Did you stay in college once you were married?

@Mommamea (1215)
United States
December 3, 2006 10:18pm CST
My daughteris in college now and is getting married in October of 07. She will be 20 then. The one question everyone keeps asking her is are you still going to stay in school? What were your experience of getting married and still being able to stay in school? Was it difficult to stay in school? What degree were you persuing?
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19 responses
• India
4 Dec 06
i think this is a love marriage if she is able to manage both her husband and studies . IT'S NOT IN ANYBODY'S HAND IT'D ONLY IN UR DAUGHTER'S HAND
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@blueman (16516)
• India
5 Dec 06
i did know some people who continued to study and do what they were doing after being married, and i think thats a good thing to do because i do not think everything comes to end after marriage, and life goes on.
@sbeauty (5871)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Yes, I did. My husband and I got married after our junior year, and we both stayed in school to graduate with our BAs. It was very hard. We had to work around unpaid student teaching and part time jobs at all hours. We were financially strapped for about 15 months, although we did get some help from my husband's parents. We knew how important it was that we finish, though. Looking back, I wish we'd waited. Another year would have made no difference in the course of a lifetime. Of course, young people have trouble waiting.
@sumosari (17)
• India
4 Dec 06
It purely depends on your daughters mind and the friends she had because after her marriage she can't study well and his husbands love and her family problems will dominate her studies. If her friends are suportive and she is very ambitious to study then she is supposed to stay in college after she was married else she is not supposed to stay in college after her marriage.
@babs0818 (1192)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I had finished college already,than I got married...i think getting married before being done in college can cause a distraction..
@littoe (41)
• United States
4 Dec 06
yreaaa
@zambian (31)
• India
4 Dec 06
I marreid while I was still in my third year of college. I was studying for my BA Mathematics. I did stay in school and graduated with a second class honours . I was almost six months pregnant when I was writing my final exam. So, I would say, from my experince that was it was not easy, but I was determined and I also had to prove to the members of my family who were convinced that I would drop out,just how strong I was. So if your daughter really wants to get married now, she will need your supportt later especially when you see she begins to miss classes.
@lauczi (964)
• Poland
4 Dec 06
im in college right now and im waiting with marriage until i finsh it. after marriage i wanna start new life and go to work and change country of living. but my friend is getting married next year and doesnt want to quit school. being married doesnt change anything in educational system. mayne of my friends wives are still in school but just live with husbands not parents rest is not changed.
@caj1202 (162)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Nope. I graduate my bachelors degree and worked for 5 yeras before I got married
@tanujarneja (2834)
• India
4 Dec 06
one of my friend got married while she was in college and she continued her college....she got all the support from her husband and her in laws.....So I dont think it at all difficult to stay in college after marriage.....
@pdp5419 (43)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Dear Mommamea, I was a junior in college and had just turned 20 ten days before I got married and yes I finished college. My mother was concerned I would not finish because she dropped out when she was a sophomore in college to get married. My life had always been filled with challenges, so this was just one more. My husband was in the service and was only home 1 weekend a month, so I was pretty much on my on. Actually staying in school was not an issue because it was important to me and I was prepared to do whatever it took to finish. My mother calmed down more when she realized how determined I was to complete what I had started. Oh my degree was in Education, specializing in Speech and Communication Disorders. pdp5419
@mezmin (20)
• India
4 Dec 06
I am not married but I have friends who have married and still studying. I don’t think that they are having trouble being in the campus. Rather we never felt any difference at all. They were more or less the same as they were before. It hasn’t affected their studies or any other activities. I would really appreciate her for staying well determined to complete her studies. If she had stopped it she would regret later on.
@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
4 Dec 06
It's not difficult being married and still be in school as long as you decide to finish school first and not start a family right away.
@vinaykant (814)
• India
4 Dec 06
ya whats the problem in it? study in school or college is another thing, its doesnt matter you are married or not.
• United States
4 Dec 06
no, but I went back
• United States
4 Dec 06
No I didnt and I regret it.
@Meljep (1668)
• United States
4 Dec 06
It will be hard to be married and find the money to stay in college, but if she is determined to get her degree then it can be done. It will be a difficult hurdle she can be proud of overcoming when she gets her diploma.
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I was married at 20 and not in college. My husband of 28 kept telling me to go. If your daughter has picked the right man and he's a good man he will do every thing in his power to keep her in school even if she changes her mind about wanting to go. For me I went to real estate school and enjoyed it. I wouldn't have done it with out my husband. Good luck to her and good luck to you. Congradulations on your "new addition".
@cogswelj (45)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I did not marry in college nor did most people I knew of way back then. Most people as I recall waited until after graduation to marry if they had found the one. I think it is probably a good idea to wait as the priority needs to be getting an education. If marriage becomes a reason to stop going to school then perhap a person shoudl not have gone to school in the 1st place. It's about priorities I think. Of course people marry for different reasons.