Parents- when was your last date night?

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United States
December 8, 2006 8:44pm CST
My last date with my husband was ages ago. I think back in February, to be exact. Before that, I can't remember. August, maybe? My husband and I don't have any babysitters that live close by, and no family lives within a close distance either. Our neighbors are mostly older, and we don't know them well anyway. Sure makes it hard to keep the spark going sometimes when you can't spend time alone with your spouse away from home!
29 responses
@magnet (2089)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Do you have any married friends with children. One thing that you can do is have a trade off. Take turns one weekend you keep their kids for free when they go out on a date, then the next week you guys go out on a date together. We go out once a week. My parents watch our children. When my parents are out on a date we take our children with us on our date.
• United States
28 Dec 06
My husband knows a couple people from work who are married with kids about the same age as our kids, but I have never met them.. never met the wives. We'd have to really get to know them before I'd consider letting them watch my children. And I would hope they'd feel the same way about us watching theirs.
• United States
9 Dec 06
Right now, he is in town with me. Isabella went to her grandparents for the weekend, and we are going to dinner and a movie tonight, before he leaves to go back home so that he can work tomorrow. Its really hard for us to have our date nights now that he lives in a different state for his job. Soon we will be moving there with him and it might be a little easier for us to spend time together as a family, but as a couple, Im not sure, since I don't know anyone there that would babysit! Before tonight, our last date night was about....August......lol
• United States
28 Dec 06
Oh that is really rough! :( That must be very hard for all of you. HUGS
@crystal8577 (1470)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I can't remember. I ahve been pregnant since MArch so it had to be before that I believe. Once the baby is here & a bit older I am hoping we can go back out.
• United States
28 Dec 06
Are you anxious for your baby to get here already? :)
@zotopec (307)
• Pakistan
9 Dec 06
I just sacrifice my one night's sleep and I date her right in the bed when everyone is asleep. Once I even dated her in the attic. As for outing, we dont mind our kid's presence and still enjoy our date a lot.
• United States
28 Dec 06
LOL I like your definition of "date". HAHA
@chance00 (3333)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I have not had a date night in a long time.I think I am too busy to do anything and my husband is always tired.
• United States
28 Dec 06
Ugh.. men!
• United States
9 Dec 06
My husband and I went out less than a week ago to a Steelers game and lunch. We are lucky because we have family close by and my husband owns a pizza shop so the girls that work there are often willing to babysit for extra money.
• United States
21 Jan 07
That sounds like an awesome date!
@SViswan (12072)
• India
9 Dec 06
I can't remember the last time I went for a date with my husband. I don't have anyone to babysit and my relatives don't stay close by. My husband also doesn't believe in keeping the romance alive. After the kids, he seems to have donned the role of parent and forgotten the role of husband. He doesn't encourage me when I try to be the person I was. He thinks it's more important to take care of my responsibilities of a mother and it's selfish of me to think about us sometimes.
• United States
28 Dec 06
I'm sorry he feels that way. I know some men can't see their wives as "women" anymore after their children are born. It's like they can't possibly be sexy once a baby has come out of the womb. I just don't understand it.
• United States
9 Dec 06
OMG I can't remember the last time someone took my kids to give me and my husband time alone.. It's been a long time though. And it's not like I ask for much just an hour or two. I have a lot of family close by too.
• United States
28 Dec 06
Wow.. it sure would be nice of somebody to volunteer. A couple of hours couldn't be that bad, could it? LOL
• United States
9 Dec 06
romace and dating - Love dont fall far from the tree
My last date night was last weekend. We did the movies and dinner.I have my mom or sister or there god mom babysit so I am pretty luck to have family watch the kids.We pretty much do date every week even if we just rent some movies and order a pizza and pig out on the couch. We always try to get some time to ourselves. I think it helps keep the relationship fresh.We always try to come up with new and fun things to do...
• United States
21 Jan 07
Sounds like you two have a great relationship. :)
@Ambur25 (1007)
• United States
9 Dec 06
My husband and I "go out" once a year on our anniversary. That's it! However, last year, and so far this year we haven't been able to. But are going after the first of the year. We go to a different city and spend the weekend together, without our boys! Lol. It's such a relief to do this. I would love to do this more often, or at least have one evening to ourselves a month. But it just isn't possible. Plus it makes us appreciate the weekend we get a year. =)
• United States
28 Dec 06
That sounds really fun! :) I would love to be able to do something like that.
• India
9 Dec 06
i feel one should give enough time for your spouse.. thats really important to keeping the fire burning.. i m not saying you should not spend time with children.. of course you should but alos give time for your partner... - try and manage and see for some other options to be alone atleast for sometime..
• United States
21 Jan 07
My husband has been working some really long hours for the last month or so. My kids pretty much only see him on the weekends lately.
@vanities (11343)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Dec 06
ive been married for 25 yrs. and still keep goin strong. i mean the realtionship..there is no really sure guidelines on how you can keep your man forever husbands are prone to mistakes coz we are all human ,,but i or we it is a join effort that we should at least have a date during weekends together with the children when they were still small..and presently theyre all grown ups..but still we go out, sunday is a family day and saturday is our day bet my hubby.
• United States
28 Dec 06
i'm glad your family still gets together once a week, even now that they are grown up. and that you and your husband make one day a week to spend just with each other. that's very nice!
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
im a hands on mom. i didnt get nanny for my baby. and if me and husband dates,its always with our 1 yr old kid...its been too long since we dated just the two of us..
• United States
28 Dec 06
would you like to go on a date? just the two of you?
@leonilyn (467)
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
last MAY when the kids are in the province...but now we still go out with the kids after attending mass every sunday..:)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Does the family have fun at least when you all go out?
• United States
9 Dec 06
I have the same problem. My husband and I have tried to start "dating" again once a month. But we havent been able to since our anniversary in Sept. and before that I dont even remember. Our family isnt too close, so unless we are planning on going their way we dont have babysitters. And I dont know my neighbors well enough to ask them either. I am hoping that next year when the kids are all in school that we can at least go out for lunch once a month. It is hard to keep your fire going in a marriage when you have no time to spend together just the 2 of you. Good luck to you and your husband.
• United States
21 Jan 07
Hopefully you've been able to get out since then? I have had 3 hours to myself, the last day of school before Christmas. Sure, it wasn't an outing with my husband (LOL), but it was something. My son's school let my daughter stay in his classroom with him and do some activities, so I could have a few hours to myself. That was great. :)
@Ashida (1370)
• United States
1 Jan 07
Ours was back in early November, before that would be June. We average about three date nights a year.
@bimmer999 (1160)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
last week for us i think.. we dont have kids yet.. so we got pretty all the time to ourselves hehe ;)
@k3tk3t (3134)
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
just last week
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
10 Dec 06
Fortunately I do have babysitting and my parents watch the kids often.
@pipin82 (42)
• United States
10 Dec 06
That is so true,aah i have a two year old and a five year old and i do have lots of family near by and its still hard.Somtimes its hard to even just connect during the day but it sure does make it extra nice when we do get to go out.