Love, and all that is entailed.

@chrisie (207)
United States
December 9, 2006 1:57pm CST
I have been in love with someone once in my life so far that I can say, I really loved unconditionally and with my whole heart. I lived and breathed for that person. I made sure that I stopped and considered my actions and how it would affect them in the end before I did things. I would do anything for them to see them happy and smiling. They were my life. Since then I havent felt that way towards anyone. I have heard plenty of people say "I never thought I would love again..", and I have felt the same way. I think it takes a long time to be able to love someone wholly again...but WHAT does it take?
47 responses
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
9 Dec 06
i think i said this in one of your other discussions, but, again, i understand exactly how you feel because i feel the same way. i think you only find true love once, and you can never ever love anyone else like you loved that one person. you can probably love again, but it just won't be the same feeling. that's what i truly feel, cause i can never imagine loving anyone else like i love my true love...i consider him to be the love of my life.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I really am quite jealous of you! I envy people that have a deep connection with someone else, I miss that feeling so much, and I have a hard time waiting for it to find its way back to me!!
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
9 Dec 06
well, you shouldnt envy me..because we broke up back in march. i havent been the same since, and i still love him more than anything in the world. that's one of the reasons why ive become so depressed over the past few months.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that. I think that as much as it hurts to go through that, that you have to keep faith that in the end once the hurting has stopped.. you realize that you WILL be okay, and that you WILL be in a better place in the end. I honestly believe that things happen for a reason and that we have to go through pain and sour situations in order to find our true meaning and reason in life, and to really appreciate the best things in our lives!
@gabs8513 (48714)
• United Kingdom
9 Dec 06
Yes it does I am now with a Man who is my World and he has shown me Love after the Break up from my Marriage which was bad But I know if we ever break up I will never love someone again like I do him I don't know what it will take but when it happens you will know
@chrisie (207)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Yeah... that's what everyone says. Ha! I just have to have faith that one day one of them will turn out to be a good one!
@gabs8513 (48714)
• United Kingdom
9 Dec 06
Yes you will do love I had to and I am 45 I had to wait a long time
@chrisie (207)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Well I really hope that you are right! I'm holding onto faith that I will find someone perfect for me. Maybe not today, tomorrow, or even in five years. But SOME day! :)
• United States
10 Dec 06
You need to completely LET GO of the one who consumed you before you love again. That can take some serious soul searching and thinking but it is possible. Going out and meeting new people is also a good way to help completely get over someone. It is said that time heals all wounds... so that will help as well. All factors are in your favor!! Also.. try not to think about them. Let other thoughts fill your head if for some reason you begin thinking about them or are reminded of them. :]
@chrisie (207)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Man, I wish it was as easy to do as easy as it is to say though! But I agree with you completely, it's just a difficult task sometimes! I've dated a lot of people since him, and I have yet to find one that rids him of my mind completely. Oh well. In time, it will happen!
• India
10 Dec 06
take it easy. i also know such a person same like urs personally. i also tell her to stay cool bout this issue. a human being has to go lots of types of cicumstances in life. and every turn we meet new people. i understand no person can take others place. but we should respect other people also. there r lots of people with whom u will get good telepathy in life. so dont worry. trust people. they r really good.
@gewcew23 (8011)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I thought I was in love with my ex but to find out he was really in love with my sister and I just wanted to see him happy so I told him that he could date her It broke my heart and I didn't ever think I would love again. 2 weeks later I found the love of my life and we are now happily married for almost 3 years and have been together for almost 4 so it can happen and when you least expect it. Just hang on and ask God to bring you someone in your life.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Wow! That makes you a much bigger person than I ever could be! I don't think I would be able to tell my ex to go ahead and date my sister! I'm so glad that you found someone else, and someone that makes you happy!! Good for you!
@shogun49 (437)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Here is a Quote from Bruce Lee about Love, hope it will help you in understanding Love. "Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable."
@chrisie (207)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Wow, that really is a great quote. Haha, I'm not sure how I feel about Bruce Lee being the "author" of it... but really, it's so true.
• India
10 Dec 06
trust God and then mange ur heart very well
@chrisie (207)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I'm not sure that I believe in God, so that's not the best advice. I appreciate your efforts though, thank you.
@rakeshdas (428)
• India
10 Dec 06
hey friend ... Love is an eternal gift .... dont waste it frnd
@chrisie (207)
• United States
10 Dec 06
What?? Did you even READ what I wrote, and what others have been writing? I love loving someone, it's not about "wasting" it. Please read what I wrote first before writing pointless and totally NON-relevant posts on my discussions. Thanks!
• India
10 Dec 06
Well I would say TIME is a best solution and with the passage of time u will forget about ur past and will definitely find a person with whom u"ll feel the same way u felt for ur ex. So just be open for new opportunities that life can offer n u never know what may happen in future.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Well how much time does a person need to move on and to fully trust someone else? It's been nearly three years and I'm still not able to open up to someone new. I have had plenty of loving boyfriends.. but none that I could love back. I feel somewhat hopeless!
