infidelity in marriage

Philippines
December 18, 2006 1:27am CST
is it just right for a man to hate his wife after she flirted with another man in a chat session? Prior to that , the man was the first one to commit infidelity when he dated with another woman in another country where he worked. His reason was loneliness and emotional instability during those times of mistake. When he confessed to his wife, she got so hurt that she decided to retaliate by doing almost the same thing, that is through chat. Because of this, they fell into hating each other. I know they're both wrong but who's the worse evil?
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@paulnet (748)
• India
18 Dec 06
Yaa infidelity in marriage in not good. But in retaliation you do the same thing is worse to this, coz in this you proved that you also wanted the same thing and is waiting for your partner for the xcuses. bcoz he or she has done that. The better thing is that if you are committed to someone you should not do such thing otherwise you are playing with other one sentiments. If someone did that after committing its a crime and other one have the right to stay away from him/her forever.
• China
19 Dec 06
i agree with you,i also have the same opioin with you
• Philippines
18 Dec 06
Of course the man was the worse evil. He did a mistake wiht his marriage life. And being lonely and emotional instability is not enough reason why he cheated his wife. Also a woman having a mistake. its not good for a couple to decide to retaliate if someone of them made mistake wiht their relationship. But, speaking of chatting, so it means, it is through internet, u did not see in person yet, so why he hate her wife..Her wife havent been touch yet or anything..The best thing to do so that no hatred between the two of you is do not did some mistake to each other that could start to hatred..Remember the saying also "Do not do unto others if u do not want others do unto you".:)
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@itsjustmeb (1213)
• Canada
18 Dec 06
If you are going to keep hurting each other, then why would they be still together?
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• Australia
18 Dec 06
if you want to sleep around then don't get married
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@BoomYes (137)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 06
the husband of course. he did it first!! no matter the reason is, marriage mean fidelity mean no cheating. when he married with his wife, he should accept whatever happen next. such a loser (the man)
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@Cindyh2k (308)
• United States
18 Dec 06
There is no excuse for not being faithful to your spouse - whether or not your spouse has been faithful or not. Each person is responsible for his/her own actions - and never will two wrongs make a right. If the wife stayed married to the husband once he admitted his unfaithfulness, she should have then treated her husband with the same respect that she would have treated him with before he cheated. If not, she should have left. Revengeful acts accomplish nothing. Each party in this is wrong - each one equally wrong. Sin is sin is sin is sin.
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
LOYALTY is always important when entering into the sacrament of marraige. once the trust is broken, it is very impossible to gain it back. it usually takes time to heal wounds brought about this infidelity done by the other partner. it also takes some time to forgive and forget what has happened. And besides if you love your husband/wife, you will stick with your vow no matter how great the temptation is because you will always think that in one mistake, it will ruin your family. Some men also think that it is okay for them to play around but their wives should always be loyal to them... i think both should be loyal to eachother other because marraige is partnership. both should make it work
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@sunrisekn (1468)
• United States
18 Dec 06
Two wrongs do not make a right. If I had to chose which was the worst, I would say the wife. She knows what it is like to be cheated on, to feel betrayed and hurt and embarrassed. Revenge is an ungly animal best served cold, as the wife as has done. How do a couple pick up and move on from there, it's hard to say.
• United States
18 Dec 06
2 wrongs dont make a right.i think marriage should be taking seriously.there should be no secrets and u definitly shouldnt cheat on 1 another
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@banta78 (4335)
• India
18 Dec 06
I think both are equally bad as both been unfaithfyl towards their partners whatever be their excuse for doing that. infedelity in marriage and divorces are happening everywhere in the world and is a harsh reality. The society should discourage such activities then only such people will come to senses.
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@kulpreet1 (116)
• India
18 Dec 06
both should be faithful to each other
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• India
18 Dec 06
Yes a girl and be happy in her life till she marry After that she should not chat with any guy
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
You have overlooked the fact that the guy cheated first... It wasn't the woman's sole mistake that ruined them. Do you think she's the only one to be blamed?
• Pakistan
19 Dec 06
Being a man, i agreed with you that both wife and hasband doing wrong. Somewhere this started by the woman and somewhere man started wrong. If women is right and sincere than no man can do worong.
@terita (280)
• Pakistan
19 Dec 06
infidely marriage is not good but it happens
@gunchu (154)
• India
19 Dec 06
depends on where do you live . in my oppinion the wife is wrong here , when her husband confessed then what was the issue of dating some one ust to show that she can also , thats wrong .
@chaitu33 (801)
• India
19 Dec 06
here its not important that who is wrong and who is right. now should forget everything and start a new life
• Canada
19 Dec 06
Shes giving him a taste of his own medicine! He totally deserves it if he cheated on her. cheating is the worst thing ever. Now she should dump him for being unfaithful to her.
@ThulsZ (784)
• India
19 Dec 06
good pair - hus n wife
i think the wife does a cruel act in taking a revenge for the act of her husband rather than making him to move in a wright way
@katyzzz (2902)
• Australia
19 Dec 06
Infidelity is inexcusable, she should leave him.
@shaj_me (149)
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
as the saying goes, "Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you". so if you don't want your wife to be cheating on you, then you should stop cheating on her too. the end doesn't justify the mean my friend. ;)