Everything you've wanted to ask a lesbian, but never knew a lesbian to ask!

Don't worry, I'm not easily offended! I think everyone has different tastes. Some women want a more masculine woman, but still a woman, not a man. I've heard from friends who dated butch women, that they are butch as far as dressing and activities, but still feminine in the bedroom and not like a man. I personally am usually attracted to more feminine women, but not too feminine. I don't really like the whole high heels, make up, and skirts thing. My girlfriend might accuse me of being a bit butch, but not too much.

It's all personal taste. Some women like the masculine image, but not the masculine plumbing. ;) I'm not particularly attracted to masculine looking lesbians, but I have a few friends who are. And they just say they like the look. :D

I am so glad that you started this discussion because I've always wondered, but never knew (thereby assuming a lot of things - that's where misinformation comes in). Thanks for your openness, honesty and willingness to share!

I think a lot of women are bi. I get a lot of people asking me how I knew because they aren't sure themselves. But that's a really hard one to answer.

Thanks! I've actually considered writing ebooks before, but I wasn't really sure how to get into it. I currently write a lot of articles on Associated Content (I started a thread about it and have a link to all of my articles there). I'd love to write something longer sometime and sell it, either as an ebook or printed book.

That is an excellent question! When I first came out, I asked my only lesbian friend how I would possibly know which women were straight, and which weren't. She said I would just know. So in a sense, I suppose that's gaydar. However, I think of it more like a chemistry thing... like you can tell when someone might be into you and you're into them. But I can't spot every lesbian there is. Sometimes I've had suspiciouns though, and then I'll see the rainbow triangle on their backpack and be more sure. :) And then there are times when my girlfriend and I are out, and either a waitress or some store associate will be helping us, and we'll both just having a feeling about her. But it can be hard to tell. So I wouldn't say we exactly have a special gaydar or something. Although, I have never asked out a straight woman on accident, so I guess in some sense, I'll know before I feel attracted to them.