Who Hurts Your Feelings the Most
By Amber
@AmbiePam (86150)
United States
June 8, 2023 1:03pm CST
Someone in my family has said something twice to me lately that I found very hurtful. We were just having a casual conversation, and bam! All of a sudden an unexpected thing is said. When I told them it was hurtful, they said they didn't mean it that way. The thing is, I truly believe they did mean to be hurtful. I tend to overlook crap because I don't want to be overly sensitive, and when you're depressed, it is easy to be overly sensitive. But they've been pretty cavalier before, and if I told you a few things they said, I'm pretty sure some of you would be appalled (mostly the women). Today, I kept thinking, why would you want to say some to someone you love that wasn't edifying? Don't get me wrong; if I were drinking or needed an intervention, I'd understand! This is nothing like that.
I'm just wondering who hurts you the most? I am telling you, I hate that I seem to give them the power to hurt me.I'm praying about it. I don't want to overreact or start looking at this person in a negative way. Because they do have a good heart.
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25 responses
@GardenGerty (157987)
• United States
9 Jun
Since I know you pretty well here I can easily imagine who it is. Yes, family hurts us the most. Our expectations, when someone is family, is that they will have our best interests at heart and be conscious of our feelings. It is not always that way. I can think of things that my mom, my older sister and even my younger sister said that hurt, or offended, and they have all passed away. Of course I can think of things Bob has said that stung, but I also know I have wounded him My daughter often reminds me that we live in a broken world That brokenness causes pain and sorrow and that people are legitimately what is wrong with the world. I know it is not just your depression, and I know you do your best to be at peace. More prayers for you .
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@Tampa_girl7 (49337)
• United States
8 Jun
It’s just the worst kind of hurt when it comes from a loved one. 
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@rebelann (111500)
• El Paso, Texas
8 Jun
I've found that family is most likely to hurt you and usually they mean it the thing is whether or not it happens all the time or just once in a while. For it happened every time I was around my sibling so basically I simply got a 'divorce' and now I don't see sibling at all, what a relief.
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@RasmaSandra (74285)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Jun
I am sorry you have to go through something like this, I think if it comes from family it is even more hurtful than if it came from a friend or a stranger because you could stop being friends and not see a stranger anymore but family is family, If you can I think you should stand up for yourself and just tell them straight that they hurt you with the things they said, Hang in there and virtual hugs to you,
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@Dena91 (15955)
• United States
9 Jun
Family is the worst at hurting with words and it probably hurts because they are family.
I will say when someone hurts me I will tell them. If it happens again then I pretty much am done with them. I'll be civil towards them but as far as wanting to be around them I don't and I will limit future time with them as much as possible. I don't think God wants us to be door mats for anyone including family.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
8 Jun
Those who love us the most seem to also hurt us the most. Many family members over the years have hurt my feelings very bad. I try to leave it all in the past. They are all gone now and I had to forgive them all in order to move forward with my life. It has been very hard but one of life's lessons we have to learn.
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@snowy22315 (171531)
• United States
8 Jun
I have more than one family member who consistently undervalues me. I love my family...but they don't give me what I need. They may feel the same about me but I am never mean, or attempting to make them feel less than. It is frustrating.
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@snowy22315 (171531)
• United States
9 Jun
@AmbiePam I wish I knew...I think it is probably frustration. IF so, they aren't in charge of "fixing me." Sis is normally a sweetheart, and the only one who would really stick her neck out for me, but she can be really mean and has been at times. I might not mind as much if it was over something major, but she always picks something stupid which doesn't matter a hill of beans.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
9 Jun
Family members hurt us the most because we least expect that from them. But sometimes, unintentional or intentional they hurt you so badly. They may think it is okay to be brutally honest or to speak outright what they have in mind and not think about the consequences because you are a family member. However, it is hurting at times.
I hope you will get over it quickly. Stay strong and keep going, I'm praying and cheering for you.
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@RebeccasFarm (86984)
• United States
8 Jun
I am sorry if they did that on purpose too Ambie. It is uncalled for.
You are so forgiving and such a gentle soul. You do not deserve that.
I guess it would be the one closest to me that would hurt me the most, my son but luckily he doesnt.
I guess it would be the one closest to me that would hurt me the most, my son but luckily he doesnt.3 people like this
@LadyDuck (461026)
• Switzerland
9 Jun
It's always a family member who hurts you the most. For me it was something my Mother told me. I loved her, but she could be insensitive and rude sometimes. You try to forget, but there are things that stick in your mind and you cannot cancel them.
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@moffittjc (118866)
• Gainesville, Florida
9 Jun
I always have felt that the worst kind of hurt is the ones from loved ones. But sometimes hurtful words are said because of the fact they love us so much.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
9 Jun
My sister, she gets jealous and says mean things to me.
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@LindaOHio (159305)
• United States
9 Jun
I'm sorry someone hurt you. Families are so dysfunctional sometimes. My mother has hurt me the most. She told my father that she wished she would have had a boy. The names that she called me I can't post here. Have a great weekend.
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@allknowing (130292)
• India
9 Jun
Hurt comes from all quarters be it family, friends, neighbours..........
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
9 Jun
People in the family are more hurting than friends for they think they have the liberty to do so. I therefore maintain a certain distance from every family members so that they don't have the audacity to do so.
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