• United States
10 Dec 06
fate
@chrisie (207)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I dont think love is based on fate, and I don't really believe in fate. I think we make our lives through our own ambitions and genuine interest in ourselves.
• United States
9 Dec 06
It takes a while to get over someone. I went through something last year where I liked a good friend of mine (he is now one of my best friends) and I try and tell myself I just like him as a friend now, but it seems like when I meet new guys, I compare them to him, and it just doesn't work. haha Almost like if they're not exactly like him, they're not good enough. Maybe one of these days I'll get over this little phase I have going on.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Yeah, I compare everyone to one indivudal. It's something that I'm working on changing because there are SO many people in our lives that we meet that have SO many great qualities! My eyes have had blinders on them because I've been so consumed by one person for so many years. It's hard to break the cycle.... but we have to first take the step to realize that we need a change, that not everyone is the same, and that we will miss out on something great if we dont open our eyes!!
@lumanci (1111)
• Italy
9 Dec 06
love - love
if you have immediately forgotten a person to fall in love you of another it means that have not loved him enough.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I think that you did not really read my discussion, or the comments of others. I in no way said that I forgot about someone,and FYI.. it's been two years or more since I was last with this person. However. I'm not saying you're wrong.. but I have never loved someone with more passion in my life. But at some point in your life you have to say, "okay, that wasnt meant to be and I'm in a better place now.." and move on.
@KrauseHome (35690)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Well, sometimes you need to find someone or something else to Love to help be able to move on. It does take time to move on, and many times you will never really forget someone else you really cared about, but do you not deserve giving yourself time to move on, and be Happy again? It is a hard thing to do sometimes, and I am sure many are never sure how to do it, but you need to to be able to live.
@chrisie (207)
• United States
9 Dec 06
You are absolutely right! And that is exactly why I am in the situation I am in now! I decided to take ahold of my life and to LIVE it! :) High five to you!
@banta78 (4334)
• India
10 Dec 06
My friend you are very naive, innocent, if you think that love has to happen to you once only and that you will not find true love again. I will tell you from personal experience and from accounts of my friends and relatives and knowledge i have gathered that you can find love in the most strangest places and at moments when you had almost given up hope. So never give up hope there are soulmates round the corner waiting for you maybe on the next street, country, internet, or even in this mylot forum. Be positive in life and have philosphical attiude towards love and life i have benefitted a lot by doing this. Sometimes it is best let people go don't try to hold onto them as that is best. god may have planned better things for you, you never know. that's why it is important to be honest person with a clear conscience, because then god rewards you for it. But even if doesn't that happens be grateful to god for your lovely parents, lovely family and friends.
@banta78 (4334)
• India
10 Dec 06
My friend you are very naive, innocent, if you think that love has to happen to you once only and that you will not find true love again. I will tell you from personal experience and from accounts of my friends and relatives and knowledge i have gathered that you can find love in the most strangest places and at moments when you had almost given up hope. So never give up hope there are soulmates round the corner waiting for you maybe on the next street, country, internet, or even in this mylot forum. Be positive in life and have philosphical attiude towards love and life i have benefitted a lot by doing this. Sometimes it is best let people go don't try to hold onto them as that is best. god may have planned better things for you, you never know. that's why it is important to be honest person with a clear conscience, because then god rewards you for it. But even if doesn't that happens be grateful to god for your lovely parents, lovely family and friends.
• India
10 Dec 06
c i gotta tel u 1 thing .... 1-ist time u luv u r innocent no experience ..luv faithfully n fair heartedly... 2-2nd time u r xperienced of it...no pain when u get hurt ..no feeling...no attacjment wid..just fake luv n time pass. ITS REAL
• United States
10 Dec 06
You will know when you find love. Love does't hurt and love makes you feel good. It sounds like you may have lost who you were in that other person. When you find yourself you will find someone to share love with.
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
10 Dec 06
it takes time to love again it took me 6 years but you have to take your time because you make sure that this time both feelings are mutal and not just one sided. it takes time to trust someone with your heart because when you did they trid to take it away! I hope one day you can find true love again because once you find your soulmate its a wonderful feeling!
• India
10 Dec 06
even i am having the same problem buddy ..........if u find any good solution just send me
@mkup30 (494)
• United States
10 Dec 06
It takes time..and you will definitely love again! You'll get over this past love and find the REAL one..eventually. dont worry we've all felt like we can never love again..all felt our hearts broken...but it passes in time and you will find your love and life partner :) good luck
@balabrahmam (1074)
• India
10 Dec 06
Love - Love
you think wrong if some one loves you agree their love then you will stand on in your love throught life if does not doing you did not love because with love do not play games later you will panished strongly