Adoption

@disvachic (10125)
United States
December 20, 2006 10:04am CST
If you were abandoned by your birth mother as a child,but adopted by wonderful people and you love them with all heart and they are all you know. Years later your birth mother wants to be a part of your life would you accept her in your life?
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@EagleEyes (646)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I really think I would because I would want to know why she gave me up in the first place. I am sure she had legitimate reasons, and she wanted you to have a great life, also maybe she needs to explain this to you to make her feel better too. I wouldn't miss the chance, because what if you don't, will you regret that decision later on in life?
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I agree with you.If I was in a situation like that I would accept her in my life because I would have questions for her and besides she did give birth to me.
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• India
21 Dec 06
Very typical topic, sorry I cannot respond on it as it is related to mother. Before saying anying on Mother, I will have to think 1000 times. Please..........
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
okay sorry
@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
okay sorry
• United States
22 Dec 06
Theres always a part of you who wants to know why and where you came from. Give your mother a chance to explain herself because situations could be worse.
@disvachic (10125)
• United States
22 Dec 06
yea i would do that to if i was in dat situation thanks for your response
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
21 Dec 06
Yes, I would accept my birthmother into my life. I would want to know all about her life, and my father, and what happened. I would want to know if I have siblings, and I would want her to know my own children.
@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
yes that would go for me to i would want to know all that and meet other family members
• Nigeria
21 Dec 06
well, mind you mother will always remain mother whatever betides as for me i will take her back as far as she have the genuine reason for abadoning me...
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
thanks for responding
@assamese (35)
• India
21 Dec 06
I would surely want to know my birth mother.However I would also like to know the reason behind her action to give me up.To think of it in a positive manner it was because of her that I am in this world.So in a way I should be greatful to her for bringing me to this world.And offcourse she must have valid reasons for giving me up.After all a mother is always a mother and no mother would give up her child without any reason.
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
good point thanks for responding
@bodomgirl (1620)
• Italy
21 Dec 06
yes i could accept her but i will still love the people that was like real parents.
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
yea me to thanks for your response
@jimotman (634)
• Indonesia
21 Dec 06
sure I will accept her, but I won't do things like live with her etc, I'll still be just as usual, treat my real mother like a special guest.. I think it'll hurt the parents who adopted if we just leave them, right?
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
yea i believe it would hurt your adopted parents.like you said accept her but not live with her and leave your parents
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
21 Dec 06
I think i would, forguiveness its one of big humans capacity, however it would depend on the motives for her encounter with me.
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
forgive but can't forget right?
@SViswan (12095)
• India
21 Dec 06
I'd like to know why she gave me up for adoption. I'd accept her into my life. But my adopted parents would be the people I would consider parents. My birth mother would be someone I meet and get to know as a person. Maybe I would even understand why I feel and think a certain way after I get to know her better.
@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
Yea i fee you on dat to,thanks for responding
• Philippines
21 Dec 06
Yes I'll accept her as long as there is enough or valid reason on why did she abandoned me before and why suddenly she entered my life again.
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
thanks for your reply
@krizz420 (4389)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
In a situation like this I dont think I would want her to be apart of my life now not after missing everything growing up.
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
not even after she explain to you what happened? thanks for responding
21 Dec 06
Im adopted and have been since i was 3, my birth mother AND father at seperate occassions used to ring up my house, speak to my parents and then speak to me. They wanted to meet me. I did meet my birth father a couple of times but he was just too full on, hugging me saying he loved me and wanted the chance to be my real dad, the same with my birth mother she was telling me on the phone she loved me and wanted to see me. This upset my parents and i love them to bits and as far as im concerned they are my real parents as theyve brought me up and looked after me. My birth parents are strangers to me and id rather lose out on my curiosity than to upset my family.
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
thanks for sharing, i know you do love your parents and if that upset them then you are doing right
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
21 Dec 06
if that happens to me, i will respect my biological mother. but i won't leave the parents i knew for years. the parents who adopted me and brought me up well. i will still live with my adoptive parents. but i will try and see my biological mother once in a while.
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
yea include her in your life to,but i wouldnt consider her my parent i probably would look her like a sister
@susana25 (341)
• Philippines
21 Dec 06
Despite of everything,I still accept and forgive her. And let me know what is the reason why she left me and need to be adopted by the others,mybe she has a strong reason for that. And I still want to know how she will care for me as my true mom.
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
thanks for your response
• Malaysia
21 Dec 06
Every person should be given a second chance as long as he/she is willing to change. If your mother let you go for adoption for certain reasons she could not avoid, then you should give her a second chance.
@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
yea if i was adopted i think i would accept her
@anupverma (139)
• India
21 Dec 06
I would love to adopt the previous mother but continue life with the present ones.
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
thanks for your response
@chetu4u (378)
• India
21 Dec 06
It all depends uptn the sitution... There must be some reason why ur birth mother abandoned u... so need to look into that matter first..
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
well im not adopted,but i would just have questions for her but i would accept her because she did give me life
• India
21 Dec 06
fubol - fubol
maybe......it depends on how worthy and noble he/she is.....:|
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
thanks for your response
@satyamss (870)
• India
21 Dec 06
yes sure...if this happened to me..i would like to b part of her life...there is nothing to b like forgive....i think i will get a chance not only to know..y she abandoned to me..but also..if she abandoned bcz of some good reasons or wrong reasons....if i accept her...i will now hv two mother to love and two b loved...and if she was wrong..then it will b fine...to love others who once abandoned you...It will b very happy moment .!
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
21 Dec 06
yea i would accept her to. i would ask her many questions and would like to get to know her. i would want to know where i came from and all