When you can your second baby?

@mythmoh (3986)
United States
September 21, 2006 11:55am CST
Doctors recommend it after 3 years of your first baby.But on what factors will you consider for having the second baby?
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@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
28 Oct 06
2-3 year gap is the best.Too much gap reduces attachment between siblings.Too less gap can cause difficulty in handling them.
• United States
28 Oct 06
Completely devoted - This is Owen and Nora.  He is absolutely devoted to his baby sister.  It is a bond that amazes me every day.
I don't see age gap really effecting bonding. I think it has more to do with personality. Our son is 4 1/2 years older then his baby sister and he is completely bonded to her. He would do absolutely anything for her. He carries her around, feeds her, covers her up when she is sleeping, plays with her. I don't ask him to do these things. He just wants to. He just loves her so much.
• Canada
28 Oct 06
awwwwwwwww
@mythmoh (3986)
• United States
29 Oct 06
thats really wonderful.Very cute children
• United States
29 Oct 06
Our daughter is now 20 months and we are 12 weeks preg. with #2. She will be 27 mths when the new baby comes. I think we spaced them apart a good bit. My cousin and his wife had kids back to back. A few months after she would have one she would get pregnant again, until they had a little girl. I think that is too much.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Congradulations!
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
28 Oct 06
Umm...I must say thay "your body won't let itself get pregnant until it is capable of supporting another baby in the womb" is a myth! Your body is capable of pregnancy as soon as you ovulate and for some women, that is within a month of having your baby! My own cousins are 10 months apart. I know a few women who conceived again 6 weeks after giving birth! Doctors recommend waiting at least two (2) years between conceptions. Your body needs to heal and revert back to non-pregnant state before it is recommended having another baby. Otherwise, your subsequent pregnancy is high risk simply because of the short time between pregnancies.
• United States
31 Oct 06
My pregnancies were never considered high risk. I had a c-section in June of 2000. I was pregnant again in January of 2001. I had my second c-section in October of 2001 and was pregnancy again in February of 2002. I had my 3rd c-section in November of that year. I was never considered high risk. I even went to the doctor every other month with my second pregnancy and they never once said anything about it. They weren't really all that concerned. All 3 pregnancies were uneventful and boring.
• Australia
28 Oct 06
About 2 years between mine, but thats only cos she wanted to wait so she could have a break from being pregnant, then when we tried it took awhile to concieve. But if you wanna have a child straight away, apparently its ok too. The reason why a woman has to wait for awhile, is to let the body get back to where it should be, muscles need to rest and basically, the body goes through an enormous amount of stress and does need to recover. I think its up to the individual as to how healthy they are and how the body has coped with giving birth.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Obstetricians in the USA recommend waiting 2 years between conceptions so that the body may heal and hormonally rebalance to the non-pregnant state.
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I have four children, and my second was born four years after her sister, with the third three years after that. However, I really don't see a problem with having them closer together. It might be nice, in fact - if they are closer in age they might play together more.
@mythmoh (3986)
• United States
29 Oct 06
that is true
@keljad (69)
• Australia
28 Oct 06
Well I have two girls and they are 16 months apart. Somedays I find this very frustrating because my eldest is only just learning toilet training and to talk and my youngest is just starting to crawl. I had to have cesareans with them however I have found it good because they play together where before my eldest was bored with me and at that young age children play next to each other she now find it great to play next to her little sister and show her things. I also found that your body wont let itself get pregnant until it is capable of supporting another baby in the womb. But if your thought process is anything like mine close together means close bonds get it all over and done with around the same time. WHILE YOU ARE STILL IN BABY MODE.......
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
28 Oct 06
Your daughters are very close in age! I can see a lot of advantages to this, although I'm sure you are very, very busy right now. I know a family with children ten months apart!
@tntvdm (186)
• United States
31 Oct 06
I think it's whatever works best for you and your family! (or in my case, when you get pregnant, LOL) Mine are a year and a week apart. We did not plan it that way, but I wouldn't change a thing!
@kesfylstra (1870)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I would say 2 to three. My brother's wife is having their second, and it will be almost exactly 2 years. Personally, I couldn't imagine being pregnant with my daughter now at 15 months. She's exhausting enough as it is! We want to wait till closer to three years, probably a little closer to 2 1/2. Honestly, for us the decision is being largely based on income. We know my husband (military) will be getting a substantial raise when he is promoted in 2008, so that's our aim. If it were to happen though, we would of course be excited!
@Tanya8 (1734)
• Canada
28 Oct 06
I thought the recommendation from doctors was one year, not three. I think there are advantages to all ways of spacing your children. Mine are 3 years apart, and it was nice because we didn't have much sibling rivalry, but sometimes we envy familes where the children are closer in age, because the children can enjoy the same activities at the same time.
@dollar669 (569)
• Canada
28 Oct 06
the doc say 3 yrs????? OMG! I want my kids 2 yrs appart my son is now 10 months so were trying for nbaby #2 now, I think its as soon as your finacially and mentally ready, and basically I'm up for the challange
@tommy0099 (194)
• Indonesia
28 Oct 06
i hope first child could help the mother take care the second baby
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I have 3 children, 5 years apart between each child. I enjoyed the age differences because each child was the only baby, the only toddler. My children love one another dearly.
• United States
28 Oct 06
What doctors reccommend that? My doctor recommended waiting at least 1 year before getting pregnant again. I guess all doctors are different. Anyway. We had our second child 15 months after our first and our third was born 13 months after the second one. Our oldest was only 2 years and 4 months old. I love having them close together. It is a lot of work some days but they are all good friends and I can tell them to go off and play with each other and they are fine. We just had our 4th baby this past April. She is 3 1/2 years younger then our 3rd child. I found this gap much harder to adapt too. It was much easier to just go from one baby to another baby. Having to go from an older toddler (who was almost potty trained and very independent) to another clingy, needy baby was very difficult.
@mcmomss (2601)
• United States
25 Oct 06
There are 5 years between mine.