Family-Tradition-Life

@capirani (2739)
United States
April 5, 2024 9:38pm CST
It has been just over 3 months since my ex-husband died. But I am super thankful that we had remained friends over the 45 years we knew each other. I still find myself wanting to pick up the phone and call or text him. I know it will take time to get past that. Our two children and our eleven grandchildren and one great grandchild mean so much to me. Family isn't always what we wish it was. I have always been the kind of person who believes family is very important in life, from the family I was born into, to the family that became mine with marriage and children. Traditions, holidays, and all of those things are so vital to my life even though they do not always mean as much to everyone else as they do to me. Now my six youngest grandchildren are two states away, and even when they come back to visit family, their mother does not bring them to see me. She does not like me and never really has. She had to put up with me when she was married to my son, but now that they are divorced, she doesn't even speak to me. My son's other children are all adults now and don't have time in their lives to visit me, and this includes the mother of my only great grandchild. She is 3 now and I have only seen her 3 times in her life. The only grandchild I see fairly regularly is my 16-year-old son of my daughter. He comes to visit occasionally even though he is crazy busy with all his music, band, and other school activities. I miss family. I miss traditions. I miss children's laughter, and the brilliant conversations you can have with them when they are very young as well as they grow up.
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@jstory07 (134527)
• Roseburg, Oregon
6 Apr
That is ashamed those six youngest grandchildren need to know you and have you in their life. Sorry you can not see them.
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@capirani (2739)
• United States
6 Apr
I know. Until they got moved away from here, the older ones would come spend time with me. But now they have no choice.
• Portugal
10 Apr
I am so sorry that you only see one of your grandchildren often. I really hope that your other grandchildren can visit you aswell. I really hope things get better for you. Have a lovely day
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@RebeccasFarm (86833)
• United States
6 Apr
Oh that's sad it is never the same for you.
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@1creekgirl (40612)
• United States
8 Apr
I'm so sorry. I can relate.
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@JudyEv (326093)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Apr
That is just so sad that your family have all gone their separate ways and don't keep in touch very much. There isn't much you can do about it unfortunately.
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@LindaOHio (157044)
• United States
6 Apr
I'm so sorry you don't get to see your grandchildren.
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@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
6 Apr
It is a shame when a breakup affects people like that. One couple breaking up shouldn't mean other family misses out, even if it may necessarily mean seeing a little less of people. I know it is hard to get around everyone with large and blended families but if they're visiting others in the area, it does seem cruel not to include you. There have been a few times when we found out accidentally that family would be visiting someone else in the area. I'm sure that one particular person didn't even consider that we'd like to see everyone. We slotted in anyway! And I've gone out of my way to include far away family and to get them here to see everyone. Sometimes I feel like I'm forcing myself into my grandchildren's lives but they don't seem to mind. They adore me c My own children have always been encouraged to keep I touch with their families. Me splitting with a partner shouldn't mean my children splitting with their family. I think it's a shame when that happens.
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