Does marriage change some for the worse...??????

@sahiba77 (178)
India
December 29, 2006 3:37am CST
just one question for all the married people out there,i have seen some people get married and life continues as it was before.their personifies remain intact,their friendship remain intact..marriage makes them happier over all..but i have seen worst things also...anyways my quetion is did your mind become so clouded with love for your spouse that you became a different persond also gave up ur hopes, dreams,and friends..?or did u learn to balance everything out in the end..?and one more thing what is up with married men constantly have to ask their wivespermission to do something
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47 responses
• United States
29 Dec 06
Getting married is all about what you and your mate make of it. It can be the best gift in the world and you can be happy forever minus the ups and downs of life but then it can be just horrible I feel it's all about what a person makes of it.
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• India
29 Dec 06
marriage is very critical matter. u should know the person u r going to marry, and in marriage adjustment has to done by both parteners. both should understand their responsibilities. if ever 1 partner is not ready 4 adjustment, than marriage become a hell.
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@Lunnazol (296)
• United States
29 Dec 06
In my experience, marriage has been the best thing. My husband and I are even closer, happier and we have become the best of friends. Our relationship just grows stronger and stronger each day. My husband and I have not given up our dreams. We are both working together towards those dreams and we support each other unconditionally. Our elationship was always pretty much balanced, but now it's just getting better. About married people having to ask for permission, it's not that... It's just that when you are in a commited relationship such as a marriage, you become a team and communications is very important to maintain a healthy relationship. If you are going to go out, you need to make sure this will not upset your spouse, if it doesn, then you can easily come to terms and find a happy medium. I am totally for "asking permission in that sense. Now when that becomes unhealthy and abusive, then that's a different story. But overall, there is nothing wrong with asking your spouse if they are ok with you doing something that will not involve the other person.
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• Australia
29 Dec 06
Yes i think a r/ship does change in a wonderful & exciting way.Im getting masrried in march 07.I think alot has to do with mustual love & respect for one another, which is why a husband will ask before going out. I wish you the best of luck!!!
@anne_143god (5390)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
Yes I guess it depends on whom you are being with. Sometimes you can get some of the attitude of your partner and vice versa. Yes somtimes you have to give up something for the marriage sake.
• India
30 Dec 06
yes you are right
@rahula29 (22)
• India
29 Dec 06
yes marriage does change ppl....i have seen personalities of ppl go through a sea saw change.......thou m not married......n my personality is still intact...lol!!!!!!!!!
@lulylove (1561)
• Brazil
29 Dec 06
I think as you and I believe that the people must adapt the changes of the other, therefore is thus that a good relationship functions. You can learn with its friend.
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@pbskipper (365)
• India
30 Dec 06
yes I agree
@bhu143 (525)
• India
30 Dec 06
the fact is nobody loves the heart if u love the heart of the girl or boy then u will be truthfull to them so that ur friends will be there friends try to love as big as the world so u will enjoy the life
• India
30 Dec 06
yes it certainly does . mostly bcos people still end up in marriages cos of not havin the right partners. otherwise the pent up frustration cos of work and inlaws get the better of the person
• India
30 Dec 06
Yes.. There are more worst things in marriage..Your husband tries to rule on you but when it doesn't happens since that fight/arguments starts... Yes you have to forget your fun time, freedom, etc.. as when you get married you get loads of responsibility, you should start thinking/ care for everybody in the house beside yourself... You dun get time to think of you... As per my experience... I feel being single is far better then marriage...Marriage brings troubles, tensions, tears only nothing else... Sorry to say all this.. but had to as whomever married couple I asked about it.. noone is happy with his/her life..
@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
30 Dec 06
You've asked a lot of questions in this post. In a marriage, what people forget, is that both symbolically and literally, the two people become one... so both people are going to have to sacrifice a part of themselves, and then work and creating a new person (the relationship). We must simply learn that happiness comes from within, and truly any two people who want it to work can make it work. As for you last question. Sometimes people walk all over their spouse. I know some men who treat their wives like garbage and vice versa. But why do married men ask their wives permission... Because they don't want to be in the doghouse.
• Pakistan
30 Dec 06
marriage is not just for satisfying our physical needs. after marriage a man and woman becomes complete. this line has answer of ur long question. hope so u will get my point.
@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 06
thats a nice question..who said that wives are giving up all their ambitions?? i dont know with the others but on my opinion marriage is a partnerships and has to balanced in everything..on husbands asking permission..its true husbands should ask permission likewise with wives...coz its a sign of respect to one another..and when you get married it means your committed to each other and you become one not 2..
@deepakg4 (897)
• India
30 Dec 06
marriage is nice feeling... so donot sent this topics
• India
30 Dec 06
Marriage is something which brings a lot of changes... some for better and some might not be for that good! Much of it depends on the kind of relationship you share with your partner... and getting a partner with whom you share good compatibility is a lottery! :)
• India
30 Dec 06
frankly speaking marriage for me is lot of responsibility. intially its love....but it doesn't take long to turn everything hatred as time changes everything. once responsibility increases worsens ur nature making u irritative in all sence. why can't one stay without marriage?
• India
30 Dec 06
marrages give good stability and maturity to minds of people and can share their happiness and sadness with their life partner so that they can get happy moments if it is happy and can be solved. According to me when anyone marries other they both should have mutual understanding and that can change the wrose in the life of anyone. they should never quarel howmuch difficult they get and try to solve it with their intelligence. (THE ABOVE STATEMENTS ARE AS PER MY VIEW)
• India
30 Dec 06
hmmmmmmm.....change is a major part of life...so definatley there will be changes..the most important part is how you take them and handle them to continue your life cycle the way it was running before marriage....!
@shyam4uall (1003)
• India
30 Dec 06
I think when you are married ,you are not the person as before.before marriage you have very few responsibilities on your shoulder and you lived more for yourself,but after marriage you are a whole new person with lots of responsibilities and live not for yourself but for others.And when you can't manage all this and feeds up with your life then the happy marriage can have a bitter ending.
@noor43 (14)
• India
30 Dec 06
Dear Sahiba77 life goes on as usual even after marriage but with a difference, you become mature and understanding twards your spouse as time goes by. You also learn to love your spouse with greater deapth and understanding over a period of time. Boredom may creap in sometimes but by and large life after marriage is worth living and enjoying. Marriage for many is a very very happy experience, go ahead and enjoy it. Exrteamly rearly marriages do fail but most marriages are successful that is why the institution of marriage is surviving. To answer your question, never let your mind get clouded . It happens only with weak personalities who get subdued easily. Always have clearity of thought and action. respect your individuality and this way you can maintain your dignity in marriage or otherwise. Keep your hopes and dreams alive and try to realize them and never get your thought process get diluted by anyone including your spouse. Create a balance between your reasons and emotions and remember, love should always be your guiding force. All the best.