2/10/24 - Update on Hubby
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (156590)
United States
February 10, 2024 3:06pm CST
Calling hubby is useless. His phone is a piece of crap; and he can't hear me.
The woman who is trying to set up a rehab location for him called me yesterday. One place was full; and one place did not want someone with "behavior problems". There is one left yet to hear from. She sent me a list of places...many are 1 and 2 star. I'm not sending hubby there. I've been in places like that - they smell of urine. I picked some 4 star places that were fairly close. Hopefully one will take him.
Went to visit him today. When he finally woke up, he recognized us and was kidding around a little. It's so hard to understand him; and he talks gibberish a lot. It's getting harder and harder so see him like he is; and he's only eating a couple of bites of food a day. He's only going to get weaker and weaker. He is having some sort of kidney problem; so they are working on correcting that now. A sitter is always with him so he doesn't get out of bed. They haven't had to use restraints and sedatives lately.
It's also getting harder and harder being alone. I don't like it; and it's affecting my mood.
Thank you for your continued prayers and thoughts.
Photo Credit: Pixabay
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23 responses
@RasmaSandra (73538)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Feb
Virtual hugs to you and many blessings, I keep praying, I sure hope that you find a rehab nearby and I hope your hubby can finally get on the road to recovery. One thing that bothers me though is What do the doctors say is wrong with him? I figure you have to know to get someone back on his feet,
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
10 Feb
Hospital delirium. He's getting weaker and weaker because he's not eating though.
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@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Feb
@LindaOHio why is he not eating?
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
12 Feb
@lovebuglena I don't know. He lost 20 pounds before he went into the hospital from skipping meals.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
10 Feb
How are you feeling? He's out of it a lot of the time. Sometimes he doesn't know where he is. 
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@Juliaacv (48423)
• Canada
11 Feb
@LindaOHio I feel like I am finally on the mend. My muscles are still weak and I move slowly, but the lungs are clearing and I feel more like myself. Thank you for asking.
I feel terrible for you having to see your hubs as he is. I can understand how you believe it to be hospital delirum, or even an adverse reaction to some of his meds., as nothing came across in any of his testing.
I hope that they can find him a bed in a facility soon so that he can come out of this.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
11 Feb
@Juliaacv I'm glad you're feeling better. I'm hoping rehab turns the corner for him.
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@celticeagle (159222)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Feb
Does he have dementia in his family? At least he is lucid and positive for the most part.
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@celticeagle (159222)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Feb
@LindaOHio .......My maternal grandmother had it I think. No diagnosis back then. This was in the 60's.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
11 Feb
His mother and the women of the family had dementia. I am still hoping it's hospital delirium.
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@kaylachan (57866)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Feb
Question asked anand answered. I am sorry he's not doing as well as you had hoped, but it sounds like he's trying. At least there's someone with him, even if that someone can't always be you. I found myself lucky that I could sit with George.
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@kaylachan (57866)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Feb
@LindaOHio If your husband is determined and a hard worker, it will.
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@Deepizzaguy (94657)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
10 Feb
I am sorry to hear about your problems being alone at this time. My pleasure to be praying for you.
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@Deepizzaguy (94657)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
11 Feb
@LindaOHio You are welcome.
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@everwonderwhy (6697)
•
11 Feb
Virtual hugs, as well. Group hug with @RasmaSandra , Linda.
I do hope you all find solutions to your husband's problem.
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@GardenGerty (157624)
• United States
10 Feb
The whole think "stinks" and it is hard. Coming here is no substitute for having someone at home with you. Big hugs lady. I hope you find a rehab, as it will likely help him.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you so much, Amber. It's good to have friends here.
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@snowy22315 (170157)
• United States
10 Feb
I am sorry things aren't going well. It must be so stressful..
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
10 Feb
It's depressing and disheartening. I'm not handling it as well as I did a week ago.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
11 Feb
His sister; but I don't really want her here. She lives in Phoenix.
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@LeaPea2417 (36469)
• Toccoa, Georgia
10 Feb
I pray he can get into a good rehab home.
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@xFiacre (12607)
• Ireland
10 Feb
@lindaohio That sounds really tough Linda. I hope you look after yourself as well as hubby.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
10 Feb
I'm trying. It's hard to stay positive.
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@1creekgirl (40564)
• United States
11 Feb
Linda, my heart breaks for both of you. I'll add my prayers that one of the better places will take him. And may our loving Creator give you peace of mind and peace of heart.
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@1creekgirl (40564)
• United States
12 Feb
@LindaOHio We're good. Dale preached at a neighbor's church this morning and I sang One Out of Ten.
What's the latest with your hubby?
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
12 Feb
@1creekgirl It frustrates me that I can't call him. His phone doesn't work right. He hasn't been restrained or sedated lately. I think it's because he's so weak. He's not eating. I hope when he gets to rehab things will improve.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
11 Feb
Thank you so much, Vicki. How are you and Dale doing?
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@kareng (54947)
• United States
12 Feb
@LindaOHio That sounds like Sundowners. My dad had that and it was pretty bad. It always happened in the hospital and he was better when he got home and it would disappear as soon as it came upon him. Hope your hubby gets moved quickly and he has a better environment.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
11 Feb
Big hugs right back at 'ya. Thank you for your prayers. Yes, it gets worse at night.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
12 Feb
@kareng Me too. He has to be without a sitter for 24 hours before he can go to rehab; and that's the problem. He keeps trying to get out of bed.
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@LadyDuck (458561)
• Switzerland
11 Feb
I am so sorry Linda. Do the doctors know why your husband is talking gibberish?
I hope you can find a place near you where he would be more comfortable than inside a hospital.
I hope you find a rehab for him and someone who comes every day to your home to help you.
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@LadyDuck (458561)
• Switzerland
11 Feb
@LindaOHio - I remember that our doctor told me that post-surgery delirium is frequent in old people (80 years and up), usually about 15% of them suffer of post surgery delirium.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
12 Feb
@LadyDuck I hope going to rehab will bring my old husband back!
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
11 Feb
If he has hospital delirium, older patients get confused, don't know where they are, etc. I'm hoping rehab will help him come out of it.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
12 Feb
I don't know about that. I hope the place he goes to is clean and has caring people.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Feb
Glad you were able to see him. Why is he talking gibberish? That is not good! And kidney problems, hope they are not severe. Did this happen just now or were there issues before?
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
12 Feb
This has happened since he was admitted to the hospital. He may have hospital delirium which happens to older people when they get admitted. They get confused, etc. The kidney problems are new. They seem to be better.
@Beestring (13340)
• Hong Kong
11 Feb
Hope there's a 4-star rehab available. That's really a tough situation. Please take care.
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@LindaOHio (156590)
• United States
11 Feb
I'm hoping we get a decent facility too!
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