Serious Advice please

You should discuss with your friend about the problem you facing now, try to understand him/her and try to improve your situation. Egoism also will cause a good friends become enemy, so how you handle the friendship will determine how well you will do in your career.

True friendships last. Your professions may have made competitors out of you but that shouldn't take away the friendship that has been there for so long. I know you are seeking advice from your MyLot friends because you still care for this buddy of yours. You should try and make a move to be friends with that person again. If your friend does not respond to your efforts at reconciliation, then you must accept the fact that as far as he's concerned the friendship just isn't there anymore. And then you move on... Good luck! :)

Friendship will always be there in the heart if you are a true friend. Just talk to him, he will come after you. It is an egoism, so both of you have a egosim, so try putting that away, then get together. If you need a real friend, go over him. Dont make it a delay.

people in college are not the same people as they are in the professional world...a sense of growing up is losing that so called innocence and care free spirit...people change its a fact of life...i think one of you should have been the better person and just let the rivalry go...and everyone weather they want to admit or not has an ego..to some extent

This is a difficult one to decipher. Pride and hurt feelings can almost always destroy a relationship. Another is lack of esteem. He may in his mind feel like your better in the field than he is. Or he may even feel he deserves it more than you. What were his childhood circumstances like? Was college more of a struggle for him? At any rate, it may take some time before he can let go of any pain or resentment he built up towards you. However, know that you have done nothing wrong. Wait awhile and then attempt to reconnect. Hopefully, he will be comfortable in his life and be willing to start over. If not, move on and be proud of the accomplishments you have made and always wish him the very best in his own life.

As your statuses increases, ur tendency of love falls low...it is a result of a status problem/ego problem. Just for one minute think about nothing else in this world. Just throw away all ur positions and money and see him as a friend. You will try to bring up the love and affection u had for ur friend.True love hides but never get destroyed. Once u forego the ego , even stones can be melted with kind souls....GO FOR IT!!!!

You already know the answer. You can't have all apples in one basket, unlesss the basket is too big for all of them. It seems that you and your friend never were real friends. If you were you would still be together. But I have to tell you only this: if you really are ready to do it for your friendship, then go out and find your friend and talk to him/her. It depends upon his/her reaction. You are willing to do something about it, then you have to be honest and be forward. Good Luck!

Just pick up the phone and call him. What's the problem? Why doubt true friendship. Perhaps, he is feeling the same way as you do.

True friendship is something that should be valued and cherished. We should not take our friends for granted which all of us are guilty of doing sometime or other in our lives. i think one should have only healthy competition with friends where you should help each other out and support each other while competitng at the same time. You shouldn't be jealou of each other. or becpme egoistic. i think if you both were really good friends then you and he both might be missing each other though you both are not saying to each other because of egop problems. So this new year make fresh beginning and go and talk him frankly about how you feel. Because it is much better to have truw fried in you life than not have anyone and be stuck with your false ego. Hope your friend will respond postively and your old happy days will return. good luck.

It wonders me how a strong relation can be broken for such silly things.... according to my opinion definitely its egoism. I saw many friends helping each other in such matters. and coming to competition its one own ability. one should not relate professional life to his real life its totally different....... Always one have to compromise in any issue..just think of this once again and why dont you make a compromise with your friend.........

It most likely is possible for you to regain each others friendship, but it will not be easy. Clearly this competitiveness isn't helping in any way at all, so maybe going with your friend for a couple drinks after work or whatever for a bit might get you two back together as friends.

It is sad yous dont speak no more after been true friends for so long.I do think sometimes when we grow we dont see things the same anymore and this causes some a problem between two once close friends.I do think its possible for this friendship to rekindle it self.Try get back intouch talk about the old days with your friend so yous can put the problems thats caused the split behind yous.Good luck

Man.. i stil don understand how this issue came up among u ppl even after u being good frens.. lemme tell u something.. u have not specified, what all things u hav done to him.. is there any mistak u have done.. which might have hurt him ? or has he done anything to u.. if its about competition.. give it up man.. i don think any job is more greater than a good frenship.. if its bout a mistake u might hav done.. jus go an ask for forgivenes.. ther is nothing absolutely nothing wrong in that.. to b frank. i have done this a lot many times.. u feel really light after that.. believe me. losing a fren jus for the sake of a damn job... not recommendable

Well it must be really difficult time to compete against ur best frnd.I see this a s a true case of egoism. But I see u dont suffer from ego so make the first move. Break the ice n go ahead say u can be professional rivals but good frnds also.

You can definitly give it a try, you can try talking to him and explain that you value your friendship more then your competition in your profession, once you make the start i am sure he ill meet you have the way, hope you are succefull again

I had the same problem, i had a friend of 15 years we did everything together go to party's have fun and go and watch the local football team. Even when i meet my girlfriend we were still always together and when my girlfriend had here child he stoped comming around. even when i went to the door for him he would never answer it i miss him as a friend so much but have concluded we will never be friends again. Maybe it is time for you to move on and meet new friends.

yes u can make ur friendship best again there is something between u that differs u but i think ur freinds also donn't want it so just talk with him and say sorry wheather u r right.

who started this cold war i think this is a professional rivalry comes from few misunderstanding between you and your friend..i think you both should make a talk on this issue and clear your minds. if this holds good then you can become good friends again!! everybody wants success but this success should not effect badly on any relation...!!

Yes, i think you can by giving. This christmas time is the good time to giving too. I and my best friend had same problem with you, but we were all willing to giving and forgot what happen in the past, and now we are the best friend for 12years up to now.

ya you can become,just make him to sit and talk to him.