She Married Him Because She Was Pregnant
By Joy
@Inplay123 (119)
Nairobi, Kenya
October 27, 2022 5:52am CST
Suzzie is my high school deskmate. She started behaving weirdly in our last semester at KCSE. Little did I know she was pregnant.
But you can't hide growth. My colleagues later after high school shared the good news with me that now Suzzie is a mother of triplets and was married.
3 Years later she reached out to me, seeking advice. She confessed she is in an abusive marriage, she is jobless and she doesn't know what to do since she can't provide for her kids.
When kids are involved it is complicated.
She is in an abusive marriage because she can't help the situation.
What advice can you give her?
Secondly, Just because he got you pregnant is it enough reason to marry him?
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5 responses
@kurniaadimas (76)
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27 Oct 22
my advise if the reason he got you pregnant and he must married you, i think is right.
but in condition the father must do good for the mother and baby.
if she got abused by her husband i think she must start to think how it will affect her and her child
my advise first she must looking for jobs, and start to fight back..
if my advise is wrong you can correct me..
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@Inplay123 (119)
• Nairobi, Kenya
27 Oct 22
I buy the idea of looking for a job if she will be given a chance to go out and explore.
This would be a better tactic if it works.
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@rsa101 (37987)
• Philippines
4 Nov 22
I think for abusive husbands, she should stay as far as she could from him. If she can return to her parents it would be better so they can protect her from him. I am not sure about the laws regarding domestic violence against women in your country but if she could seek legal advice better as well so she may at least be protected from him in some ways.
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@rsa101 (37987)
• Philippines
7 Nov 22
@Inplay123 That is why it is not advisable for any woman to get married at a young age even if she gets pregnant. In my place, they are not allowed to be married if they are still at a young age. They are allowed to reach a certain age before they are given a chance to decide if they want to get married when they are mature enough to decide on their own.
@Inplay123 (119)
• Nairobi, Kenya
27 Oct 22
That's how it is supposed to be. However, sometimes one can fall bait during the try and error of who is your purposeful partner. And fall prey because they were not ready for parenthood.
Then later it turns chaotic, abusive, and violent.
Sometimes it's a young girl and a boy trying out things then when the girl is pregnant the parents force a marriage. After years turns out not to work and the affected partner wonders if they should stay or leave.
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