nice girlfriends for my daughter
December 18, 2006 11:19pm CST
I think one of my daughter's friends is a bad influence on her. She comes over to the house wearing make-up and I think he skirts are too short. I know her parents don't let her leave the house lookign like that, I think she gets changed at school. Now my daughter is talking back and being cheeky. I think she is talking to boys behind my back. I do not approve of this. I think her friend is bad for her. I want to forbid her from seeing this girl, but my wife thinks this is a bad idea. She thinks my daughter will just go behind our backs to see this girl while they are at school. What do you think?
21 Dec 06
If you try to force her in every aspect of her life you leave her without the ability to decide fo herself. you leave her without any life lessons and you do her a dis-service as well. She can't possibly be a well rounded adult without small life lessons leading the way. You try to frce her away from her friend more than likely she will see her friend anyway behind your back, in fact it may get worse because she will be rebelling. Besides you can't stop her from seeing her friends at school anyway so who knows.... Maybe she will start doing worse things to rebel. Just lighten up and talk to her about things. Talk to her calmly and allow her to express her opinion as well. More is to be gained by that then by your force.
19 Dec 06
i think you should talk to your daughter first. ask her questions that are bothering you in a nice way. explain to her what's the right and wrong thing to do. do not be in a rush to forbid her to seeing her friend, i think your wife is right in thinking that it will just make things worse. just observe and if things really gets bad, then you must have the authority to control the situation cause after all, you are her parent.
19 Dec 06
I think bad friends always set bad examples. I think you should talk with your daughter regarding over make up and short skirts. I dont agree in loosing her friendship. Sometimes your daughter can do the opposite to her friend than she would do to your daughter. If your daughter understands this she can help her friend also to dress properly and will avoid makeup. Try talking to your daughter and also tell her to change her friend so that people will respect more and her daughter's friend will someday thank her friend.