Divorce

@Priceless (1278)
December 23, 2006 5:21pm CST
I think it's a horrible thing that there are so many divorces and broken homes in our society today. Children are really suffering from it and now they are growing up and also having divorces. It's become a way of life and it's not right. I think the biggest reason is because marriage is not seen as the same commitment as it used to be. It's like having a boyfriend/girlfriend. If things don't work out the couple divorces. I think there are certain reasons I personally would have a divorce. If my husband was abusive or unfaithful I would consider divorce but I wouldn't think this is the case in the majority of divorces. Does anyone have statistics on that? Believe me, there are times when I've been furious at my husband for 1 reason or another and thought "I should just divorce him". But then I realize how horrible it would be to break up our family and I'm sure being alone or with someone else would not make us happier people. It's best for a couple to just talk through their problems and seek counseling if they need to. What do you think
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@AmStaff (142)
• Romania
23 Dec 06
I don't feel bad for the man or woman who divorce, but for the children. The suffer very much. And the worst thing is that they want both parents in their life. Mom and Dad. I feel bad for those cildren.
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
3 Jan 07
I feel bad for those who get into a marriage that is much different from the courtship some people feel when married that one spouse is obligated to them without reciprocation and this was never what marriage was about
@sunita64 (6473)
• India
4 Jan 07
Sometimes even counselling does not help. Children suffer equally from a bad marriage where couple keeps fighting and also from divorced parents.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
3 Jan 07
In some ways I agree with you. My parents divorced when I was 12. Honestly it was for the best because they argued like cats and dogs. My mother went to counseling and so did I but my father refused and so the counseling didnt help. When my mother and I moved into a new place things got better for us. There was no fighting at all. I had regular visits with my father and my parents finally got along. My mother remarried and has been happily married for over 13yrs now. My husbands parents are also divorced and have remarried others and things are great for for him too. See not all divorces are bad. Some do actually work out for the best. My husband and I have been married for just over 6yrs and yeah we have had our difrences and arguements but once we both cool off we can work it out. We both agreed that we would work it out no matter what, and that we would try to avoid divorce if at all possible. We know it happens, and hope we dont have to go through it.
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
3 Jan 07
I would have to agree with you that a lot of couples divorce because they let the little things break them apart and dont work on closeness. I think this is because we have a society that has not done without and doesnt know want from need. Marriage is something that takes committment in the good times and bad and shouldnt be taken for granted in any case. Two in a marriage should be working to be one. In the case of Abuse or Cheating I think it is perfectly okay to call it quits because one party doesnt want to be in an equal relationship so it should dissolve. ?Staying in a bad relationship teaches children they should live that way. Thanks for the opportunity to vent a little. My parents divorced and I hate what it does to the children and the ones who stay in homes where there is no love are hurting even more than the ones of divorce.
@mirage108 (3403)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I agree with you 100%. I have been divorced 3 times and am on my 4th marriage. The prior divorces were not my choice.