How do you MAKE a kid get a job?

@kbkbooks (7030)
Canada
December 4, 2006 5:50pm CST
I have a teenage stepson. He's 17. He doesn't even go to school most of the time. He doesn't want to help around the house. He just wants to eat and sleep and go out with his friends. Does anyone else have a kid who should be working but isn't? How do you MAKE a kids get a job?
9 responses
• Austria
4 Dec 06
I think u have to check first the Child Labor Laws in your community. Some states, forcing a kid below 18 is punishable by law maybe imprisonment. So please check first the legal issues on that for you to be in the safe side
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
Kids here can work at 16. I know what you mean though. Thanks for the thoughts.
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@wilkingh (354)
• United States
5 Dec 06
many kids by the age of 14 want a job...cuz i did
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
My kids have been working for pay, yard work and farm work since they were 12.
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@wilkingh (354)
• United States
4 Dec 06
make him buy his own clothing, he does hang out w/ his friends right? then who gives him the money to go? movies n places like that? u? then don't...what about gas money? deny him of the free money then he'll see.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
Generally my husband gives him what he wants. I think that is what the problem is, actually. Not the kid, but the way his dad treats him.
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@wilkingh (354)
• United States
5 Dec 06
yea...speak with your spouse about it...the most important thing is having both parents cooperate..if they don't...plans usually don't work out right at all!!!
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• United States
5 Dec 06
give him a good kick in the as$ and talk to him bout responsibilities or if worst comes to worse then send him to boot camp...
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
Boot camp after we BOOT him in the butt. Thanks! ROFL!!!
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
Well, do you and his father give him money to go out with his friends? If you do, you just need to stop doing it, he'll realize soon enough that if he wants money to go out, or to buy stuff he wants, then he has to get up and go to work like everybody else. Good luck with that.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
We don't give him money to go out with friends. Good thought though.
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@warn810 (494)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Don't give him money, take away his fav. things until he does something useful.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
Thanks for the ideas. I was thinking that too.
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• United States
5 Dec 06
Tell him to start help'g out at home if He wants money to do things or get a job. Make him do his own laundary if he's not already. & Have him give U money every month for the water bill he's contributing to. Take the car keys away from him or Dont Give him the Car Keys anymore. Tell him he needs to start giving U money for his part of the insurance. & He needs to have money to put in the gas tank. U r not a bank!~ U need to see this money b4 he takes his/your car anywhere. Odds r, it's your car. Your not driving it so Y should U pay for His gas that He's using?? As far as clothes go, he can: a) help out around the house to earn it. b) get a job c) get a job & give U money to hold on to for clothes. If He wants to eat, he can do chores. If theyre not done, no dinner, no food, nothing. Put a padlock on the fridge & a note say'g that the kitchen is only open between certain hrs. If he wants something to drink or eat, he needs to come home during those times or get a job & give U money if He wants something. Be firm. Dont take any grief & stick to these. Dont Bend even a lil. He's already walk'g all over U. And that is not right. If U have to, talk to his dad & let him know that his son is doing this & U dont appreciate it & something needs to change. Be sure to mention that he's missing most of his schooling & that he wont be able to get a good paying job w/o a High School Diploma. There's very few jobs that would hire him w/o it. But he'll never make more than 14 bucks an hr & even I couldnt live on that alone.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
I have thought about locking the fridge. Glad someone else is thinking the same way.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
Hmm...chains and a padlock on the fridge....I wonder if I can chain and padlock him to the washing machine....leg irons...
• United States
5 Dec 06
That can be classified as child neglect. My stepmother did that to our fridge (but because she was kinda crazy and she wanted everyone to be skinny) and it caused a lot of problems. She can take his car keys away if his name is not on the car payments. If it is then he could take her to court. But other than that, just be tough and tell his father to start straightening out his son!
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• United States
5 Dec 06
Don't give him money. Make him start buying his own stuff. Tell him he is eighteen soon and if he wants to do something with his life he should start saving up now because you are not always going to be there to support him. Talk to his father about his son and see if he can do anything.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
Thanks. I appreciate the thoughts.
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@polachicago (19075)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I would help him to go to school. Forcing kid to work is good, if he can work after school hours. In Europe, minimum working age is 18. I think it is good. High school should be mandatory for kids.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
10 Dec 06
Actually, the father and the stepson had a meeting with the vice principal of the school the other day. He agreed to go to school starting next Monday and try to make an effort for a while. It will be interesting to see how he does.
@claudia413 (4284)
• United States
8 Dec 06
My daughter had that same problem with her now 18 year old daughter. She wanted to sleep all day and go out with her boyfriend or friends every night. She almost got kicked out of school. My daughter finally put her foot down, told her that she either went to school and got her diploma or had to find a job. She finished school. After she graduated, she was told it was now time to get a job. She has had 4 jobs that I know of since she graduated in June. Still wants to party and not to go work, so my daughter has stopped buying clothes and other stuff for her. She told her she's an adult now and can learn to help support herself. Kids will try to get around a lot of things...you just have to be firm. In your case, I'd say you should have a very long and serious talk with your husband. He's not doing his son any favors.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
9 Dec 06
I know he's not. I just don't have control on this one.