Are Biracial Relationships okay? Or should Whites stay with Whites?

United States
December 25, 2006 10:08pm CST
Is it okay for a white woman to marry a black man? What about a white man and a black woman? How does it make you feel when you see them? What are your first thoughts? Do you think to yourself "what does she see in him"? Do you think "she must have money"? Do you think they can be happy? What are the problems they face? Does the white family accept the black man? What about the black family accepting of the white woman? What are you thoughts of their financial status? How do you see their kids? Black/White/neither/both? When you see a white woman with biracial children, what do you think? That she is trash? That the father is not in their life? That she is a single mother? What about if you she has more than 2 kids? Do you think they must have different father's?
5 people like this
79 responses
• United States
27 Dec 06
Ok first thing is first I don't see anything "wrong" with biracial relationships.But the main problem in them is the family.For odd reasons the 2 families will never Truly accept each other.
2 people like this
• United States
27 Dec 06
When you say the 2 families will NEVER truly accept each other, I would tend to disagree. My family is very loving of my husband and in fact we joke about them loving him more than me sometimes....lol....I am blessed to have a loving family that is totally accepting of my life and family.
2 people like this
@ignoti (68)
• United States
27 Dec 06
First, by saying that my current girlfriend is asian (korean) and I am caucasian (american) I am answering a good deal of your questions. As for the rest, I don't make up stories based on stereotypes when I see a biracial couple or parents with biracial children. I'd like to point out that from a anthropological/biological perspective that race is meaningless. Its the cultural barriers that we must cross and I do believe that interracial dating/marriage and whatnot are exactly the sort of struggles that may help more people understand just how non-contraversial this whole subject should be (and hopefully will be one day)
2 people like this
@gifana (4838)
• Portugal
27 Dec 06
Well put. Race should not enter into any relationship if the two parties are happy and have the forebearance to withstand the cruelty of bigotry and prejudice.
1 person likes this
• United States
27 Dec 06
I don't see any problem with it. As long as they love each other, who am I to care?
2 people like this
• United States
27 Dec 06
That's what I think.
1 person likes this
@Khyatii (237)
• United States
27 Dec 06
i dont know if it is morally or ethically bad be in a biracial relationship..i know it morally and ethically bad to judge that relationship...one should not judge two people on their looks or ethnicity or anything ..i have a friend who is in a biracial relationship..i just see two people in a relationship..moreover i believe in soul mates and reincarnation..and if that person who is not ur race or not ur ethnicity,, but is ur soul mate from all ur past and future lives...then y does anything else matter??
• United States
27 Dec 06
i think there is nothing wrong with biracial realtionships. Why eouldnt they be? some people are just to close minded.
2 people like this
@anonvenu (402)
• India
27 Dec 06
Please don't limit your thoughts like this. What are races after all? They are groups of people who developed in isolation, but each and every human on earth belongs to the same species. We are all the same, black, white or yellow, we all the have the same needs, desires, urges and instincts.
@gifana (4838)
• Portugal
27 Dec 06
Kofi Annan & Wife - photo of UN Secretary General & his wife
Interracial marriages and companions are quite normal in Portugal. This is mainly because of the former Portuguese colonies in Africa....Angola, Mozambique, Cabo Verde, and Guine-Bissau. It is not uncommon to see black men and white women or white men with black women. Many black footbal/soccer players marry white women and no one seems to complain. Kofi Annan, UN Secretary General, is married to a white woman as is Sidney Poitier. I have several friends who are mixed couples and they appear to be very happy and some of their children are beautiful. When I lived in the states there was always a big to do about these relationships and those that suffered most were the children...many of them were not accepted by either race. To me all interracial couples are no different that any other. They both are first human beings and as long as they are content then who am I to judge whether it is right or wrong.
2 people like this
@jennifer611 (2497)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I think that who I am with is no concern to anyone else but me and my partner...I think people who are so closed minded like this lose out on alot in life and its just sad.. love has no color. no one decides what or who they want to be and no one has the right to judge.. if I want to be with a pink person thats up to me.. I dont care what anyone thinks, this is my life..God made everyone equal..
2 people like this
• United States
27 Dec 06
Honey, it doesn't matter what anybody in this world things. And that is anyone. It is between you and the man that you love.
2 people like this
• Canada
26 Dec 06
Why can't any colour marry another? That doesn't make sense as to why they can't. Colour doesn't mean anything to true feelings.
2 people like this
@Zhanec (1654)
• Malaysia
26 Dec 06
Absolutely no problem.What's the mtter now?i'm ok with biracial.Noone or laws ever stated that u cant do so.Moreover biracial child r mostly beautiful.We have to learn to accept new changes...The world change by every second.For all the questions u posted here,it can be solve when u truly belive that"love has no barrier".Biracial or mon racial..whater..its no big deal.(at least,to me it's no big deal)
2 people like this
@cnetboss (2481)
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
Inter Racial relationships are very much welcome. It's a matter of personal choice who do we want to have a relationship regardless of race, country, creed or religion.
@scorpius (1793)
• India
26 Dec 06
black and white couple - black and white couple
no i do not thnk taht .i think that everyone has a right to live the way he/she wants to within the ambit of the law.i do not thinnk those things when i see a mixed racee couple.franky where i nam i do not see that much of them but i do come across such couple from time to time.they are quite nice to get to know at least in my experience.there's nothing wrong with them that is not wrong woth other couples. have a nice day!
