How far should you go for your family?

United States
September 15, 2006 12:36pm CST
If your family has wronged you, and you have forgiven them or attempted to...but they keep doing things wrong and don't think they are wrong, what do you do? You try to give them chance after chance; but you are the only one trying, what do you do? How many times do you get hurt before you walk away and let them come to you?
2 people like this
20 responses
@ishavasyam (1802)
• India
25 Oct 06
I think it is better to work out a WIN?WIN situation..but that is not possible then go for 'NO DEAL'
• India
25 Oct 06
till the zenith
• United States
25 Oct 06
Its to the point now where the only person in my life I consider family is my mother..the rest of them are a bunch of theivingm, lying, bottom-feeding vultures...I never liked any of them, but since my mother got sick, they got worse..
@rockbaby (808)
• Lebanon
24 Oct 06
i think family is by far the most imporant thing to have, and going as far as possible even with hard headed people will get to some result someday!,, it will.. even with everyday argument and all that.. somebody must be right at the end, and i think that the farthest possible is the best solution!
@missybal (4492)
• United States
23 Oct 06
Well with my husband's mother we have been through this and so after giving her chance after chance and her saying she was sorry but hurting us all over again my husband said that's it, and we have nothing to do with her anymore. If she can say see's sorry truthfully and stop making my husband look like he's a bad guy to everyone he know's maybe he can forgive her. Someday we hope, but for now she needs to take a good look at herself. My husband tried like a 100 times, she even lies to priests. I pray for her.
@USchick (159)
23 Oct 06
I say you should allow your family as many choices as you see necessary for the situation. I have a situation in my family right now. My uncle blew it with ONE thing. I can not and will not ever forgive him for it, because he went way too far. The rest of the family sees this too, and soon he will.
• United States
23 Oct 06
Sometimes it is best just to agree to disagree. You can still be supportive and love your family member without allowing them to hurt you. Love is free and sometimes that should be the only thing you give them. It will still hurt you to see them doing wrong but you do not have to agree with them to associate.
• United States
23 Oct 06
I'm going through basically the same thing with one of my family members. The only thing I can say is that if a family member is treating you like dirt, just pray for them and hope that they can find it in their heart to come to you, and talk about things like an adult, instead of being selfish, and childish about what's going on.
• United States
14 Oct 06
You keep trying. In the bible it says you forgive 7 times 77. God looked beyond are faults and forgave us. Just be still and know that He is God. Wait for the Lord to direct you.
• United States
14 Oct 06
I would not hangout or talk to them as much so that things wouldn't get worse as far as me blowing up. I would keep showing God's agape (unconditional) love to them also pray for the Lord to fix the situation between my family members and I.
@Sweety76 (1596)
• India
3 Oct 06
I will never walk away from my family
@oscarc (864)
• India
21 Sep 06
as far as you can go...after all they say...family first..and no matter what..you can always count on family..
@chalmette69 (3011)
• United States
20 Sep 06
No matter how hard you try sometimes people especially your family are going to take advantage, it sounds like you have a really great heart and sometimes you just have to put your foot down, I know it may hurt you, but they need to realize you are not a door mat.
@heysimmi (451)
• India
20 Sep 06
That's a tough one. I think I would wait after trying for sometime to assess whether my family really needed me but of course I think I'd be there despite all the bad blood if they needed me.
20 Sep 06
In that situation there’s always a point you have to stop and step back. If you can, try explaining why you are stepping and walking away from them. It may shock them into realisation.
• United States
20 Sep 06
COMMUNICATION IS KEY ... if you let them know the situation and they continue to wrong you cut them off family is important but not important enough to continuously hurt you
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
18 Sep 06
Very rarely persons in India disloged by family or go away from family. The family bondage is good, it is more emotional bondage. By and large the decisions are taken by elders and it tends to be based on equitable distribution of wealth. Family reunion is quite common and it happens quite often.
• United States
18 Sep 06
dear if you have tried and tried. it still doesn't work give up. there is only one of you. Don't streatch to far you will pop. I do know how you feel. I no longer speak to my sister. My mom is the one hurt by this more. As I live in Mimai and won't go to NY till she moves out. Bless your heart for teying and know you are only one person....
@sandoo (223)
• Jamaica
15 Sep 06
I WILL FORGIVE YOU ONCE, BUT I WONT GIVE YOU ANOTHER CHANCE TO HURT ME. WE ARE HUMAN, AND IF YOU WANT ME TO LOVE YOU, IT ONLY FARE THAT YOU DO THE SAME.
@HomerBundy (1327)
• United States
15 Sep 06
the simple fact is that some people just dont get along or dont see eye to eye...even family members... it sounds like you are trying your best to work out the situations, but you can only do so much...i always say that a person can only reach out halfway, it is up to the other person to also reach out...if they don't, there will always be a struggle of minds and power...balance is key in everything...