would you keep her/him?

@ozkid92 (549)
United States
December 31, 2006 10:34am CST
alright picture this: your partner who you have been with for 3 months, and who you love dearly, has decided they like another person. you're at a party and you go to the bathroom. when you come out, your best friend tells you that your partner was seen holding this other person's hand, with their arm around them. what do you do?: a.forget about it and keep them b.confront them and figure it out from there c.get rid of them as soon as possible also, if you did break up with them, would you take them back at a later time? would you forgive them?
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@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I'd confront them, and then dump them.. they are not worth your time.. if they want to sneak behind your back and do that kinda stuff your better off dropping him and moving to the next one.. and no u shouldnt take them back because they are not worth it..
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@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
1 Jan 07
That is true. Also, three months and you love them dearly? Three months in my opinion is not nearly enough time to know if you love or to know if this person is really the one you are meant to be with. Confront, dump, move on....
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• India
1 Jan 07
good decision royrules!
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@joenny19 (59)
• Philippines
1 Jan 07
The better you do is to forget about him.. it's not your lost he is.. when he decided to come back try to forgive people said love sweetest the second time around...
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• India
1 Jan 07
Please think again! If you forgive once, the next time you will see him/her with another friend when you come out from a party! I think it is wise to get rid of this!!
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
31 Dec 06
You have to confront them..and find out why they would do that? It sounds like there are problems there...and if they want to be with someone else then they need to be honest and tell you that. No..you don't take them back....if you break up...
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• India
1 Jan 07
Absolutely right!! I am with you for this reply!! The right thing to do when you feel someone is not comfortable with you is to set them free!!
@cuddiluk (1523)
• Philippines
1 Jan 07
confront - knowing first before reacting
Confront and figure it out. Know everything first politely before you react impulsively.
@armywifey (883)
• United States
1 Jan 07
I think you should confront them and see what their reply is. If they are truly interested in this other person it is time for you to move on with your life and let them go. You deserve better than that.
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@quarks (180)
• Ukraine
1 Jan 07
my answer would be option B
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@runsgame (2031)
• India
1 Jan 07
a is to be adopted in this situation . because , there is nothing serious occured by just putting nads with tier arm around ., since this is also allowed and being done on day to day life by many in advanced ? countries. If u would like to look into something serious way better forgive them and talk with then in alone to get a finest solution
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• Philippines
1 Jan 07
That happenned to me before when we were in restaurant. What i did was, i walk out ! I didnt confront them, no single word came out in my mouth, i juts walk out. I never talk to my boyfriend after that, he dont deserves my love for him. Theres lot of man whos sincere enough and dont cheat on me, Hes a looser!
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
I confront and get rid of them. If i did break up and he like to win me back later, I will forgive him but not accept him. I'll rather choose to move on and have another life with someone else who is deserving.
@Jlowe110 (313)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I would just ignore it. See what happens later, it wold probably be because they are just friends. But if I saw them making out or anything like that, then id be angry.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
2 Jan 07
If it was true that they were holding hands ith someone I'd break up with them unless they were really apologetic, because that's not okay in my book. So I'm a C girl!
@imakella (665)
• United States
1 Jan 07
i would not keep her if wd love her.. but i'll do the justice.
• United States
1 Jan 07
If your partner is interested in someone else, than obviously he is not serious about his relationship with you. You are better off dumping him now before you let this go on any further. The longer you stay with him the more you are going to get hurt.
• Canada
1 Jan 07
The kid who posted this is only 14 years old according to his profile.
• India
1 Jan 07
I'll confront my partner, but without pouncing on him. Coz i think to err is human. Also it will be wrong to jump on the conclusion that my partner is cheating on me. I'll find out what actually is happening from sources more than one. If my partner indeed is cheating i'll let him go and infact make it easy for him. Coz i belive love is true and mine only when it comes back to me.
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• Philippines
1 Jan 07
i will confront them and tell them what they did is wrong..then i will break up with my boyfriend because he is not worthy of my love and time..if he decided to come back to me i will not accept him again because i can't trust him again
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@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
1 Jan 07
Gosh my dear, you are 14 years old according to your profile. At your age you should enjoy the teenage years without partners and serious commitment.
• United States
1 Jan 07
Choose C with a capital, get rid of the loser if he is doing this after 3 months of dating and does not care what you think then what is he going to be doing after 3 years of dating, you don't need what this guy has .. move on!!
@coolcatzz (1587)
• Canada
1 Jan 07
get rid of them as soon as possible. this shows no respect for you so don't waste your time.
@lucsct (261)
• United States
1 Jan 07
I would definitely confront them. Three months is not a very long time, so if he/she is already thinking of someone else.. that's not a good sign!
• India
1 Jan 07
WEll i'd say Confront them n then decide on further.....if u say that u dearly love em...then i am sure u have trust in em....u mit not know wat the real deal is with the other person....he could have jus confrnted his true feelings to the other person n then mit have sd that he is in a relationship n loves u more...maybe he was gettin over his liking that he had...its a natural human tendency.....but offcourse if u find out that there is something which aint supposed to b there ....dump plz.....as for the person to come in ur life later i'd say do not allow of such a person....the scenario is diffrent if he confesses to u wat his true feeling r and then goes ahead with all this new relation.
@zekure (30)
• Pakistan
1 Jan 07
hmmmmmm les c i guess de best thin to do wud b r option b. confront em n den figure out frm dere wht shd b done!!!