@lafavorito (2971)
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
I don't see a problem with inter-racial relationships, except when one side of the family is racist. People should based their relationships on love and trust for each other, race and finances will be secondary. There are plenty of children here in our country that have inter-racial parents, they turned out ok, in fact they are often offered a modelling or acting contract.
• India
26 Dec 06
i don find any prob wid race and religion to make a relatnshp... it s abt how much u love ur partner and how compatible u r wid him/her..nothing els
2 people like this
@sonam14 (141)
• India
26 Dec 06
relationships arenot build on the basis of the skin colour..it is jz one thing in this world that keep us all together and that is LOVE and nothing else... i guess when u r in love, the thing that matters the most is ur partner and nothing else matters...and i hate people who try to part the lovers....no skin colour, no facial features,plz forget evrything and jz think of that special bond that u both share... when i see any one in an interracial relationship i dont give a thoud=ght to their skin colour but to the love they share... jz enjoy ur love
@kris55 (853)
• Canada
26 Dec 06
Why do you think all of this? I have a biracial child and his father is very much in his life, where is this general idea coming from?
1 person likes this
• United States
26 Dec 06
Actually, I am happily married for 16 years inter-racially with 3 beautiful boys. It is always a topic that I enjoy discussing because I have been through many trials with my family, neighbors, and community members. I have been asked dumb questions like "do they all have the same dad" or "are you married'. People are amazed and see us as the exception not the rule when they see we are educated and affluent and our children are the main focus of our lives. The assumptions are just amazing and I think that unless people are open about how they feel, their first gut reactions on a subconscious level, this type of stuff will continue. Just like to open discussion that is interesting, thought provoking and illuminating. Thanks for the post...
1 person likes this
@kris55 (853)
• Canada
26 Dec 06
sorry, didnt mean to offend you, I just felt a little pained by the comments myself....I think that if people nowadays are still thinking this way, I dont really hear them expressing it verbally!
1 person likes this
• United States
26 Dec 06
No worries. I actually have first hand knowledge of this. I lived in a white rural area of NY near Niagara Falls. I sold Partylite and I would go into people's homes every night 4-5 nights a week. I got to know many circles of women, families, and friends and unless they knew my family, they felt comfortable in that I was one of them. That is all they needed to feel to open up and speak of their prejudices. I didn't feel people still spoke like that either until I heard if for myself. Secondly, just the other day, my husband was on the phone with a white colleague whom he never met. They were on a 3 way conversation and she made mention of black people from down south. My husband generically responded that he didn't agree with her, and she said "don't get me wrong, I have no "PROBLEM" with black people. She obviously had no idea my husband was black. He responded with "I hope not because I happen to be a black man". The woman surely felt embarrassed and didn't know how to respond except with, "no your not, that isn't funny, don't joke". After my husband got off the phone we processed that. It really is amazing what people think, feel, and will say if they feel comfortable enough. Anyway...just thought I'd share.
1 person likes this
@SViswan (12096)
• India
26 Dec 06
I think nothing of biracial relationships. It's a personal choice and if the couple can see their spouse as an individual, their relationship is going to work. It has nothing to do with the colour of the skin. I don't know how each family is going to take it. My guess is that if the family consists of mature people, they will consider the happiness of the couple and look beyond the colour.
• United States
26 Dec 06
You hit the nail on the head. Mature can also be restated as people of a higher level of consciousness. That is truly what keeps perpetuating hate. And don't confuse consciousness with level of education. They are very different.
1 person likes this
@SViswan (12096)
• India
27 Dec 06
Yes, that's true. I find so many educated people being racists when they should know better. It's about knowing people on another level as individuals rather than the caste,colour or creed. Personally, I am interested in different cultures and the only drawback of inter-whatever marriages is that in due time with intermingling of cultures, people wouldn't know their culture at all and wouldn't be interested.
1 person likes this
• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
26 Apr 07
Yes, it is okay to for white man to marry a black man, and a white woman to marry a white woman... I do not think anything usually... If I see a young couple or older couple.. I just think, I hope they are happy together... because I don't understand relationships to ever get to that level. :) . I have no problem with biracial relationships, and if the children are not the same race as the parents I do not have a problem with this either. I grew up in a multiracial foster home, so I learned how bad that a multiracial or bi racial situation can be at times. I have experienced it myself for Being Irish, and American Indian Mixed... On both sides.... Being called wannabe and other nasty names... I know that love sees beyond race, ethnicity and color... The only thing that a bi racial or multiracial couple should prepare themselves for is how they are going to deal with the pure blooded world, and the racial issues they will face together as a family. I hope that as time goes on these issues for all, world wide will die down.... - DNatureofDTrain
• Philippines
22 May 07
i am lucky to have grown up in the philippines, where racism is no issue at all. until now, i do not understand fully well why others will downgrade those people of different race and color from theirs. filipinos are not exposed to the harshness of racism. this is the reason why when go to other places and we get discriminated, it is a puzzle for most of us. all the while i have thought that most of the poeples of the world is already past racism. then news breaks come about how some filipinos are being disciminated in their places of work or school abroad. this is very disheartening for us.
@Lunnazol (296)
• United States
27 Dec 06
What is wrong with you? Obvioulsy you are white and a racist.
1 person likes this