If the man of the family gets into debt, should his wife have to go to work?

@juls2me2 (2151)
United States
September 25, 2006 11:41pm CST
If the wife goes to work, would that empower the man to continue his spending habits? What's your thoughts.....?
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33 responses
• India
27 Sep 06
Its like sharing the debt. both have to work hard to clear the debt so that they can proceed with a decent and trouble free life..... else there will be a stress in the family which will ruin the relationship as well as health
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@MrsFrizzle (1964)
• United States
26 Sep 06
I think both husband and wife should take equal responsabilty in the way money is managed. Both should try to provide finacialy. However if either of them has a spending problem the other should not force their spouse to work more so they can spend more. Live with in your means or you may loose a wife.
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• India
26 Sep 06
If the man is spending for the family its ok, wife can help him. But if he is spending for his own luxuries not taking care of family then women should not help him.
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@sherinek (3323)
• United States
26 Sep 06
If the wife works, that will improve that living style of a family. It is not necessary to get into debt for a wife to start working. If she's educated enough to find a job and if there is help available to look after children, I dont see any problem. I am a working mother and my husband appreciate the money I earn. It is not my money or his money it is our money and we make it a point to spend it wisely.
@juls2me2 (2151)
• United States
8 Jan 07
It is a little easier said than done when you are married, that's for sure.
• United States
25 Jan 07
that's a tough question. it all depends on the situation. if it has to do with medical bills or something that couldn't be helped that put you in to debt then yes the wife should go to work to support the family. it's more or less a forceful situation. if you don't want to be poor then you'd have to work even though you didn't cause this. i don't think this will empower him to spend more. i think this will show him that he's hurting the family and should wake him up a bit to his spending habits.
• United States
7 Jan 07
Sounds like a nightmare. I would put a small portion to go to help pay the debts off and be very clear in stating that you won't be paying off his habits again. I know easier said than done, right? If it were only that easy.
@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
7 Jan 07
In my country adequate measures have been taken to prevent women from suffering due to their partners debt. For example if a man is going to purchase a car by hire purchase he nees to obtain the signature of his wife as well and vice versa. This has been done to prevent a partner of making excessive debts without his spouse approval.
@kdarrell (1566)
• Canada
21 Oct 06
I think it would depend on extactly what kind of debt he got himself into. If it had something to do with the family, then yes I think the wife should help out. If it was just personal debt of him purchasing stupid things or just blowing it, then no I don't think she should.
30 Sep 06
Seems like what I glimpsed over the man was at fault through irresponsible pursuits? Can I guess at gambling and such like? Or just over indulgence? The woman shouldn’t be forced upon although it is in her interest to see the family successful at the end of the day. I‘d have the same view if it as reversed, woman had gone out spending expecting the man to pay, she should be kicked out to work herself!
@niitta (194)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 06
Of course it's one of the wife's responsibility to help her husband if such case arise, but some husband take for granted.
@DeborahWY (306)
• Singapore
28 Sep 06
If he gets into debt and the family needs to survive, the wife has to work. If he has gotten into debts for "good" reasons like business failure, loss of job etc. I don't see why the wife can't work? But it should never be to fuel his bad habits such as gambling, drinking etc.
@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
27 Sep 06
I think if income was a problem and you are in debt yes the wife should help out . thats what a marriage is about as well but the man shouldnt get the family in debt and depending on what kind of debt maybe it should be the mans responsibility to get his self out. but if it was me i would try to help hubby out
• United States
27 Sep 06
the wife should set up a seperate bank account and use her earnings for daycare costs (if there are any) and for bills only. and work related costs (gas for car, work clothing). we did this a few years ago and we were able to pay of big debts and stay out of it. both husband and wife have to be committed to taking down the debt and not spending as much money.
@biluje (219)
• India
27 Sep 06
ita her choice
@psmohan (1883)
• India
27 Sep 06
Yes the wife should work in case the family gets into debt. It all depends upon the situation under which the man incurred debt. The basis for this is that there should be cordiality in the family among wife, husband and children.
@Aali311 (6127)
• United States
27 Sep 06
They both have to come to an agreement and be on the same page or it will never get better.
@luckiest (282)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 06
they should if they are capable
@skittlez353 (1404)
• United States
27 Sep 06
IF I WAS THE WIFE. I WOULD want TO, NOT THAT I HAD TO.
@sunrisekn (1468)
• United States
27 Sep 06
I think if the marriage is good one, then the wife would want to help the family out by working. No, that does not mean that the man can continue the behavior that got them into debt in the first place. I think that the situation should bring the couple closer and thus they can work harder to get out of what they are into. Of course, it is never easy when something like that happens and at first a couple can unintentionally hurt the others feeling, but a marriage is a partnership and should be worked at.
@Schubler (1530)
• Romania
26 Sep 06
My opinion is that both him and his wife should have careers... but not if the children are very little because kids at a fragile age need one of their parents around... Work is not something you do because you have to... work is something you do because you profit from one of your passions or because you like what your doing... staying home and not doing nothing, as a woman for yourself could not be what i will ever want to have beside me in this life... I think a woman should respect her talents and skills and benefit from them not doing the work that a maid should do... and also a man who tells his wife to stop working and stay home to wash and cook, doesn`t have any respect for the human being!!! Everybody needs to work and improve themselves... women are not here just to make kids and take care of them... That`s my opinion!!!