Family Falls Apart

@puppers (185)
United States
December 23, 2006 9:01am CST
Why is it that when Both Parent die that the Family usually falls apart? Especially when the last Parent dies My experience is that it usually over Money!! My Dad always used to say I will be looking down while you kids fight over my money And you know what he was right Same thing has happend in my Husband's Family to and they they were a huge Family eleven kids And now they don't even talked anymore Any similar stories??
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27 responses
• United States
24 Dec 06
Families need to learn to rely on one another and not think of money all the time. Family is most important. They are the ones that will be there for you when you run out of money.
@jen20619 (1302)
• Ireland
24 Dec 06
yes I think the family spirit can break when both parents die.Sometimes its the parents that hold it together.My friend had similar experience even her brothers and sisters hardly visit each other.
@hcprasad (1013)
• India
24 Dec 06
Life is always for changes. Changes should be accepted. As fresh rains occur, fills the rivers, old water vanishes. Like that when fresh family members comes in, old relations gets vanishing. This is a nature theory.
@babray06 (1787)
• India
24 Dec 06
Unfortunately this is now common in our society and you are right it is all because of money and some of our over-ambitiousness. Many are tyring to get easy money. You will hardly find any taker who will go for "Work hard - earn money - get a decent income" theory. Most will go for "Less work - easy money - get rich overnight" route. So they don't mind fighting for money which they have not earned. This is the root cause that the society has changed much to our discomfort.
@anne_143god (5390)
• Philippines
24 Dec 06
It is so sad that to happen that to some families who has no parents. But I guess it is common to those who are already lost their parents. I also know some families that like that but I also know families that become more close to each other after they have lost their parents.
@humaaaa (1392)
• Pakistan
24 Dec 06
In most families siblings do now live like friends they have fights more often and they live together just for sake of their parents.
• India
24 Dec 06
thats very sad....how can families break only for money????that means they never loved each other....i have a similar story though.......one of my uncle broke all ties wid his family(even his wife and child!)coz he thought every one was trying to take the property his father had left for him.....isnt this simply a mental case caused due excessive greed?
• United States
24 Dec 06
Oh yeah, my cousins' mom is totally screwed up and now her two children will not talk to anyone. I cannot stand it. I want to have a relationship with my cousins, but thanks to their mother, forget it. She wants people to believe that her children are perfect, but we can all see that they have issues. They need to see psychologist like the rest of us in the family have.
• China
24 Dec 06
ya it is correct mnoney is big problem for everyone esp for big family
@beverly1 (1131)
• United States
24 Dec 06
i think it so sad when both parent die and family fighting over everly thing. they should share thing not firght over it. and for the money part there alot of people firght over it but it dont buy love, happyest. they should be thankful they left something for all of them.
• Singapore
24 Dec 06
This only applies to rich family and not poor one.
@qbt0910 (73)
• China
24 Dec 06
i love my family
• Pakistan
24 Dec 06
parnts aree the main pillars who keepp the building of house intact once they are gone personal acheivments gats preferrence
• China
24 Dec 06
That's partly ture in some families. Whether a family will fall apart when both parents are gone, however, is determined by the family culture or relationship among its members. If everyone in the family keeps good terms with each other, care and love mutually, they may still maintain or enhance the relationship after the parents have passed away.
• India
24 Dec 06
my parents are also no more , i have four brother and myself . my papa have not earned much money in his life so regarding fighting for money was not happend in my family . My most elder brother have good financial condition so even papa is alive my brother have taken care of our needs .My marraige , my third brother MBA education , all reponsibility he have taken . so this type of similar stories not happened with my family because regarding all financial needs are fullfil by my elders brother scince last 16 years .
@makem0ney (294)
24 Dec 06
my family has fallen apart, my dad was having an affair and when my mum found out they split up and now my mum and dad have not spoken since
@lulylove (1561)
• Brazil
24 Dec 06
I think that to talk with a lawyer it is the best a if to make, therefore exactly that the family makes an agreement, to always surger a doubt: It will be that I earned what really deserved to earn? Therefore it is the best a if to make when things thus happen.
• Egypt
23 Dec 06
it may be sadness and lose of them children havn't who teach them
@lovewaves (157)
• India
23 Dec 06
Ya thats true , as we can seen that before couples of years ago where Joint family is the strength of society ...become nuclear and personal.
@patgalca (13721)
• Orangeville, Ontario
23 Dec 06
I lost my eldest brother two years ago, and my father this year. Both of these losses have brought our family closer together. However, I know that my eldest sister is the glue that holds our family together. Once Mom is gone I could not see keeping in constant contact with my family members, until big sister retired and began being the event planner of the family. She is great. And with everyone having email now, there are no excuses. As for money, my parents have/had wills. My mother wants to make an addendum to her will with regards to the expensive furniture in the house. Everyone was given a list of the expensive pieces and told to list their top five choices. She will then decide who gets what and add it to her will. When I was told a certain bookcase was a popular item I removed my name from the list. I really don't need any of the things but my sister said I had to keep in mind my own children and when they have homes of their own. One year my Mom came out with a roll of stickers and a pen and told us to go around and stick our name on the back or bottom of items to claim after my parents are gone. I really don't think there will be any fighting in the end. I think we will be grieving together and know that material things are not as important as the person we just lost.