Strangers

@SViswan (12071)
India
December 15, 2006 2:13am CST
Are you a very friendly person who opens up easily with strangers? I am wary of talking to strangers. But I know people who have made very good friends by talking to total strangers. What do you think?
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
6 Nov 07
Hi Sviswan, I am not okay with talking to strangers. It's not because of the fact that my mom told, 'don't talk to strangers', but for the simple reason that I am not a good talker, a shy person who is more or less of introvert kind. I take time to open up to a new gathering. however, I am very good listener and that manages some good friends and acquaintances for me. I have made some lovely friends by mere listening. Having said this, once I am okay with the person (that requires quite some rendevous), I will begin to confide in more. Thanks.
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
6 Nov 07
lol...I should probably meet up with you. I talk 19 to the dozen and need a listener....now you know why my husband doesn't want to talk to me (I do all the talking for the two of us). Having said that, I am very cautious with strangers though and don't really open up. Experience has shown me that you can't judge a book by it's covers and I am a very bad judge of a person at first glance (I tend to trust what people say). So, I'd rather be safe than sorry and not open up when I meet a person first.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
6 Nov 07
Same here, I tend to trust ppl very easily and have had quite a few heartbreaks by now. You know what, I can see you yapping, yapping and yapping till the listner falls flat. LOL.. I would not fall flat dear. I quite enjoy listening and you would be no exception. I think you are quite lucky, its your hubby who has to listen and not you. lol..
@SViswan (12071)
• India
6 Nov 07
lol..I have to listen to HIM when he is angry and that's worse than my yapping!
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
i'm not good at trusting and i don't even give my trust that easily, especially to strangers! but i guess it depends on the nature of that person, i mean, i can have a clue on to what kind a person might be. i'm usually nice to very old people, i mean very old! ^__^;; but i had an experience with an old man, probably in his 50's or 60's. maybe i was just being paranoid but i thought he was following me inside a mall. .
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
6 Nov 07
Nowadays age has nothing to do with who you can trust. I find the older men are the ones you can't trust one bit.
@marciascott (25554)
• United States
6 Nov 07
I am a friendly person, I love people and can get along well with everyone, it is just my nature, I love People, I am an Aquarian. We get along well with people.
@limcyjain (3523)
• India
5 Nov 07
It wont be easy for me to go around and talk with total strangers. However when i do talk to someone and discuss some issues i do leave an impression on one's mind and whenever we do meet next or just pass by together he would be the first one to great me on his own.
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@subathra (3519)
• India
5 Nov 07
Iam a friendly person but i never open the talks first..i have made quite a lot of friends by talking to strange people but its always the other one to introduce them to me and later become good friends..when i feel comfortable talking to strangers i continue otherwise i just make a smile and keep going with my work..
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@balasri (26553)
• India
23 Sep 07
I hate strangers staring at me without a reason.So to avoid getting upset i always smile at them and say hi.that is my way and I make friends very easily.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
3 Nov 07
A friendly person:)
@balasri (26553)
• India
3 Nov 07
Yes I become a friend before they turn me into a fiend.Those starers.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
6 Nov 07
lol
• United States
6 Nov 07
It all depends where I encounter a stranger..By nature I am shy..but if it's on the net.. I am not so shy..So here in mylot I talk to everyone..it's easy..but off the net.. I do not easily open up even to non-strangers..i am a very shy person. believe it or not;)
@SViswan (12071)
• India
6 Nov 07
I totally understand what you are trying to say. I'm the same. I was just thinking an hour ago how easy it is for me to open up on the net.
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@marciascott (25554)
• United States
6 Nov 07
People try to be friendly but some people have evil ways, and are suppose to be a child of God! And they are not!
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
5 Nov 07
Good Post! No, I do not easily open up with strangers. I allow them to speak first and express themselves and in this manner, I come to know about them. If I see that the stranger appears to be a nice fellow, then only I continue the conversation, otherwise if I find him dubious, I do mingle with him much. Contratulations! You have completed '1000' posts! Deepak
@SViswan (12071)
• India
6 Nov 07
Thanks! I know I do that too...but invariabley get to know about the person's inner intentions later. Some are nice at first till they reveal their true colours later. I've been burnt a couple of times earlier...so now I am wary of everyone.
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 07
I agree with you.
@Etharon (217)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 06
Oh I am always very weary of strangers but I remain friendly without divulging too much about myself. Better safe that sorry, afterall.
@Etharon (217)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 06
I forgot to add, my parents always thought me "never talk to strangers!"
@SViswan (12071)
• India
20 Dec 06
Same here. I'd rather be safe than sorry.
@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
21 Dec 06
Although at all times I try to remain aware of "stranger danger" (wow I feel like I"m in kinder again using that term hehe) I tend to be a very friendly and approachable person. I open up very easily, and have no qualms in hearing about other peoples problems and trying to offer them some advice. The way I see it, is all the friends you currently have, once upon a time you didnt know them- you had to talk to them to build a friendship. So I talk to people I don't know/strangers and sometimes a friendship blossoms, and at other times, an acquaintance, or nothing at all.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
21 Dec 06
Yes, that's true. I usually listen to other people and help them out with their problems. But I can't open up easily. It's not a conscious decision. That's the way I am.
@lucsct (261)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I am not very good with complete strangers. It's not that I am shy, I just feel uncomfortable sometimes. Once I know the person a little bit, it's enough for me to open up.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
20 Dec 06
Yes...it takes me longer though than just know a little bit. I find that people usually tend to put on their best personality during the first few meetings.
@rms2727 (815)
• India
15 Dec 06
never can i open up in the very first encounter. i need time and must read the person before i can get friendly with someone. its all becasue i look foe good and long term relations. i just cant be friends with someone in the very first meeting.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
17 Dec 06
I understand. But some people I know have made very good friends (long term) by talking to total strangers. I'm not a person who can open up to strangers.
• Singapore
15 Dec 06
I'm quite ok with talking to strangers but it will depend on my mood at that time. if i'm feeling good and friendly i will tend to be very chatty, but i will prefer not to when im in a bad mood as i will lose my temper very easily.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
17 Dec 06
I guess you make friends easily when you are in the mood. Has any encounter with strangers been a bad one?