet a marriage counselor.
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@Aiana18 (698)
• Belo Horizonte, Brazil
18 Jun 22
@aninditasen I will give it some time and respect my husband's decision. It's something that doesn't depend only on me or only on him. I have forgiven many times. Now things are different. I'm not going to make sacrifices for him. He doesn't make any for me. In fact, I'm getting tired of it. I'll accept what I have to accept. Life goes on.
@LeaPea2417 (36536)
• Toccoa, Georgia
15 Jun 22
Is there any way to salvage your marriage?
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@Aiana18 (698)
• Belo Horizonte, Brazil
15 Jun 22
I tried 7 years. The first chance I gave him was after a betrayal on wattsapp. Then others and he keeps acting wrong. And he has been putting pressure on me to get pregnant. I always made it clear that I didn't want to be a mother. Before I got married I made that clear. And since he has not been acting loyally, the more sure I was.
@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
15 Jun 22
As time passes, you'll find your own way. It may take some time before you'll feel like looking for a new partner. Good luck.
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@Aiana18 (698)
• Belo Horizonte, Brazil
16 Jun 22
There is not much support in that regard. And there are many differences to be resolved. All the help I have sought has been online. However, for this marriage to succeed, both of them need to change their attitudes. We have many qualities, but the defects have been speaking louder.
@sathviksouvik (18019)
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16 Jun 22
if you dont have children then the decision is fine. Try forgetting the past and live a new life
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@sharonelton (25278)
• Lichfield, England
16 Jun 22
I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you will be OK. 
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