Strong feelings

India
January 1, 2007 5:32am CST
When my son was born 3 months ago... i was surprised with the strong feelings i was having.. i was wondering if these strong feelings of possesiveness, protectiveness and love remain as strong when he grows up or do they change?
4 responses
@patgalca (13962)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Jan 07
At Christmas my niece came up from the States with her new baby. There were about 25 people at the house and that child was passed around like a football. I was amazed at how calm my niece was. I don't think I would have liked it. I am sure she realized, though, that her being far away none of us had ever seen the baby and don't know when we will see her again. But I was actually thankful there were not a whole lot of people around when my girls were babies. I couldn't handle seeing them being passed around. Yes, I was possessive and protective and fell in love with my girls. And I still feel that way. Someone else said the possessiveness goes away. I think perhaps to an extent. But I know that if my marriage were to end, those children are MY children. I bore them in my womb. No one can take that away from me. My girls are 10 and 13 and yes they go on sleepovers and such, but I am protective about when they go to a new friend's house overnight. I don't know the family and I get a little nervous. There are too many weirdos out there and they could be living right next door. If you are normal, you will always feel this way for your child.
• India
20 Jan 07
Thanks for sharing ur experience... thats helps
• United States
19 Jan 07
WELL I THINK THEY CHANGE..I HAVE A 3YR OLD SON AND A 1YR OLD DAUGHTER...I LEARNED TO LET GO AND LET MY SON LEARN THINGS ON HIS OWN AND ENJOY LIFE. MY DAUGHTER ON THE OTHER HAND I STILL HOLD HER CLOSE IM NOT READY FOR HER TO GO PLACE LIKE I LET MY SON....LIKE A RELITIVES HOUSE OVERNIGHT, FRIENDS HOUSE, NIGHBORS HOUSE TO PLAY. I THINK THAT THE POSSEIVENESS FADES BUT THE POTECTION AND LOVE WILL ALWAY REMAIN THERE. THEY GOTTA EXPLORE TO LEARN.
• India
19 Jan 07
thanks.. will keep that in mind
@sproutz (260)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
It remains. He is your child, no bond is greater.
• India
19 Jan 07
love will remain as strong for ever for ur child...